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This is a discussion on Hey, 8w7s! within the Type 8 Forum - The Challenger forums, part of the Body Triad - Types 8,9,1 category; Originally Posted by dfoster may be to deter more violence? :-) I've always had a talent to avoid any consequences ...
To be completely honest- I don't really notice nor care how I come across to people when first meeting.
When I'm first introduced to someone, I analyze (aka: "sniff out") their vibe and decide if they're someone I want to associate with or not, LONG before I ever put enough of myself out there for them to analyze me- If the initial vibe I get is "ok" to me, I'll slowly begin to warm up to them.
That being said; I seem to attract people like a magnet, which annoys the heck out of me-I think this has something to do with outwardly appearing more like my 7 wing, in social situations, than anything; Most people who do get to know me are both surprised and delighted by my honest and "no nonsense" nature; though my protective (and slightly overbearing) nature takes more time for others to get used to than most of my other traits. That being said, I do have a filtering system like Swordsman stated his friend has.
There's really no reason to be spooked! I consider myself to be a nice person and if you show me respect, I'll make sure you get it right back. I try and make sure my long standing friends all receive the utmost respect, loyalty, generosity and compassion that I can give.
Last edited by voicetrocity; 05-21-2012 at 10:58 AM. Reason: Changed "their" to "there" and erased some self centered banter- which seemed a lot less narcissistic before I had my coffee.
my dad and various other people i know irl are 8s, i like all of them, and have yet to meet one irl who is at all sociopathic. i'm drawn towards them because they are strong, intense, courageous, emotional at their core, inspiring and protective, and - as an Fe user - feel naturally repulsed by anyone with cruel instincts...if that tells you anything.
power can be used in a healthy way - a lot of 8s use their power to protect others, lead and stand alone for whatever they think, choose, or value. every enneatype can wield their strength in a healthy way, and power can be dangerous in the hands of anyone of any enneatype who does not have the best interest of others at heart.
For me its because I'm extremely emotional, but people don't see it. I have a very loud and vivid inner world which I base my whole being upon, and when someone suggests I'm a heartless monster, its not only very isolating, but devalues who I am. I'm unsure if I should tell them how shallow they are, or if I should take it upon myself to be more expressive.
I really feel bad for you guys if people are calling you sociopaths.
Hate me or love me, they want my approval.
They come to me for decision and reality-checks.