This is a discussion on Boss's Narcissistic Inferno- Abandon all hope all ye who enter! within the What's my Enneagram type? forums, part of the Enneagram Personality Theory Forum category; Originally Posted by Boss @ Ace Face I will get back to you:) Thanks! I'm shaking in my boots :P...
3W4-8w9-iffy on the head fix..perhaps 6w7 or 7w6..ill provide my reasoning later.
That was an excellent post, overall. @Ace Face, I am selecting a portion of your insightful post here. This part might make you think about a 1 fix;) or it may not. You tell me what you think based on the bigger picture.You, @Boss , to my knowledge, are extremely confident in your decisions and seem to almost always make your choices without second-guessing yourself or lining them up against any set of morals. Also, core 1s and 1 fixers can have a tendency to not only hold high expectations of themselves, but of others as well. As far as I can tell, you have no expectations of other people. You mind your business and let them mind theirs without giving it much, if any, thought. You do try to respect other people for having and living by a moral code even though you may not always understand peoples’ reasoning which is an admirable and healthy trait.
I actually do have certain expectations of people in the Respect department. It's not about etiquette and manners; it's about plain and simple respect. Respect for boundaries. Don't be a prejudiced buffoon--racism, sizeism, classism and all such forms of discrimination will make me want to put an ass in check, immediately, and I will do just that. That, I have a strong history of dealing with it all has A LOT to do with my passion about this. Basically, I have a few triggers. So, my anger is actually very predictable. If you don't push the wrong buttons, you may not see me angry for years on end (not angry at you at least lol).
Whether a severe lack of respect is shown to me or another person, I will put some bitch in his/her place easily and have tons of fun doing it. I mind my own business, and I want people to mind theirs. If you cross the line with me, and do it repeatedly, it's no longer your business. It is now MY business, and I will not hesitate to show you who's Boss.
This extends to 'authority'. If I see a so called authority figure doing a shoddy job, I will bring it up to them (if practical, if not, I'll change paths and not waste time working around a pathetic individual), and over time, I will replace the moron if at all possible. I am quick to spot and fill a leadership vacuum.
On a different note, I recently saw a young girl who was openly ignoring a very elderly woman (carrying several bags) on a train and not giving up the seat for her (the girl was seated on a reserved seat anyway). I walked up to her and said "Let the lady Sit". She sat their rolling her eyes, and I gave her one look that said "Move or else I'll make you" without saying the words lol. And, she immediately got up and walked away.
So, no, I do have certain expectations of people. And, I can be one uncompromising bossy bitch in the interest of making sure they're met, especially as they pertain to me.
Last edited by Boss; 05-04-2012 at 11:01 AM.
8 and 6.
Only based on what you wrote in your last post.
Hm... strange how I don't see 3 in there right now.
the expectations for others vary greatly depending on the 1's value system. a 1/1 fixer who believes in collectivism and feels that everyone should "serve the public good" is going to be a lot more imposing than a 1/1 fixer who is libertarian and has a more "don't hurt other people but other than that do whatever the hell you want" approach to life
The 6 I assigned to you was based on the " 'authority' " part. And the "respect" and justice part made me think it's 8(w9). But now I'm confused again because I just thought of the mother of my ex bf who's definitely a 1.
...hm... but then again the "bitch" part and your energy feels more like 8... MAYBE
Well, for what it's worth... 8s do tend seem to expect respect. My dad, an 8w9, has taught me to uphold egalitarianism simply by displaying it himself. He seems to expect double the respect directed towards him, though, regardless of his own behavior.
1s also expect respect, but they lack the distinct "vengence-seeking" flavor the 8 has. And all true 8s I've known--even 8-fixers--have this trait. I imagine, since it is a little bit for me, it's scary for 1s to contemplate vengeance; it's just not the same thing as justice. Vengeance assumes dealing back more than you were given, while justice assumes equal (but not identical) consequences will be dealt.
I think, also, that 1s are more "global-thinking" than 8s. 8s are great at dealing with what's in front of them, while 1s can get lost in the big picture. I might be making this part up, though
Yeah ... an 8 fixer loves to be a bad ass and wear that bad assery on their sleeve.
I too love to flaunt my ability to engage in conflict at times, and sometimes even get charged up by it as well as its prospect - especially if it wins me admiration points. I'm more a "gladiator" kind of a fighter. I'm guessing that's my cp6w7 fix.
I love to fight as long as I have an audience who's willing to appreciate and admire it.