Interesting Questionnaire

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1. What are 5 key qualities about you, and what is each of their direct opposites?

Intense and Calm
Emotional and Rational
Passionate, and Detached
Determined, and Obsessive
Intuitive, and Strong-Willed

2. Now explain why each of the opposites COULD be you and why it might be GOOD to be that opposite characteristic. Own them even if they are negative traits.

I am intense but I prefer to know that I have control, that control is needed in myself, and expressed outwardly as control over my emotions making me appear calm. I'm Emotional, but I use my rational mind to protect me by keeping those instincts and emotions at a safe enough distance until I've come to understand the person's intentions. I'm passionate, and when my emotions fuel me I feel completely alive, but I can be detached/insensitive when it becomes necessary to carry out a plan. I'm determined yet can easily become Obsessive in my desire to make something happen that it becomes all-consuming battle for victory; losses AREN'T tolerated. I'm intuitive and very acutely aware of what goes on around me and between myself and others, but through my willfulness, I can press on in most debilitating circumstances.


3. What would you say to a 5-year-old child if he or she asked you what the purpose of life is?

To find out what the purpose of YOUR life is based on what gifts are inside of you already.

4. What type of advice would you give that same child on how to survive in this world?

At times you will feel taken advantage of by life and it's circumstances; if you can rise above that temporary emotion by an act of will, and use it to your advantage to serve your long-term goal, you can find/create something immensely fulfilling to yourself, and the world around you.

5. If you were told you only had one year to live from today, and it was 100% guaranteed that you would die exactly 1 year from now, what would you do in that year?

I would want to live my life completely in the interest of discovering my full potential, sharing my life with someone who is as capable of loving me the way that I will love them.

6. Why aren't you doing this now?

Intense suspicion and a disdain for trusting in others, an obstinate desire for self-secrecy, and my personal vision colliding with externally perceived pragmatic actions. "Should I be the actor/artist, or pursue the safety of steady pay-checks and academics?".

7. What do you really want in your truest self?

I pursue the strength and will to persistently explore new facets of my being, to discover my true self and accept NO limitations and remain open to any challenges life may bring to constantly grow. Also, I want to share my truest self with the one I'm supposed to love for the rest of my life and share everyday with them, not in fear of my own deep, and sincere emotions but instead in love, and confidence in them, to create the emotional bond that I've been looking to create for as long as I could remember when I first came into contact with knowing that something that profound could exist.

8. What have you substituted/settled for compared to what you really want?

I settled for emotional repression/sublimation to focus on building my life on more financially secure and logically accurate ground as training to be an IT technician, rather than doing what I really want creatively as an actor/artist. Merely doing what I've been told to do and live my life, and MISTAKENLY believing that the logical/sensible way is the ONLY way that we should live. I've come to learn that doing what feels subjectively 'right' is as just, rational, and valid as long as it's a personal choice that considers your interests, and hurts no one else in practice.

9. What are your defense mechanisms?
I react coldly, aggressively and impulsively. I start being manipulative trying to control/force things in my favor. That's when I feel that instinctual fear that It really is "Me against the World". I become more emotionally insensitive/blunt to others, I become more emotionally/mentally aloof/reserved, and secretive.

10. What are some good habits that are needed for living a healthy adult life?
Persistence, and flexibility. Secure self-concept and confidence in oneself, and a stable support system.

11. What are you like in relaxed and non-threatening situations?
This varies by mood and what the situation entails. I'm rarely 'relaxed' but if I am, I'm just very chill, calm, observant, and self-possessed, ready to act as needed. I can be sarcastically playful/humorous, and observant of things that go on between others that may go unseen by others.

12. What is your predominant fault?
I tend not to trust others. I stubbornly trust myself, and my impressions. I find it hard to open up to others as well. My personal complexity makes that an issue as well.

13. Think of a time when you felt at ease and connected to yourself and others. What did you think about yourself, others, and the entire world during this time?

