.................................................... I'm black.....

 

I Just died [with laughter] over here. That's what my friend would say...

 

It's a bit of a contradiction. People who are flawed are much more interesting to me than perfection. I don't seek perfection in others, although i can be hard on myself if i fail at things i would overlook in someone else.

 

Lolz, @The King Of Dreams you consider yourself a perfectionist?

Do people notice this about you if you don't tell them?

Do you consider it a bad thing?

 

Perfectionist? NOPE.
A bad thing?
I think it's unrealistic to think that everything you do should be perfect. Perfection lies in the effort shown, not the results developed. If you give it your all, that's perfect.

 

Omg, it's a thread about meeeeeee *narcissism*

I set very high standards for myself and even others at times, though I am usually much more lax on others than I am on myself. I have recently found a better balance and am giving myself some more room to breathe. I put too much pressure on myself to be perfect sometimes. I really do.

 

Hmm, i guess I should be asking which ENFP's are not perfectionist?

Or maybe it has something to do with online forums..

 

I'm not a perfectionist, but yes, I can become when I'm a given a responsibility or a job. I'm pretty much clumsy, but my Si keeps me mentally in this world. Like for example, when I'm doing something, suppose wearing my make up, I need that to be perfect. Not a bit more here nor a bit more there. It needs to be balanced. Yeah, I'm conceited and to some extent narcissistic too. But I know, that I'm not at all flawless and I can never be.

 

Yes, I'm a perfectionist with a lot of things...for instance, when I clean, I want the counters clear with only the necessities out. When I paint the walls in my house, I want it perfect...so I do the trim by hand with a teeny tiny brush.

I don't necessarily feel the need to be perfect myself, and I don't expect personal perfection from others, but I do want perfection with the environment around me. At the same time, I despise cleaning, so my awesome organization and categorizing usually gets out if order frequently. This drives me crazy, but I can't seem to bring myself to reorganize until I can't take it anymore. If I were rich, it would be worth every penny to me to have my house immaculate and perfectly organized MY way without having to lift a finger...I should've been born a Princess, le sigh.

 

I really can be especially when nervous. but i will never go out my way to achieve perfection I would rather admire it.

For me:

laziness > perfection

 

I'm with Ackbar and KingofDreams. Perfectionist isn't really part of my vocabulary in regards to like...house cleaning, dishes, etc...

I'm thinking about it though, and there are a couple things I could say I was a perfectionist with. One was Trumpet playing, the other verbal communication.

Both are things I consider myself to be good at and have pride in. Both are things I care deeply about and can be snooty/snarky with, especially when the nuances that come easily to me don't seem to come to others. When I fail with them, I take it very personally and like its an affront to my core self. Sounds like a perfectionist attitude?

Anyways, I would guess a lot of ENFP's are indeed perfectionist...just not the traditional kind.

 

I used to be a lot more of a perfectionist when I was younger. Now, I'm superrrr laidback.

I took myself way too seriously back then and was very hard on myself if I didn't perform to my ridiculously high expectations. I used to spend hours on my homework to make it look PERFECT for my teachers to show as examples to the class. If my notes got cluttered, I would re-write it.. Like completely re-write every single page into a new book. Ugh.

It actually limited my character a lot and took me a long time to get over that mindset. Especially the OCD notes part, I just realized it was so stupid to be so OCD and perfectionist of something so silly and minute.

I learned not to take myself too seriously and learned to like myself despite any mistakes or imperfections I'd make. I needed to learn that people wouldn't care about things as much as I would. Why spend hours on something when people will usually take a glance at it? That ended up taking a lot of stress off of me, and I learned to be more efficient by doing what was expected rather than going too far above and beyond (aka overriding those expectations with my expectations).

Like @Enfpleasantly, I never clean... I hate it. xD I only ever clean if it drives me nuts, but I do love things to be organized in some sort of systematic way, if it's not too tedious. :]

 

I'm only a perfectionist about things that don't matter: essay in english clas? Good enough is fine!
Editing my character on a vidoe game? I prolly spend more time doing that than playing half the time.

 

Nobody has ever accused me of being an perfectionist.

