Please help me out, fellow Personality Cafe members. I have been trying to type my parents for a while now, without success. I have an idea about what my dad's type is, but am completely confused about my mom's type. I would like to know their types so that I can read up more about them and how their minds may work. It should help me to get a better understanding of them. Their marriage has always been a mess and so their personality traits may reflect their types under stress and/or some sort of psychiatric condition. I really wonder sometimes... Anyway, I appreciate any input and suggestions. It will all be helpful.
My Mom
- Has a small group of friends that she is close with.
- Can be quite outgoing and seeks a lot of time to spend with friends, as a way to escape the stress in her life.
- Can be loud and somewhat obnoxious when with friends.
- Doesn't have a problem talking to new people as long as she doesn't feel threatened by them.
- Quite easy to get to know, unless she doesn't like you.
- Very private and doesn't share innermost feelings with anyone.
- Very reflective and tends to retreat to her own personal space if she is feeling overwhelmed.
- Has many ideas of self-improvement but rarely implements them.
- Prefers to plan to make sure that she is being efficient with her time.
- Feels trapped when too many of the areas of her life are pre-planned and likes to have room for a lot of spontaneity. (ie. doesn't make a budget, buys things on a whim, does things whenever she feels like it.)
- Gets involved in too many things and takes on too many responsibilities.
- Is a very hard working and is willing to sacrifice her own needs if she feels it's for a good cause.
- Gets burnt out and frustrated when she realizes that she can't do everything but continues to try anyway.
- Lives in the moment rather than for the future.
- Has trouble sticking with one thing for too long and loses interest. She moves on to something else.
- Has her own organizational system that makes no sense to anyone else (ie. her space can look like a pile, but she usually doesn't have too much trouble finding what she needs.)
- Likes variety and hates having to do the same thing the same way.
- Relies on both her intuition and experience to make decisions.
- Tends to have "bad feelings" and impressions about other people.
- Is very imaginative and has a wacky and cynical sense of humour.
- Likes to inject humour into everyday matters, which is sometimes inappropriate.
- Very practical and if she finds a physical need, she will provide for it. (ie. treats people with food and small gifts, even when it isn't a special occasion.)
- If she really likes or loves someone, she will try to do everything she can to make sure that person is happy and has their needs met, even to the point of exhausting herself.
- Values individuality and creativity.
- Has very high, unrealistic standards for herself and others.
- Will put herself in the leadership role if she believes that others aren't doing the job or that the job isn't being done well enough.
- Feels defined by what she does and the roles she plays (ie. mother, career, deeds she does.)
- Prone to blaming herself for things that have gone wrong, whether realistic or not.
- Her nurturing nature overwhelms other people, as she tends to baby others and insist on doing everything for them.
- Can't seem to find much fault within herself and denies having any issues.
- When her faults or mistakes are coming to light, she puts the blame on someone else.
- Very sensitive and takes any sort of criticism as a personal attack and will explode into rage if she thinks that someone is criticizing her.
- Feels the need to punish others if they don't agree with her views. (ie. she will push them out of her life or treat them badly.)
- Insists on getting her way and will manipulate others until she gets her way. (ie. through crying, criticism, and lying.)
- Likes control and tends to get power through aggression towards others.
- Fears abandonment and that her loved ones will leave, but at the same time, pushes people away.
- Will hold grudges forever and has trouble letting go.
- Very bitter and resentful towards family members.
- Tends to feel like she has been wronged by other family members.
- Is loyal up to the point when someone wrongs her. Then she can't look past that.
- Can be quite mean and rude to people behind their back.
- Tends to make fun of petty things about people to make herself feel better (mood and in general, about herself).
- Will raise her voice if she feels she is being mistreated or is very annoyed with someone.
- Has a bad temper and is prone to anger and resentment.
- Prone to depression and moodiness and acts very irrational when she is stressed out.
- Feels hurt, ashamed and envious when she doesn't measure up to everyone else's performances and this often leads to spite.
- Has a strong sense of justice.
- Would rather find her own path than follow a particular religion and is apathetic towards politics.
- Not interested in fanciful theories (ie. different takes on the meaning of life, deep philosophy, etc.)
- Has strong interests in the paranormal, occult, crime, psychiatric profiles of criminals, and interior design.
