I'm new to all this personality stuff.
I did the 16 type tests linked to on this site - and got INFP. Have done it a few times in the last week or so. And it makes sense to me, mostly, even if I think I want to be a little more E.
Some of the negatives things people have written about INFP make absolutely no sense to me. But many things are so true!
Tonight, I just tried the Socionics test, and first got xNFj, with some conflicts. There was a weird decider question, I couldn't for the life of my make a proper choose between the options it offered - they were equally applicable to me! So, I picked one anyway, and it said ENFj, and then I didn't gel with what it summarised about that type. So, I went back and made a decision on the conflicts, and changed my choices so there was no more conflicts between the YES and NO. So, now it says it said INFj.
Is this normal with other INFPs? I'm clearly NF. But, I'm not sure about I or E. And, I'm not sure about P or j.
I think I'm naturally mildly Introverted. So am I an Introvert that is an Extrovert trying to emerge? I still have a need to be recognised, and I would love to be able to get up and speak in front of people. My confidence to speak up is held back by a feeling that others won't care what I have to say! I mean, I lack self confidence with communication. But, I have a high confidence that I have valuable things to say. So, it's not that I think what I want to say is not valuable, it's just that I don't think others will necessarily want to be told by me - and I'm not sure of the best way to communicate. I mean, people can work out things for themselves - who am I to tell them new things? Does this confusion make sense?
I get terrible anxiety when public speaking. I can do it sometimes, but sweat terribly, and once I 'froze' up with anxiety - and needed to be 'rescued'. Is that because I am an introvert, or because my Intuition and Feeling are too strong and prevent me from acting extrovert like I want?
Also, not clear on the P or j thing. I can be quite scientific and good at maths and engineering type things, I think I'm logical when I want to be. I can think through extremely complex issues and have layers of thoughts that include a range from concrete to very abstract - and I can also consider feelings and other peoples emotions in my thinking. I think of it as like big picture type thinking, but built bottom up to the top. I also have the ability to switch at will towards fantasy and emotional/spiritual and break free from the logic that is used in common reality, but even that is just a different type of reasoning.
I do procrastinate, and others might see me as disorganised, even though I know where all my things are - I'm just organised in my own way - based on a priority of time and effort! So, these things make me think I am P, but can act J very easily when I choose. Does that seem right?