I do some strange things, though. Like I made my bed every day and don't go to bed until all the dishes are done. Those are just habits, though.

I also wish I could hire someone to keep my house spotless. I would rather have a spotless house than a dirty house but that is not reality.

 

I just laughed out loud at the thought of someone referring to me as a perfectionist...

 

I'm a perfectionist with what is close to my heart...this things that I put 90-100% of my effort into, which are few and far between. My art projects, a book I'm writing, my makeup for a night out or a cake I am decorating for a friends birthday. My standards are high for tasks that shouldn't require as much effort or thought for practically minded people lol. My waves of inspiration determine what gets the perfectionist treatment. With school I am a bit sloppy doing just enough to accomplish my goals unless I want to impress a particular professor. A 91 has always been a high enough A for me.

 

I'm normally fairly laid back, except for the hyperactive foot tapping and head bobbing.. But there is definitely one area where I'm a perfectionist..
Whenever I come up with a brilliant idea, I think about it.. Tell a million people about.. Refine it.. Refine it again.. Tell those people again.. Refine it again.. And then sit in the satisfaction of my brilliance! And then MAYBE think about when I'll do the project... Later!

 

I can be pretty laid back about a few things, but when it comes to being competent or doing something the "right" way, I turn into a perfectionist. For example, I hate when someone does a task half assed. Either do it right, or don't do it.


Oh, and don't give me power or control over other people. I become very controlling. Te kicks into overdrive and I behave more like an ESTJ. Everything has to be done a certain way (read: my way) because when I have power, I like to be competent so I will learn everything I need to know about a task and decide on what is/isn't important to go from there. I also don't explain things to people. So if I tell you to do X, I'm not going to tell you why. Why? Because to me its apparent and explaining it wastes time so if you can't make the connections on your own you're just wasting my time and stopping for a long winded explanation is going ot piss me off and turn into more of a nazi. Im not personable, playful, nor do I joke around when Im in control. I take it very serious.

 

My ENFP best childhood friend and I are usually easy going, but our Hebrew school art projects always got ridiculous.

For whatever reason they always needed to be perfect, down to the last detail. It amused the teachers to no end to see us so serious (a rarity) over something seen as so trivial.

It comes out still whenever I'm working on something creative - and my inability to create perfection is what hinders production so much - but otherwise I'm far more relaxed now.

 

I am kind of a perfectionist... you probably wouldn't guess it by looking at me, I never iron my clothes, I don't follow a regular routine etc...

I always have to be on time. I hate being late for movies, or other things with a set time.

For me, when I set goals, or want to do something, its all or nothing. I think the goals I set for myself are too hard. Its like if I'm dieting, and I go one calorie over, I'm likely to give up. Pathetic.

 

I can be very perfectionistic at times, but that's mainly when I'm being watched or counted on...which is why I hate being watched or counted on.

 

Confession.

I am a perfectionist with others, just not myself. I have too much high expectations of others.

But if its about myself then, no im not strict with myself in terms of meeting goals and such things.

Infact im useless with that kind of stuff, i leave it till last minute. However i guess i have alot of the negatives of perfectionism such as having doubts and concerns over mistakes and feeling pressure from others to be perfect since i am defensive toward criticism.

I am infact a negative perfectionist.

 

I'm quite sure I'm a perfectionist... in terms of over analyzing decisions. I was also a perfectionist in terms of academics. In terms of my room, kitchen, appearance, car? No...not at all. If it is something that is going to have my name on it and I am the sole creator and being judged on it in some fashion, I am perfectionist about it. If I am in group work, I am generally not perfectionist though.

 

I am a perfectionist when im working on my music or art and other endevours.. But when it comes to cleaning my house or trying to fit my tent neatly back in its bag then that would be a huge noooo..

 

I'm a perfectionist. It sucks, I sometimes feel like I'm not good enough, so I try to over-compensate by trying to do everything to perfection. I also set a lot of super high goals for myself....