- Prefers people and things over ideas and principles.
- Has difficulty understanding other people's points of view if they differ too much from her own.
- She doesn't seem to care whether her words are offensive to others.
- Very sensitive
- Cares deeply for animals and values them more than people, in general.
My Dad
- Very outgoing and can strike up conversation and keep it going with just about anyone.
- Enjoys being around people and gets all of his energy from interacting with others.
- Has a large variety of acquaintances and friends.
- Can visit a friend who he hasn't seen in 10 years and talk to them like no time had passed.
- Prefers not to have too much time alone to dwell in his thoughts. He can be very negative and being alone is probably very draining for him.
- He usually keeps his emotions to himself (except for negative ones) and rarely expresses his inner feelings.
- Can be quite charming.
- Prefers to do things as he feels like it and doesn't like schedules.
- Is not good with money.
- Doesn't like to have too many responsibilities and does not seek them out.
- Lives in the moment rather than for the future.
- Relies strongly on experience to make decisions.
- Thrill seeking and likes gambling
- Likes theories as long as they are practical
- Becomes disinterested in or discouraged in things easily.
- Does not care if his words are offensive to others. He will say what he thinks, with very few exceptions.
- Can be sensitive when it comes to certain things (ie. others putting blame on him, unfairness towards him, personal judgment.)
- Has a strong sense of justice.
- Will fight for the people he loves.
- Is loyal up to the point when someone wrongs him. Then he can't look past that.
- Likes cars, electronics, computers, technology, science fiction and some paranormal things.
- Very skeptical towards and has strong opinions about religion and politics.
- Values individuality and logical thinking.
- Feels defined by the people he knows and his possessions
- Is often dissatisfied with many areas of his life but is not willing to work to improve them because it is too much work and doubts that any real change is possible or would come about.
- Becomes stressed out and angry when he feels limited and controlled.
- Realizes that things aren't good for him and even with the suggestions of others, he does them anyway.
- Wallows in self-pity and hates criticism because it forces him to examine himself.
- Fears being unappreciated and unimportant.
- Will hold grudges forever and has trouble letting go.
- Very bitter and resentful towards family members.
- Tends to feel like she has been wronged by other family members.
- When his faults or mistakes are coming to light, he hides.
- Prone to depression and moodiness and acts aloof and runs off to be with friends when under stress.
What do you think?
My Mom
- Has a small group of friends that she is close with.
- Can be quite outgoing and seeks a lot of time to spend with friends, as a way to escape the stress in her life.
- Can be loud and somewhat obnoxious when with friends.
- Doesn't have a problem talking to new people as long as she doesn't feel threatened by them.
- Quite easy to get to know, unless she doesn't like you.
- Very private and doesn't share innermost feelings with anyone.
- Very reflective and tends to retreat to her own personal space if she is feeling overwhelmed.
- Has many ideas of self-improvement but rarely implements them.
- Prefers to plan to make sure that she is being efficient with her time.
- Feels trapped when too many of the areas of her life are pre-planned and likes to have room for a lot of spontaneity. (ie. doesn't make a budget, buys things on a whim, does things whenever she feels like it.)
- Gets involved in too many things and takes on too many responsibilities.
- Is a very hard working and is willing to sacrifice her own needs if she feels it's for a good cause.
- Gets burnt out and frustrated when she realizes that she can't do everything but continues to try anyway.
- Lives in the moment rather than for the future.
- Has trouble sticking with one thing for too long and loses interest. She moves on to something else.
- Has her own organizational system that makes no sense to anyone else (ie. her space can look like a pile, but she usually doesn't have too much trouble finding what she needs.)
- Likes variety and hates having to do the same thing the same way.
- Relies on both her intuition and experience to make decisions.
- Tends to have "bad feelings" and impressions about other people.
- Is very imaginative and has a wacky and cynical sense of humour.
- Likes to inject humour into everyday matters, which is sometimes inappropriate.
- Very practical and if she finds a physical need, she will provide for it. (ie. treats people with food and small gifts, even when it isn't a special occasion.)
- If she really likes or loves someone, she will try to do everything she can to make sure that person is happy and has their needs met, even to the point of exhausting herself.
- Values individuality and creativity.
- Has very high, unrealistic standards for herself and others.
