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In a relationship - How do you show you care?
As it says - what do you think you do in a relationship to show your mate you care?

[Razvan]

There are many stages of a relationship and it may differ from one MBTI type to another, but I'm curious too if there are any resemblances.

How do I show I care to the one I love : I will want to spend as much time as possible with you, I will want to hold your hand and kiss you as often as possible and I may even play with your hair while I do it. Also you can guess what happens in this direction...lets just say I have a high sexual drive when I'm in love. I will listen to what you have been doing all day, even if it may be boring stuff, if it involves you, it will not seem that much of an effort. I may even share stuff about mine,this is a good sign, because I never do that often, I am an introvert after all and if there isn't something out of the ordinary that happened, something that gave me great joy or sorrow, I will not feel the need to share it. I will dream up scenarios for us to have fun together, I will want to do things with you, even if it's just going out to a movie or going on an unplanned trip or whatever. I will think of ways to surprise you, even if it will be just a small thing, like a cookie you could enjoy or a random gift I stumbled upon and thought you'd like (or saw you liked and went back and bought it for you). I may get crazy at times and more open than I normally am because that emotion feeds me energy which makes me like that, if I do that, that's an obvious sign I care. There are probably other which I am missing right now, but that should give you a picture....frankly, it would be enough to look into my eyes to see how much I care, because I'd have a spark whenever I see you.

[MBTI Enthusiast]

I tend to give words of affirmation and sacrifice my free time to spend time with them, as much as possible. I'd look into the 5 love languages, if you haven't already. You can give and receive a different primary type, although mine are the same.

[The King Of Dreams]

I've never been in a relationship. But I imagine that I would be the type to do spontaneous acts of affection and random trips. Like to the movies or out to dinner. Quiet nights on the couch watching a good movie. Pick a beautiful flower and give it to her. Stuff like that.

[no one in particular]

I am an unhealthy 9 who is currently in a relationship. I usually greatly dislike showing that I care about my partner and dislike when my partner shows that they care about me. I don't like strong displays of emotion because they go against the perfect(impossible) emotional neutrality that I so greatly desire.
Unless I am in a very good mood, the words "I love you" make me incredibly uncomfortable. I am in love but I struggle with all of my emotions. I just don't want to feel anything. I will sometimes even lash out and be mean when I feel that my partner is acting too loving/caring towards me or when they require emotional support from me.
I prefer to show that I care in ways that are practical or at least nonverbal and that aren't obviously emotionally charged. Cooking meals or putting my partner's shoes on for them are a couple of examples. I enjoy intimacy and physical displays of affection as long as I am not obliged to verbally communicate my emotions.

[Napoleptic]

How do I show I care to the one I love : I will want to spend as much time as possible with you, I will want to hold your hand and kiss you as often as possible and I may even play with your hair while I do it. Also you can guess what happens in this direction...lets just say I have a high sexual drive when I'm in love. I will listen to what you have been doing all day, even if it may be boring stuff, if it involves you, it will not seem that much of an effort. I may even share stuff about mine,this is a good sign, because I never do that often, I am an introvert after all and if there isn't something out of the ordinary that happened, something that gave me great joy or sorrow, I will not feel the need to share it. I will dream up scenarios for us to have fun together, I will want to do things with you, even if it's just going out to a movie or going on an unplanned trip or whatever. I will think of ways to surprise you, even if it will be just a small thing, like a cookie you could enjoy or a random gift I stumbled upon and thought you'd like (or saw you liked and went back and bought it for you). I may get crazy at times and more open than I normally am because that emotion feeds me energy which makes me like that, if I do that, that's an obvious sign I care. There are probably other which I am missing right now, but that should give you a picture....frankly, it would be enough to look into my eyes to see how much I care, because I'd have a spark whenever I see you.

Get out of my head!

[barbalootSuits]

I don't say much when I'm 'in love'. I can't. There's just too much of it. So people never even notice... im like a love ninja

[Razvan]

I don't say much when I'm 'in love'. I can't. There's just too much of it. So people never even notice... im like a love ninja

Yeah, I know what you mean, I don't say much when I'm in love either, especially if it's not a relationship, if it's in an incipient phase. But when you actually are in a relationship, especially in a long term one so like there is already that bond and everything is out in the open, how do you manifest?

Edit : I think I'm a love ninja too, I love the expression.

[barbalootSuits]

Yeah, I know what you mean, I don't say much when I'm in love either, especially if it's not a relationship, if it's in an incipient phase. But when you actually are in a relationship, especially in a long term one so like there is already that bond and everything is out in the open, how do you manifest?

Edit : I think I'm a love ninja too, I love the expression.

Ahh true. It does change after a while, when you both get that relationship dialogue going. There needs to be that reassurance.......I've found that I end up nagging a lot, fussing and making sure they are comfortable and that's my way of showing it..makes me sad when I feel like I can't just scream it out though sometimes

[Memphisto]

I show I care by spending time with you. I'm very affectionate in a relationship and like quiet time alone together just hanging out and cuddling.

I'm also a doer...I'll go way out of my way to make sure you're comfortable. I listen for the things that you like...then try to make them happen. If I'm out and about and see something that I think you'd like I'll buy it and present you with a small, thoughtful gift.

I'm not big on verbal expressions...but I do like write. So I'll make a card for you and fill it with nice words, then mail it, that type of thing.