It also leads me to procrastinate a lot, because I am scared of being judged negatively by others,
I'm always like "I sound too drunk, I'll call her tomorrow", "I'm hungover, I'll call her tomorrow", "I'm not in a happy mood, I'll call her when I'm more cheerful" "It's not a good time, She is probably cooking dinner or something, I'll call her tomorrow at a better time", and before you know it, 1 or 2 weeks has gone by

When I work on music I'm constantly fixing it trying to make it better, but it's never good enough, and it never gets finished...

At work I would be super neat and organized, I'm usually more efficient and hardworking than everyone else.
But at home, I'm usually lazy and my bedroom would be a mess
I guess it's because no one is really watching me or judging me when I am at home

It's not really a low self-esteem thing, It's more like performance anxiety.
I guess my self-worth is tied together with my performance...

Lately I've been looking for books on self-acceptance, etc, so I could procrastinate less

 

I'm a SUPER perfectionist. Sometimes I have trouble starting things because I worry I won't be able to do it "just right".

It runs in my family very very strongly though, so I think it has more to do with that than my type.

 

I'm testing something and kissing my perfectionist Ti goodbye for a bit.
I find myself completely burned out.. Trying to find the perfect place to live, with the perfect climate and perfect whatever.
Trying to figure out the perfect pedalboard for my guitar, trying to make perfect, technically sound songs.
I am completely uncertain how my personality may change in this test, but I need a vacation from what I've become, if I ever what to save the person I once was.
My Ne-Ti combination has betrayed me, giving me extreme dissatisfaction with any unsolvable problem, extreme dissatisfaction with anything imperfect, a paranoia that the future will not progress according to one of the hundreds of realities I've simulated in my mind.
It's time for me to relax, enjoy not knowing- Not HAVING to know what my future will have.
Too long I've been far too focused and scrambled on finding financial security, under the premise that when I find it, I will be able to relax. With an uncertain economy, almost nobody has true financial security, and with such paranoia, it's entirely possible I would never find relaxation, because the grass is always greener on the other side.
I entered my musical life as a 7 year old in complete entrancement by the joy of figuring out all of the songs from Legend of Zelda:Ocarina of Time by ear. I've spent 12 years as a musician, playing an array of instruments, adding a new one every opportunity I could, constantly trying to one up my previous self.
While I support improvement, I've found the following idea to fit how I feel.
Enjoy imperfection, the voracious pursuit of perfection will only breed contempt and eternal dissatisfaction due to an unsatisfied idealism.

I was once a voracious music listener.
The more instruments I picked up, the more music theory I learned, the more songs I produced from the ground up- The less I found myself able to listen to music. I have been deadening myself to music, smothering the life I once had for it.
I need to take a step back, an indefinite hiatus from it, so I can enjoy imperfect music once more.
Instruments dropped, I will use my voice for now.. Singing is one of the few joys that has stayed with me my whole life.
Perhaps this is the end of an era of my life, it is also the beginning of a very uncertain future.

 

I was an insane perfectionist when I was little. My parents took be out of ballet classes for a while when I was like four because I was too hard on myself about it all and it was unhealthy. It ebbed and faded away for me by late middle school. I like to do my best, and I certainly work hard to do things well, but imperfect is okay for me now. I don't know that perfectionism was ever really part of my personality; I think it was something I took on from my mom when I was little, until I was old enough to realize that wasn't me, and it wasn't something I wanted to be part of my life.

My mother is a perfectionist to an absurd degree. She works slowly and methodically and will start over and start over until she gets it exactly right. She's gotten a lot better at tolerating all of the nonsense imperfection her kids create, but when I was little she used to 'fix' my projects for school and things while I was sleeping. Like, I'd make a poster - thinking I was doing an awesome job (and I was, for a ten year-old) - and then the next morning I'd wake up and my mom would have obviously straightened everything I'd glued on, redone lettering, in some cases even added things...I love my mom so much, and she didn't mean any harm, but it always felt so shitty to see that she hadn't thought what I'd made had been good enough to turn in without her help. Thus, the perfectionist drive perpetuated in me, it was always: next time it will be so good she'll be so impressed and won't change anything or suggest anything.

In 8th grade I got a B for the first time (B+) and it felt like fucking freedom.