In situations like this, I don't 'think' of myself or others...I just feel a sense of 'connection' and that I like this feeling. Being an introvert/intuitive, these connections are VERY rare. The world seems to not exist in moments like these for me because all that I can sense is this immense connection to someone. My walls come down (probably because I'm not focused on keeping myself in check) and I'm a playful, mischievous, guy who shows his affections, and insights through jokes, and humor, and attention to how others feel/think.

14. Think of a time when you felt anxious and disconnected from yourself and others. What did you think about yourself, others, and the entire world during this time?

This happens a majority of the time. I just feel like I'm walking down the street alone, absorbed in my own thoughts. My thoughts float effortlessly between pure abstract thought, figuring out how the universe works together, my place in it, connections to others, keeping my intuition alert and focused on any knowledge/opportunities I can gain, quantum physics, and genetics. The entire world at these times seems too 'here' and boringly concrete until a person I know/feel some connection to arrives. Another person to interact with makes life seem fun because I have a different mind to interact with, and that means mental/intuitive stimulation.

15. What is an addiction or urge that seems to drive you as almost as if you’re not in control? Almost like an alien force that drives or pushes you down.

This is the main reason why I seek to master/control my emotions; so nothing will ever make me surrender my will to some other force outside of myself. I seek to keep control within myself, even if the world isn't always as controlled/orderly; it's how I can respond so calmly to circumstances. I would have to say the urge itself to fight for control of myself, and share my vulnerabilities/emotions with others...I want to be able to show what's inside of me to those I love, but I haven't figured out how to get over the fear of loosing them, and not being able to do SOMETHING to fight to keep them around. I know that most INFJ's seek their freedom through finding their path in life, and so avoid feeling 'controlled' by others and circumstances; I know i HATE this especially.

16. What things do you feel you cannot do because they might jeopardize your survival?

Expressing my self emotionally/vitally to others. My emotions (especially affections to my loved one's are strong) I'm afraid that the feeling won't be reciprocated, or understood. I feel that the human race is still stuck in the darkness of their immediate, and physically perceivable reality (i.e. all that is 'here' and 'now') and can't reach/see past it into something more holistically feasible feel like emotions contrary to my ease of understanding with them will make me feel that through opening up my vulnerabilities, I won't be able to act decisively as I usually do; I want to constantly be able to have control, and act when needed to do so.

17. What do you need in your life to face your fears?

This is hard to state openly as it goes against my desire for self-concealment/secrecy. I'm guarded, but I suppose I need independence and the means (intellectual, emotional, and financial) to handle things on my own. I don't like turning to people and not knowing how to deal with a situation. I'm suspicious of others and knowing the human race, I'm not as apt to ask, and believe that EVERYONE will steer me down the right road. That isn't saying ALL people are like that, but humans are apt to act from a place of self-interest at times even at the expense of others; experiencing the broad range of human nature without the proper plan of attack makes me want to keep my distance, to keep my emotions out of someone's manipulation, and knowing that people can act so self-servingly, it betrays loyalty and trust. I'm confident in myself intellectually and emotionally, but impressions you receive from others can distort the meaning of your own intentions. My sarcasm is seen by others as me attacking them, but that's the way I play with people, verbally. I don't play mentally as a means to initially injure, but being an intuitive/feeler, it's how I show my playful side. I need understanding because it's so easy to misunderstand me.

18. What is your own personal mission statement?

I want to be the hero, the kind of guy meant to win in life, against all odds, and obstacles, I want to be in activities that inspire, reach people, and make a profound difference and advance us. My personal mission is to revolutionize the way humans view everything from themselves, to the universe around them.

hmm i agree with one thing. different questions work for different people.

Originally Posted by charlie10

hmm i agree with one thing. different questions work for different people.

Indeed and sometimes some questions are better formulated for some people.
This one was made for enneagrams, but when I used it before, I felt like it gave me situations etc. to respond to.
Also, most questionnaires got issues seeing what is the enneagram speaking and what is the type speaking. In a way, then I feel like this one separates them in a way.

Then again, some (like for example Julia Bell) prefers Spade's questionnaire, even tho I personally think that it can be hard to answer some of the questions in it.

