Greetings helpful users of the "What's my personality type" sub-forum!
I come to you today to get some opinions about whether you think my current type is correct and -if you can- perhaps also lose some words on my Enneagram type.
I have had little doubt about being an INFJ since I started to delve deeper into MBTI and JCF theory, but some comments I got still made me think it might be a good idea to allow others to give some input, for curiousity's sake, if nothing else.
As for Enneagram type, I never had taken a test for it before coming here, so I did the PerC one and got Type 4, but this too was cast doubt on.
Anyway, I would be very thankful for your input. Also, I plan to do the other questionaire soon as well, but I think these 20 questions are a good start.
1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
Mostly how I use my thinking function. It sometimes seemed to me like I am a more of a Thinker than a Feeler and I actually even got "INTJ" on some personality tests, however I still seem to have a strong focus on people. Cognitive Function tests, though, tend to give me INFJ (or rarely ENFJ, but that usually only happens when I am in excellent mood while answering them, bad mood seems to move it towards INTJ again).
2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
Reply hazy. Try again later.
No, but seriously: I think I have a really "conservative" view of my ideal life. Decent job, loving wife, perhaps a few children and a nice home. Apart from that, there was a time when my most sought after thing were capital-T Truth and capital-W Wisdom, but I think my expectations have shrunk a bit, I still desire to decipher as much of existence as I can.
Why? Hmmm, why indeed? It seems natural to me. I always had this fantasy of a happy family life and as for the other stuff, I just have a deep urge to uncover some meaning to existence or at least make an appropriate one for myself.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
Hmm, I really needed to think on that one. I think I feel at my finest when I, through action or word, improved someone's life or made them a better person or when they at least appreciated my insights or knowledge in a meaningful way.
I guess I like this because it makes me feel needed and valuable. It verifies my own existence, too. And... well, it also just simply gives me warm, fuzzy feelings.
4) What makes you feel inferior?
A lot of things can make me feel inferior, really. Some examples are being criticised for being the way I am, being undoubtedly proven wrong in an intellectual discussion, being around men that are very successful with the ladies or being alone among large crowds. While it is not immediately obvious, I do often question my worth as a romantic partner, too.
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
When making decision that only really affect myself I simply focus on what I like and what fits my way of living and being. When making decisions that affect other people I try to find a good middle-ground between pure results and the needs of the people involved. In rare cases I might make pro and contra lists, but I usually go with what "feels" right.
However, something I noticed is that I can get a bit pushy when a person does not make their needs clear. I can feel a bit let down when other people do not allow me to consider them. That can make the final result feel somewhat imperfect.
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
I am comfortable with other people taking the lead, if I believe they are competent, especially since I am not a fan of standing too much in the centre of attention. However, if I notice that the current lead is not up to the task or there is nobody better suited, I am fine with leading. I try to find the strengths of my teammates and then assign parts of the projects that way for the most efficiency. Although, I guess I slightly prefer a "right-hand man" or "seneschal" position. But yes, I definitely want to be able to affect the outcome in a positive fashion.
7) Describe us a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
A good example would be playing video games with my friends, especially if things go totally off the rails and we are just having some silly fun to the point where I can hardly breathe anymore from laughing so much. Obviously, my memories of these events are very fond.
As a matter of fact, I think most of the times where I had "a lot of fun" it involved lots of silly fun with friends.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you? (Are you more prone to be hands on, to theorize, to memorize, etc)
Well, usually I start with reading a bit on the topic and try to grasp the fundamental basis of it. Giving me the basics of an idea or topic usually is enough to give me a rough idea about the details and what I think about it. If I do not like the way it is explained then I usually take some time to put it into a form that I can more easily understand within my mind. This can involve quite a bit of talking to myself.
If the something I want to learn is something practical, I like "learning by doing" and "trail and error" approach if at all possible (and safe), but I tend to take some time to internalize it at least a bit before actually trying to do it.
I can be a bit impatient, so I like understanding something quickly.
9) How organized do you to think of yourself as?
Depends very much on the situation. In private, I am quite disorganised, but I try to keep a basic level of order anyway. At work or when I am preparing something for others I put significantly more effort into it being well-organised and looking good.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
I definitely do both, but finding information that supports it is mainly done so I can see how my own judgement of the idea measures up and to see where I think the information (or my own judgement) has flaws.
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
Being myself is definitely very important to me, but humans are social animals living in complex societies and when the good of the group is negatively affected by my individualism then I will adjust as necessary (to a point), except if I consider the requirements fundamentally unfair.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
Under normal circumstances I definitely think before speaking, but sometimes when I am in a very good mood I can sometimes blurt out stuff thoughtlessly.
One-on-one all the way. I think that is the only way to truly reach someone else, whether it is just for having silly fun or profound debates.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
I definitely check before jumping.
Well, talking and planning is good and fine, but at some point something must actually be done. I cannot really say which one is metaphorically speaking "louder".
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
I go with my friends. I can watch that episode at any other point in my life later, but exactly the same chance to spend time with friends can only be spend once in your entire life. It is not going to come back, so I rather go with the unique and memorable time.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
I tend to be in major inner turmoil, but people rarely notice that. When I am stressed I can contain it within myself rather well. If it reaches breaking point I tend to try to get distance form other people and focus on solving the stress or getting it under control.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
I think the easiest way to do this is a short list of some attributes:
- unwillingness to change opinions
- unable to be serious when necessary
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
My interests. I love it when I have an intense but civil discussion about a topic I care about. However, I tend to get even more passionate when I am actually "teaching" other people about things I know a lot about, like History, for example.
18) What kind of things do you pay the least attention to in your life?
That is a difficult one to answer since whatever I am not paying enough attention to is probably not even acknowledged by me.
I will post if something good comes to mind.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
Well, when I asked them I was told things like "kind", "nice", "quirky fun", "smart" and "wise", but also "odd". I was also told I am a "watch tower" whatever was meant with that exactly.
I do not think I am in any position to say whether I am "nice" or "wise", but I think I am smarter than the average person. Also, these compliments embarrass me.
I asked what my personality is not like and I got "boring", "rude", "dumb".
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
Probably reading books or interesting articles on the internet or playing video games. If I have no other obligations I would probably do some exercise and cardio-training as well.