I've heard from a number of members on the forum that they believe I'm INFP. Yeah, you've probably seen me post in the ISFJ and ENFJ forum as well... but those were obviously not for me. I am not a Ni nor a Fe user.
The thing is, when I read the descriptions of the INFP, they make a lot of sense (same with INFJ and ENFP). But my fiance is also INFP, and I note a LOT of differences in how I act between him and I, and myself and most of the INFPs on the board.
When I read the 'you know you're an INFP thread', I see a lot of intense caring about inanimate objects and the ability to strongly feel (or predict) the emotions of others. I do these things to some degree, but just not to the strength of what I see here. I almost find the emotional tone to this forum area overwhelming! It's certainly not bad, but I have a desire to help. When I see all the threads and all the help people request... it's like 'HOLY COW... what do I do and where do I start?!?!'.
I believe I'm an extravert because I am expressive (as in, I don't keep stuff in) and outgoing. I also prefer to have somebody around at all times. But people see that I don't like large groups and I get drained at activities in which I'm having to interact with multiple people at a time (like a group of 6+). I prefer to interact one-on-one most; my focus on people is very intense and I can't multi-task that ability very well. Being alone for too long though seriously depresses me, which makes sense when I read information about inferior Si (which falls under the ENFP category).
As a kid, I had a hard time relating to others because my focus was so different and more intense than most kids my age. My emotional intensity has always overwhelmed many people and I stick out like a sore thumb. I don't use eye contact and often my body language does not match what I think or feel. For example, if a person is telling me something important... often my eyes are closed, I'm fidgeting, and I'm not facing them. For some reason the sensory input when trying to hash out what they are saying is too distracting for me to deal with. I'm always listening to them and have a lot of compassion, but I see where they could find my positions to be indicative of not being interested in them. I'm trying to work on this, but find it extremely challenging.
My fiance consistently tells me that I tend to mirror people once I'm close to them; their ways of speaking, mannerisms, quirks. When I'm not around them, they don't present as much... but if I'm REALLY close to a person they will become part of who I am. If I do this, that means I usually approve of them as a person and enjoy their personality.
I am very creative with art and ideas; usually just started and never finished. Not organized, poor with time. I like to plan to some degree and like having everything clean, but I'm definitely not consistent with this. I wish I was better at follow through and never want to be thought of as a slob.
I don't know. Does any of this sound INFP to you?
By the way, I've also heard ISFJ, ESFJ as well. Yikes.
Let me know if I can explain any more. I also posted this on the INFP thread.