My younger sister sees me as having an SJ temperament, I've realized (NT she'd see as secondary). I asked her if she thinks I'm more thinking or feeling, and she thinks that I'm T with her and balanced with everyone else, but very cool in times of serious crisis. At the same time she would (at least initially) pick Fe to be my weakest function, probably because I'm often rude to her. She's also obviously biased, though she's not trying to distort reality to fit her bias because what she's saying is her truth. She sees my nice moments and agreeable persona outside of the house (me, her, mom) as being the exception to the rule (because I'm comfortable at home and she knows I'm shy), while I saw my behavior towards my sister as the exception...because she's one person. So it's become a, which-reality-is-the-true-one sort of situation. I'm having trouble deciding whether I should give her perspective more weight. I know she sees me as this cold, irritable, dismissive, infuriating, nitpicking, nagging, criticizing, ragemonster, obsessed-with-detail, angry boss why-didn't-you-do-this-like-I-told-you, trolling mooch type, and I am fully comfortable with her, but she's my younger sister (just by 2 years) and it's always different with family. Then again, she's the only peer I have who's good opinion I've never been concerned about (at the same time this isn't an affectionate relationship). We have fun together and our relationship is sort of 'banter or bicker' and that's about it (the line is so very thin xD).
The only type-profiles she could agree with were those who used introverted thinking in some way. She sees me as being task oriented and disregarding feelings when working, orderly, pissy when the rules are broken or when things are not to my expectations, and being delegating, duty bound, and in a 'crisis', very cool and facts-oriented while in contrast she will be emotionally wrecked.
She doesn't see me as the voluntarily helpful type, but really that's just with her. I've realized that with other people I'll go out of my way, especially if they do seem grateful for it. It doesn't usually gratify my ego, it just kind of reassures me of their motives and builds trust. If that person is working also, then I know I'm not being taken advantage of and that they really do need some assistance, and then I sort of see it as, it's necessary for them, someone has to help them, I'm the only person available so I'll do it. Who else are they going to ask, I'm not doing anything anyway, it should be me, they need my help. But if I don't see it as necessary, and that person seems to be being lazy or somehow irrational or unwilling to understand, I lose my patience much more quickly and I don't want to help anymore. If the person just seems discouraged, and I understand why, I try to forcibly encourage them, but I don't think I'm good at it (and sometimes I get frustrated if the feeling lasts too long). Also, you need patience to help my sister, and when I had to help her we'd end up needing a mediator. I felt like she was being manipulative and purposely clueless and she felt like I was irritable and impatient (honestly I still think she just wanted me to gratify her ego in some way, and that just pissed me off. She should be grateful I'm even helping, I'm not going to lower my pride and beg her to let me help her do her homework, that doesn't even make sense. /endlessgrumbling).
I know all of this is relying more on profiles instead of cognitive functions, but it's hard to ask her whether she thinks 'this' is how I think. I'd like some outside confirmation from a person who would know, but this is too complicated and it's probably impossible. But anyway because of all this, my sister sees me as an ISTJ/INTP so really the only thing she'd incidentally be consistent with is weak F and Si/Ne. (she'd probably be okay with ESTJ/ENTP too then except for the whole being introverted issue).
She just remembered something and came back to tell me (besides that she googled jim carey with long hair for no reason and found out he's doing a new magician movie with steve carell -__-) that what annoys her is that I tell her to do something and I don't move until I see her start, and then I check 5 seconds later just to make sure she really is doing it. And sometimes the argument is "do it" "I will" "why aren't you doing it" "i will" "no do it now! why are you waiting?!" "I'M DOING SOMETHING" "what're you doing?! you're just [something I don't think is important]!!!" "AGKSGKSG" - basically I become an impatient angry mom. I think it tells more of her forgetfulness though, that I know she won't start unless she does it then. I KNOW HER. THEN SHE MIGHT TELL ME I SHOULD'VE REMINDED HER OR JUST GET ANGRY BECAUSE I'M ANGRY THAT SHE NEVER STARTED IT AND BE LIKE 'WHATS THE BIG DEAL' ITS A BIG DEAL OKAY I HAD EXPECTATIONS DAMMIT. I HAD PLANS. I NEEDED TO DO THESE THINGS. YOU DIDN'T FULFILL YOUR PART. RAAAAAAGH SHE DOES THE SAME okay I am going to stop now.