Just stumbled in here a few days ago and I've been reading voraciously; this after devouring 3 books on the Enneagram. (Typical 7 behavior, right?)
ANYWAY... as I began studying the Enneagram I was INSTANTLY sure I was a 2. I'm forever helping others with time, encouragement and money. I've bought several cars for people who needed the help, paid for some house remodeling for a friend whose son was seriously injured after being hit by a car and didn't have any money to change the tub to a shower, install handrails, etc., etc., etc. I happily pay for friends to travel, etc. etc., etc. In short- I love "helping" others... usually to excess. Classic 2, right?
That said- I am the first to admit that in about 95% of these cases it's women I help: usually attractive women who are recently divorced, etc.. Needless to say this causes my wife LOTS of emotional stress- understandably. I feel "drawn" to help these individuals and they really ARE difficult situations where help is desperately needed... but still.
I fit several other aspects of 2ness as well and I absolutely LOVE the positive strokes and feedback my generosity produces from these individuals- but also appreciation from a wider audience as well: "Wow! You're such a great guy- so generous and kind and caring!" 2's can never get enough "attaboys".
Studying further in the Enneagram brought me to sevens. The overwhelmingly dominant force in my life is PURE 7! With plenty of disposable income, I indulge my every passing interest, buying several cars each year, boats, collectibles, musical instruments, etc., etc., etc. Boredom is anathema to me and my mind is continuously swirling with "plans" and researching every new topic under the sun. Yet each acquisition brings ZERO satisfaction after 24 hours and it's on to the next topic or acquisition. It's exhausting frankly. I'm the life of every party, the consummate entertainer, storyteller, sit and there's always a crowd around me. In short- as I read about sevens... it's ME! Start to finish, top to bottom- I'm a seven.
So now... back to the 2 behaviors. I think it's POSSIBLE that each of these individuals (as I said, usually single, attractive women) that need help simply pop onto my radar like the latest guitar or sports car- an appealing, interesting, charming "acquisition" that's really more about exploring something new and shiny than genuinely helping someone for altruistic reasons. There is admittedly almost always a sexual attraction and usually an "energy" between the two of us- though it has never lead to any inappropriate behavior and I wouldn't ever want it to. But it's exciting and "tingly" to experience each new relationship and to genuinely make a difference in someone's difficult situation.
Bottom line: I have NO DOUBT I'm a 7 at my core... actually a 7w6 specifically. But I'm trying to understand HOW this 2-like behavior ties into my 7ness as I want to become more purposeful and integrated in my behavior.