1. What are 5 key qualities about you, and what is each of their direct opposites?
-Good hearted. The opposite would be selfish or being a d!ck
-Nice to most everyone, opposite again would be mean
-Loyal. Call on me if you need help and I’ll see what I can do. Opposite is untrustworthy
-Funny-ish (can be pretty hit or miss, and depends on if I’m comfortable around the people I’m with) opposite is Unfunny or serious
-Good listener. Opposite is not shutting up and talking over people

2. Now explain why each of the opposites COULD be you and why it might be GOOD to be that opposite characteristic. Own them even if they are negative traits.
-Good hearted. I feel like even if people aren't showing it at the moment, deep down there just another person like myself. I think I've got alright morals too. The opposite would be selfish or being a d!ck. I can be a dick when I’m feeling down or if I’ve got something I’ve got to focus on and am buried in and you bother me with something stupid. (ex. I’m going really hard homework, brother comes into my room wanting to show me a cat video I’ve already seen.) This could be good for when I actually need to get something done after procrastinating all week.
-Nice to most everyone, opposite again would be mean. I’m generally a really nice guy and don’t like conflicts. But, if I’ve given you chance after chance and you’ve still got the same attitude, I’ll probably figure your not worth being around and if I have to I’m going to start flinging back the same stuff you your giving me. This can be good for getting worthless people out of your life
-Loyal. Call on me if you need help and I’ll see what I can do. Opposite is untrustworthy. I can be untrustworthy if you ask me to do something way before it needs to be done, I’ll probably forget that you asked about it. (ex friend asked me if he could come over after skiing. Other friend asks if I want to hang out right as we finish skiing. I didn’t mean to blow off 1^st friend, in fact I would have rather hung out with him, but when the 2^nd kid asked if wanted to come over my answer was something along the lines of “heck yeah lets go” I guess this can be good for living somewhat in the moment. This happened last year and I do a slightly better job of trying to remember other obligations I have.
- Funny-ish (can be pretty hit or miss, and depends on if I’m comfortable around the people I’m with) opposite is Unfunny or serious. I can be unfunny the same way I’m funny, but sometimes the funny aspect didn’t develop fully by the time it left my mouth. I tend to just listen and if something that seems funny pops in my head I’ll blurt it out. I can be serious again If I’m feeling down, or if you come to me with a serious topic I’ll try my best to talk with you about it. I guess being serious is good when you need to have “real talk”
- Good listener. Opposite is not shutting up and talking over people. I can talk over people if I happen to know a whole lot about a subject and if you say something wrong but its your “time” to talk I might completely go “ actually the reason that the Yellow Stone volcano would kill off everyone is it’s so big that the ash will get in the atmosphere and blot out the sun” (when he was saying its because its connected to every other volcano and it will trigger them to go off. But we had the same basic point, If Yellow Stone explodes were all screwed)


3. What would you say to a 5-year-old child if he or she asked you what the purpose of life is?
Be Happy with what your doing. Do things that you enjoy and live your life but remember to save for the future, but don’t let that get in the way of doing what you want to do. I work in a doctor’s office and when ever I talk to the older patients there’s always the ones that regret working so hard for retirement that they let life pass them buy only to blow out a hip, and then the ones that completely lived in the moment, traveled, worked odd jobs and had a blast but now have to live in some crummy trailer and can hardly pay there bills. You have to find a happy medium between the two.

4. What type of advice would you give that same child on how to survive in this world?
Don’t let other people tell you who you are, really listen to yourself and follow your dreams. People will always be trying to bring you down to there level and that can be fun for a while, but never lose sight of what your after.

5. If you were told you only had one year to live from today, and it was 100% guaranteed that you would die exactly 1 year from now, what would you do in that year?
I’d finally ask out that girl I can’t stop thinking about. I’d go ski diving. I’d go hike to all the little mountain lakes in my area, I’d back pack Austrailia and visit Matuchu Pichea or what ever its called, I’d make sure my family knows I love them and I’d try to give back in anyway I could.
6. Why aren't you doing this now?