- Will put herself in the leadership role if she believes that others aren't doing the job or that the job isn't being done well enough.
- Feels defined by what she does and the roles she plays (ie. mother, career, deeds she does.)
- Prone to blaming herself for things that have gone wrong, whether realistic or not.
- Her nurturing nature overwhelms other people, as she tends to baby others and insist on doing everything for them.
- Can't seem to find much fault within herself and denies having any issues.
- When her faults or mistakes are coming to light, she puts the blame on someone else.
- Very sensitive and takes any sort of criticism as a personal attack and will explode into rage if she thinks that someone is criticizing her.
- Feels the need to punish others if they don't agree with her views. (ie. she will push them out of her life or treat them badly.)
- Insists on getting her way and will manipulate others until she gets her way. (ie. through crying, criticism, and lying.)
- Likes control and tends to get power through aggression towards others.
- Fears abandonment and that her loved ones will leave, but at the same time, pushes people away.
- Will hold grudges forever and has trouble letting go.
- Very bitter and resentful towards family members.
- Tends to feel like she has been wronged by other family members.
- Is loyal up to the point when someone wrongs her. Then she can't look past that.
- Can be quite mean and rude to people behind their back.
- Tends to make fun of petty things about people to make herself feel better (mood and in general, about herself).
- Will raise her voice if she feels she is being mistreated or is very annoyed with someone.
- Has a bad temper and is prone to anger and resentment.
- Prone to depression and moodiness and acts very irrational when she is stressed out.
- Feels hurt, ashamed and envious when she doesn't measure up to everyone else's performances and this often leads to spite.
- Has a strong sense of justice.
- Would rather find her own path than follow a particular religion and is apathetic towards politics.
- Not interested in fanciful theories (ie. different takes on the meaning of life, deep philosophy, etc.)
- Has strong interests in the paranormal, occult, crime, psychiatric profiles of criminals, and interior design.
- Prefers people and things over ideas and principles.
- Has difficulty understanding other people's points of view if they differ too much from her own.
- She doesn't seem to care whether her words are offensive to others.
- Very sensitive
- Cares deeply for animals and values them more than people, in general.
My Dad
- Very outgoing and can strike up conversation and keep it going with just about anyone.
- Enjoys being around people and gets all of his energy from interacting with others.
- Has a large variety of acquaintances and friends.
- Can visit a friend who he hasn't seen in 10 years and talk to them like no time had passed.
- Prefers not to have too much time alone to dwell in his thoughts. He can be very negative and being alone is probably very draining for him.
- He usually keeps his emotions to himself (except for negative ones) and rarely expresses his inner feelings.
- Can be quite charming.
- Prefers to do things as he feels like it and doesn't like schedules.
- Is not good with money.
- Doesn't like to have too many responsibilities and does not seek them out.
- Lives in the moment rather than for the future.
- Relies strongly on experience to make decisions.
- Thrill seeking and likes gambling
- Likes theories as long as they are practical
- Becomes disinterested in or discouraged in things easily.
- Does not care if his words are offensive to others. He will say what he thinks, with very few exceptions.
- Can be sensitive when it comes to certain things (ie. others putting blame on him, unfairness towards him, personal judgment.)
- Has a strong sense of justice.
- Will fight for the people he loves.
- Is loyal up to the point when someone wrongs him. Then he can't look past that.
- Likes cars, electronics, computers, technology, science fiction and some paranormal things.
- Very skeptical towards and has strong opinions about religion and politics.
- Values individuality and logical thinking.
- Feels defined by the people he knows and his possessions
- Is often dissatisfied with many areas of his life but is not willing to work to improve them because it is too much work and doubts that any real change is possible or would come about.
- Becomes stressed out and angry when he feels limited and controlled.
- Realizes that things aren't good for him and even with the suggestions of others, he does them anyway.
- Wallows in self-pity and hates criticism because it forces him to examine himself.
- Fears being unappreciated and unimportant.
- Will hold grudges forever and has trouble letting go.
- Very bitter and resentful towards family members.
- Tends to feel like she has been wronged by other family members.
- When his faults or mistakes are coming to light, he hides.
- Prone to depression and moodiness and acts aloof and runs off to be with friends when under stress.
What do you think?
