SJs, What Are You Looking For in a Relationship?

[pinkrasputin]

Oops. Accident. Sorry, not on topic with thread.

[Ryu]

Originally Posted by WickedQueen

How do you define things that you looking for in a relationship? How do you find it?

I'm 25, and I found myself wiling to find a partner for marriage. What I afraid most of is if I fall with a person that is not loyal, or a person whose easily gave up upon the relationship without even trying to talk about it, or a person who blindly accept me and then when he saw my flaws that he haven't seen before, he would just lost his feelings and go away.

So I think I'm trying to find someone that is not only loyal, but also trustworthy, someone who could keep his words no matter what, even though the world is keep moving and life changing. Someone who takes relationship seriously and responsible for it.

I also like a person who makes me feel special. I've met some guys who gave me their compliments, yet they give the same compliments to another girls. I don't need to be a genius to know what will happen next, and I was right. They jumped from one girl to another, repeatedly using the same old lame compliments to each of those girls. Disgusting.

Age is also important for me. Somehow I use it to picture his maturity and experiences. This is why I prefer someone whose older than me.

Other will be religion, because I'm attached to my religion. I'm looking for a person from the same religion as me, or at least someone who doesn't mind to follow my beliefs.


The next question will be, how do you show your love to your partner?

I'm not really into words, I'm more of "walk the talk" person.

Like: I give him massage when he said he's tired, I make him his favorite breakfast, I don't call him when I know he's busy, I give him space for me-time or to hangout with his friends, I make sure I deal with my own problems so I won't bother him with my shit, tell jokes that I know he love just to make him laughs, organized his clothes, cleaning his shoe, framed his little picture beside my computer at office, cuddles him when he snuggles, or rub his back and kisses him slowly while he's sleeping.

Overall, it's the little things that I do that shows him how much important he is in my life, little things that he probably won't even noticed of.

How about you?

Pretty much exactly the same, really. Just looking for that in a woman. Although, age doesn't really matte that much. IDK if I expect someone older than me, necessarily.

To add on...
I think I'm looking for someone more reserved than me though, because they seem calmer, and I appreciate that calmness. But calmness, someone who is a bit more skilled at relationships than I am (I 'know a lot about how they work', but I'm not someone who is an F type), and a good ethical disposition. Throw in an interest in the world and openness to my (other) interests, and I'd like that.

Also if she's up for physical activity and staying somewhat in shape, that would be nice, too.

[Lady K]

I'm a lot like tinker when it comes to how I view romantic relationships. Not surprising really, since we're both ISFJs. I agreed with every single criteria he named for someone he'd be interested in. The religion part was the only slight discrepancy, but only because I'm undecided about my personal beliefs. I would respect those of my partner though - I've known a couple or two where they each practice something different and still get along. If my partner is religious in a way that is different than I am, I'd like to have a relationship like that.

I generally prefer older men, simply for the maturity aspect, but I've met a guy or two who were younger than me and still mature. Men who don't have their driver's license need not apply (I've run into that before, and it's horribly inconvenient sometimes). I want my relationship to be very mutual and balanced (except perhaps in bed.. I'm a bit of a submissive when it comes to lovemaking).

As for how I love - I'm also very affectionate. I love physical contact, cuddling, kissing, hand holding. It doesn't even have to be sex, I just like to be close to people. I love giving random surprises, and doing special things with my partner. Sometimes simple is better - it's fun to go out for dinner, but I also love picnics and lazing about a park.