I tried the "fence-building" test and came up with the Fi Te combination, which seems to knock out INFJ (what I've been calling myself as a sort of compromise).
A friend insists I'm nothing if not an idealist, and I counter that she's only known me during the last 8 months. (Wave if you recognize me, J).
My house is rarely clean, but I attribute that to the N. I do always know where to find what I want. I am surrounded by Fs (two daughters, husband and an Fe mother-- though hers could just be maturity, not personality-based), and I've been through a slough of personal upheaval in the last year, rendering me much more fragile than I ever saw myself.
As a child I was the "bossy" one, a leader the younger kids would follow and who didn't care that the older kids ignored me. Actively the storyteller (creating such convoluted epics with one or two friends we rarely had time to finish them) and unconsciously alienating most of my peers (I knew the *right* way to do things) somewhat defined my childhood and echo through my present: I still have the compulsion to write, but struggle with the "worthiness" of the endever in the face of other responsibilities. My history of alienation spurs me to "read" people now, and try to figure out how not to be rejected.
Yeah, this sounds really INFP, I suppose, except I totally didn't discover my F till my 20s, and have been functioning in my T since grade school. I was totally a T-parent with my pre-schoolers and have only begun applying F in the last year or so as our life's been crazy and I watched my F-daughters suffer.