Trouble with a relationship.

[skunky]

Hey All!

I just started dating someone who is a 2w3. From the first date he decided he wanted to marry me, and we only went out twice for short periods of time.He is suffocating in expressing his affection for me. At this point, he is all over me, constantly asking to call, texting me and trying to get into my pants-not physically. He also is always offering to help to the point that its suffocating and he always wants to see me. Granted, he is a nice boy and means well, but I really dont think I want to marry him. Whenever I hint that not all is perfect, he goes crazy and starts analyzing whats wrong and what he did wrong and goes phobic, and will nit pick ANYTHING I say.(He is not in the healthy levels-id say about level 6). What would be the best way to break up with him in the cleanest, nicest way?

[Liminality]

A tad gentle and firm, clear, cool and concise - not cold, but don't bring in warmth which could be at all misconstrued. I could well be wrong, so still stay with your own instincts and experience of him.

[lauradee]

Interesting, my brother is a 2w3 xD
I would say kindly tell him exactly how you feel, probably write it down beforehand so nothing gets misunderstood. At least then he'll know what to do next time.
Avoid mind games, especially if he's fragile.

.. Good luck!

[bethdeth]

You will probably have to resort to being not very nice.....he sounds like he could be a stalker in the making. Not saying he is, but there may be a possibility. Have a contingency plan and don't let him know any plans. Utilise your friends to help you.


With that disaster theory in mind. Be concise. Give him the reasons why, the real reasons. You won't do him or yourself any favours by being wishy washy and nice. They can be misconstrued as she loves me forever but is scared of our love.

Not trying to scare you....just going through to extreme possibilities....I have been stalked before by this kind of person...wasn't fun.

[TurranMC]

This response is a little late but if you still need help know that he will try to guilt trip you no matter what. It is important to remain firm and not let yourself be pulled back in.