Honestly, The first one at least, I don’t know. I keep feeling like there will be a time that it will be right and I guess fear. I haven’t seen or talked to her in almost a year, and I don’t know if she feels the same way about me. Though she does like all my photos on instagram haha. That doesn’t mean much though. I’d love to here from her. All the other ones are mostly because of money, time, and the fact is mid winter here. I’m supposed to be saving up for college right now, but if I didn’t have to I’d book my tickets in a heart beat. I think my family knows I love them, or I hope I’ve shown that enough.
7. What do you really want in your truest self?
I want to be happy, and do something meaning full. Not just a job.
8. What have you substituted/settled for compared to what you really want?
So far? Nothing. But what I wanted to do has changed, so my direction for a career is splitting.
9. What are your defense mechanisms?
I generally stop answering my phone and hole up at home for a few weeks or months, Until my social life is zero. Then I fall into a depression. Then I start exercising. Then I feel good about my self, call up a few friends and see if they want to kick it and stuff goes back to normal for a while. Repeat.

10. What are some good habits that are needed for living a healthy adult life?
Diet and exercise. Drink water, sleep enough. Don’t ignore basic human functions. And do the stuff you need to do to move forward. (something I need to work on)
11. What are you like in relaxed and non-threatening situations?


With other people? Joke around, if I’m tired or don’t have much to say sit there quietly and listen.
12. What is your predominant fault?
Assertiveness? My dad says I sometimes fall into the “paralysis of analysis” and other times I can be too laid back (Miss a deadline? No big deal I’ll get it next time or find another option instead)
13. Think of a time when you felt at ease and connected to yourself and others. What did you think about yourself, others, and the entire world during this time?
I remember the first night I was at college. I was having trouble meeting people, then I found a group of kids that were going to go climb this big hill just off campus that looked over the city, and smoke a little weed. I remember getting up there, kicking back against a rock and thinking “ where just doing this same thing, where all just coming from our own little towns or cities and now were all here trying to do the same thing, make some friends and get an education and have good time while were here. Idk I can’t really put in words but it was a good feeling going from overwhelmed and worried thinking I was alone to realizing that all these kids are just doing the same thing I am.
14. Think of a time when you felt anxious and disconnected from yourself and others. What did you think about yourself, others, and the entire world during this time?


Idk. There was a time last summer when I was at my friend’s house and there were some kid there I didn’t know so well. I was under the influence of a substance, but I remember thinking that “oh, the only reason these kids keep me around is I’m kind of goofy, have a car (most of them didn’t) and have a job so I’ve always got money to spend) I like helping people have a good time but in that instance I couldn’t help but feel like all my life I’ve just been being used.
15. What is an addiction or urge that seems to drive you as almost as if you’re not in control? Almost like an alien force that drives or pushes you down.
I’ll have to think about this, because nothing really sticks out. But if I was alone with nothing, the things I’d probably start seeking out, maybe exercising like going snowboarding (I like to be outside, I had a gym member ship once but would much rather ride a bike or go for a hike) and something to make me laugh. I probably have an addiction to the internet, and the fact that school work and funny videos of cats can be accessed on the same devise makes it hard to get anything done. Maybe other people like friends and family. Food
16. What things do you feel you cannot do because they might jeopardize your survival?

Ummmmm, ?
I guess there’s all sorts of scary drugs that people through there lives away doing, and I’ll never do. I guess my biggest fear is just washing up in some dirt old trailer a lone, so as long as I avoid things that put me in that situation I’m okay. Go to school.
I’m not sure this is the answer your looking for but this is what I’ve got
17. What do you need in your life to face your fears?
Confidence.
18. What is your own personal mission statement?
Be the best person I can be, and be happy doing it

Weather that’s becoming a doctor and moving to Africa to help kids dying of Leukemia or heading up some sort of “Ride your bike more, drive less” type of thing

1)
* responsible
* considerative
* creative
* innovative
* authentic

(I am gonna continue this post, but need to have dinner first, on holiday with relatives ;))