Just need to settle a few things

Okay, here I is again!
So have been spending some time thinking and pondering. Have come to some sort of arrangement now and just need to tie up some loose ends. Okay, so here is the low down. I have created a couple of threads about my type and thanks to all the enneagram wizards, I have gotten closer to accurate types. I am settled now on type 6, 1w9 and 4w3. I am learning so much about where I have fucked up again and again, learning my repeated behaviours and its giving me insight where before I was clueless. I like being a type 6 if I say so myself, I could only assume that my defective actions/thoughts were so ingrained in me that I had trouble recognizing the similarities between those and type 6, I lived being that way for so long so anyways, to cut to the chase. I just need some confirmation on my 6 wings and my variants. The biggest problem is the variants, I have spent ages trying to pin down what I am more influenced by simply to get frustrated because I relate to different aspects of them all. I don't think I am an SX dom despite that other people have been convinced I am due to my merging with relationships. Thanks to being a type 6, I push and pull from the merging intensity so I don't get swallowed in order to remain level headed as this keeps me in touch with myself - SP? I relate to SO in terms of learning about society at large but not interacting with it so much. I relate to SP in terms of appreciating my home comforts, having a safe place to hide away from everyone and thing. Im not super responisible for menial tasks like bills, housework, I just go through energetic moods where I clean my home from top to bottom and then be lazy for a while. I can just about take care of myself and avoid having excess responsibilities placed on my shoulders, like I hate signing up for anything new because I can't be bothered and fear dealing with the consequences if I forget to pay up on time, im not reliable like that and kinda envy people that can keep up to date with that sort of stuff.

The variants I have looked into are; SP/SX SX/SO - They both seem apt but cannot be sure which most or of course, maybe neither of those.

So anyways, I have my notebook at the ready for some serious note taking! :)
Thanksies.

usually, which is the most forefront thought on your mind? What do want / you think of first?

e.g. Taking care of yourself, how well you fit in socially, or wishing to feel close or a bit bonded to someone who you're interested in?

In your social circles, are you one of the first to take note of hunger, uncomfortable temperature, methods of travelling etc or would you be geared towards interaction in small groups more?

Or, failing that - what do you gain the most gratification from and in what order? small groups? having the more basic needs met? large groups in social situations? I know I'm extremely happy during one on one chats - anything where I feel like I can connect on a deeper level.

I am not very good at variants, but you seem SP/SO. You don't seem sx first. Check out the variant descriptions (what each variant really means) on the Enneagram Institute's website. Also, check out the stacking descriptions on ocean moonshine's webpage. Variants are actually as important as figuring out your core, and far more important than the tritype deal. So, I'd suggest that you take your time with this one:).