So, I know I'm a 2w3. But I can't seem to figure out my variant stacking.
1. What drives you in life? What do you look for?
I want to build a comfortable life for myself. So far, that has meant getting a college education, working towards my own personal growth, and saving money for the future. I have a vision of how I want my life to be: wife and 2 children, a modest house, and a job as a high school guidance counselor. The decisions I make all point in that direction.
2. What do you hope to accomplish in your life?
I suppose I answered this kind of. In terms of my job, I want to know that I have changed lives for the better. Not only will I help teens on an individual basis, I want to create a system that supports them and others. I'm not content to work within a system that I considered flawed. I'm always looking to improve. On a more personal note, I want to have a wonderful marriage and raise my children to be happy, healthy, and good people.
3. What do you hope to avoid doing or being? What values are important to you?
I want to avoid being stagnant. I need to continue to improve myself, to work on my relationships, and to do good. The values that are important to me: equality of all people (with special attention paid to helping minorities), being honest and loyal, putting the needs of my loved ones before my own (to a certain extent), social justice, holding yourself accountable and never intentionally harm anyone or anything, and a slew of other things. I hold myself to high standards.
4. What are your biggest fears (not including phobias)? Why?
Watching my country pass laws that violate human rights, ignorant people (the kind who beat up homeless or minorities without ever thinking they've done something wrong), and corruption. It just all scares me so much. And part of that is because, as a gay woman, it's scary to think that the people around you and those who govern you consider you less than human. I'm just scared for my country and the direction it's headed in. When I think of all the people that get hurt...
5. How do you want others to see you? How do you see yourself?
I want others to see me as someone who is competent and has integrity...and that's actually how I see myself too. But the one thing I want to someday possess that I don't have much of now is courage.
6. What makes you feel your best? What makes you feel your worst?
I feel my best when I'm with people who love an accept (mostly) everything about me. I also feel my best when I am an asset to a team or have achieved something individually. I feel my worst when I have hurt someone I care about, when I feel trapped (ie during the summer when I'm at home with a mundane job), and when I am in conflict with someone close to me.
7. Describe how you experience each of: a) anger; b) shame; c) anxiety.
Anger: I feel it pretty regularly in response to things like injustice and people doing things that annoy the piss out of me. But almost always try to suppress it. Sometimes it escapes in the form of being cranky at the person who has angered me. I also just go and vent to someone else.
Shame: I'm not sure about shame, but I feel tons of guilt. I don't like hurting people. I don't even like displeasing them, sometimes. I sometimes feel guilty for doing the things I want, even when it's completely within my right to do them.
Anxiety: I have some social anxieties, though it's gotten a lot better. I get anxious when I see people in potentially embarrassing situations (because I feel for them unintentionally). I also get anxious waiting for something that I'm dreading or when someone is exhibiting risky behavior (ie standing too close to a ledge, running into the street).
8. Describe how you respond to each of: a) stress; b) unexpected change; c) conflict.
Stress: When it's work stress, I bring my A-game. I'm great at being calm in stressful situations and channeling positive stress into work. But when it comes to personal stressors or an overload of schoolwork, I tend to avoid and hibernate. I eat lots of junk food, play video games, anything to comfort myself and take my mind off what's bothering me.
Unexpected change: I roll with it.
Conflict: I try to avoid it. I'm accommodating and let stuff slide. But if it comes to actual conflict, I take it head on in a calm and rational manner. I'm all about open communication, and I definitely am not one to raise my voice at someone.
9. Describe your orientation to: a) authority; b) power. How do you respond to these?
Authority: I'm respectful of people above me as a general rule. For the ones that I have the most respect for, I'll go out of my way to do right by them. But if I consider them to be an inadequate leader, I have no problem undermining them. When I'm in a position of authority, I tend to level with people more often than not.
Power: I appreciate some power. I'm a natural leader, so I like being able to get my point across and delegate tasks as I see fit. But again, I like to be on the same level as everyone else for the most part. As a leader, I see myself as an organizer and supporter more than anything.
10. What is your overall outlook on life and humanity?
I think my life is going great, and I can expect it to keep going that way. Sure there are bumps along the way, but I'm always positive. Humanity frightens me as much as it amazes me. Part of it is blurred by the fact that most of my perception of humanity is limited to the United States, which I think is in a state of decline both financially and morally. But I also see so many innovations and good-will. We're going to move forward for sure, but there are also going to be steps back.