As for getting things done--and through other people? I really don't struggle with that at all. Srsly. I can make a half dozen phone calls and I will have 30-40 people mobilized and ready to work in a matter of hours, should the need arise. All volunteer, and all ready to do whatever I direct them to do. I've worked hard to develop this level of trust in the people I know, and I've surrounded myself with the very best of the best. You want it done? I can get it done. Through other people. Willingly.
Until you've tasted the responsibility that comes with serving others, you don't have a clue about authority.