[AquaColum]

Browsing through the 9s and suicide thread, and particularly the How do you view your childhood? thread, it just got me thinking how we minimise our problems as much as possible. We believe we can handle them on our own.

(I'd like to quickly state that I can't really speak for all 9's here and am really only speaking for myself. Feel free to disagree.)

It interested me, that in the latter thread there was a common theme of, 'It was a little rocky, but nothing I couldn't handle and I'm fine now.' We're here now, and in one piece - with our scars maybe, but we're here, so it's alright, right? However true it might be for ourselves, it's likely that other individuals wouldn't take it nearly as well.

When it comes to situations out of control, we deal with it. We hunker down and wait for the storm to pass. I think that maybe, in situations definitely out of our control, this might give us an advantage over other types who might not take it as well.

We don't make big deals out of things because we believe we can handle them.

Personally, I don't think 9's are very likely to become suicidal, because of the stubborn mindset that 'it'll be fine, I can deal with this, it'll be over soon.' That it's not important enough to get worked up over. You might think of this as a stubborn, reckless optimism and refusal to give up.



(But, if things really were awful, I concede that we probably would go into existential depression and not care either way, or look for an ultimate escape.)

I think 9's are tougher than people give us - and we give ourselves credit for. We're like rocks. Unassuming and maybe sometimes invisible, but unmovable.

I guess what I'm trying to get at is, in a way I'm glad I'm a Nine. I feel like if I had been a different type I would have resorted to self-destructive tendencies by now. I feel like being a Nine has made it easier for me to accept circumstances out of my control and go with it, and hope and believe that things will get better. Of course, I can't say any of this for certain because I don't know any other way of living. But I'm happy to be a Nine.

[The King Of Dreams]

I appreciate this thread. It gives me hope for myself.

[prsvrnc]

I think 9's are tougher than people give us - and we give ourselves credit for. We're like rocks. Unassuming and maybe sometimes invisible, but unmovable.

i am a 4 but the 9s in my life -- oh my gosh! the most STABLE and accepting people ever. (about being stable -- as i understand it, it is both a 9s blessing and your hardship, i guess because you sacrifice self-remembering for stability?). i appreciate the 9s in my life extremely. they are extremely STABLE. not to mention genuinely loving and giving. combined, they provide a refuge for others:: a generator of that which is good, trusting, safe, and loving. the world needs 9s. : )

[The King Of Dreams]

That makes me feel very good. I really appreciate those words. I think I can speak for my fellow 9's when I say: You're a sweetheart. *HUGS*

[prsvrnc]

Yay! : )
*HUGS*

[Wobzter]

Grouphug!
*hugs*

[Thinkist]

*Joins in the Type 9 hug*
Not too late, am I?

[The King Of Dreams]

*Joins in the Type 9 hug*
Not too late, am I?

Nope! *HUGS*

[MandiKind]

You all are being so silly, but.....HUGS!!!

[madhatter]

Sorry, I don't do group hugs. :p