[Lady K]

For starters, the advice isn't from Drake himself, and there's a source listed at the bottom of the post.

I don't think the advice is bad at all. The point isn't to change yourselves, the point is to balance yourselves. Too much of anything is never good. No one is saying to stint your creativity, or to stop doing something.



For example - allowing emotions to entirely rule our life can be very detrimental. I did this for a very long time. As I've gotten older, I have found that controlling them and reflecting is a better, more productive way of operating. It's not that I ignore my emotions, it's that I hold them in, and look at them, find the value in them and decide what is best. My immediate reaction to a situation may be anger, and if I were to let it control me, I could lash out and hurt someone before I've really evaluated the situation and my true feelings. More often than not, initial reactions are irrational and oversensitive. We need to take the time to see the reality of a situation and recognize that things are not always as we first perceive them. I believe in balance. I trust my emotions, but I know that I need to be certain of them first before I act on them.

[VivaCohen]

Paying attention to these things and working towards them really entirely changed my life a few years ago... for the better. I was a really unhealthy 4 at one point, when I was a teenager. I remember reading some of those suggestions years ago and thinking 'no way' lol but they're all true lol

[lalalalalalalala]

I prefer to indulge in my individuality. good...and mostly bad

[Lystac]

These things sounded really good to me. I haven't gotten around to actually sticking to them, looking at them, and fitting them into my life style, but if I did, I'm sure I'd be a happier and healthier person. So why can't I?

[sugarhiccup]

Personal Growth Recommendations
for Enneagram Type Fours

• Do not pay so much attention to your feelings; they are not a true source of support for you, as you probably already know. Remember this advice: "From our present perspective, we can also see that one of the most important mistakes Fours make is to equate themselves with their feelings. The fallacy is that to understand themselves they must understand their feelings, particularly their negative ones, before acting. Fours do not see that the self is not the same as its feelings or that the presence of negative feelings does not preclude the presence of good in themselves" (Personality Types, p. 172). Always remember that your feelings are telling you something about yourself as you are at this particular moment, not necessarily more than that.
• Avoid putting off things until you are "in the right mood." Commit yourself to productive, meaningful work that will contribute to your good and that of others, no matter how small the contribution may be. Working consistently in the real world will create a context in which you can discover yourself and your talents. (Actually, you are happiest when you are working—that is, activating your potentials and realizing yourself. You will not "find yourself" in a vacuum or while waiting for inspiration to strike, so connect—and stay connected—with the real world.
• Self-esteem and self-confidence will develop only from having positive experiences, whether or not you believe that you are ready to have them. Therefore, put yourself in the way of good. You may never feel that you are ready to take on a challenge of some sort, that you always need more time. (Fours typically never feel that they are sufficiently "together," but they must nevertheless have the courage to stop putting off their lives.) Even if you start small, commit yourself to doing something that will bring out the best in you.
• A wholesome self-discipline takes many forms, from sleeping regular hours to working regularly to exercising regularly, and has a cumulative, strengthening effect. Since it comes from yourself, a healthy self-discipline is not contrary to your freedom or individuality. On the other hand, sensuality, excessive sexual experiences, alcohol, drugs, sleep, or fantasizing have a debilitating effect on you, as you already know. Therefore, practice healthy self-discipline and stay with it.
• Avoid lengthy conversations in your imagination, particularly if they are negative, resentful, or even excessively romantic. These conversations are essentially unreal and at best only rehearsals for action—although, as you know, you almost never say or do what you imagine you will. Instead of spending time imagining your life and relationships, begin to live them.

Personal Growth for Enneagram Type Fours

This is exactly what I'm looking for. Thanks a lot for the infos and the link. :)

[Darkestblue]

Avoid lengthy conversations in your imagination, particularly if they are negative, resentful, or even excessively romantic. These conversations are essentially unreal and at best only rehearsals for action—although, as you know, you almost never say or do what you imagine you will. Instead of spending time imagining your life and relationships, begin to live them.

I'm almost offended by this one. I simply can not live without doing this.

[Raichan]

Oh myGod..I feel as if someone looked through my soul

[lunachi]

this is so true.. good advice..

[Milkweed]

This edition of Personal Growth was brought to you by the type...8 :P Thanks Drake


-Edit- I didnt see his source lol Thanks just the same :P

[Drake]

This is exactly what I'm looking for. Thanks a lot for the infos and the link. :)

I am glad that you found this article helpful.

This edition of Personal Growth was brought to you by the type...8 :P Thanks Drake


-Edit- I didnt see his source lol Thanks just the same :P

Your welcome, and unless it is original thoughts from me, I will always try to cite the source material in some manner.