Dominance and Submission

Submission has always been a complete turn off for me. To me it means she's not interested & if she's not, I'm not. I know that a lot of women like being dominated but that just rubs me the wrong way.

I have the energy of a dominant person but I turn it all inward to control myself, and to be considerate of others, so I'd say I'm aggressively submissive. I'm not at all attracted to the idea of having to control someone, and really I don't allow others to control me either, but I like my partner to be more proactive and suggest a course of action or make the first move and I'll work from there if I agree.

Hmmmm... I'd say that I'm a pretty dominant person out in the world. I'm not particularly "dominant" in a traditional sense, but I like being in control of situations. I'm pretty "go with the flow" most of the time, but when I REALLY need something to be done as I want it to be done, I get my way 99% of the time.

In terms of mine and my boyfriend's relationship, I'm definitely the more dominant on the "social" aspect. I feel very much in control of the relationship, and am not in any way submissive.

HOWEVER, in terms of bedroom-type antics, I prefer him to be more dominant. I dont necessarily enjoy being "dominated", I just like the idea that he is in control and that he is strong, and manly and tough etc. haha... Its hard to explain, I dont know why that is. Its like a flip-flop for me haha... kind of an instinctual thing, I dunno

Am I the only person who's really submissive? Especially in the bedroom (yes, I like being dominated xD) and in r/ships. I like not being the one in control and I'm attracted to dominance. I am quite a big, loud personality and so in some ways I could be said to be a 'dominant' personality. Especially in conversation...and definitely when I'm doing anything creative with someone I like to have my ideas heard and it really pees me off if I don't feel listened to. For everyday chores and routines I like to be equal, and in fact wouldn't settle for less. But when it comes to things like making tough decisions and romance and just relationships in general I am completely submissive.

In everyday life I try to achieve some balance with a partner. Sexually, I am dominant.

I think im submissive in things coz i just dont care about them, although id be dominant in things i do care about. Being totally submissive would just make me feel useless, and I hate being controlled. In a relationship I may be the more submissive one in terms of the household (ie buying things, cooking etc) coz it really isnt that important to me, but id be dominant in enforcing the morals, attitudes etc

I tend to be dominant in intellectual areas but submissive in physical and practical areas.

e.g. one can tell me where to set up my computer but they will not tell me what I can use it for.

Euch. This, right here, is reason I can't have a successful relationship. Maybe a majority of people are programmed that way it certainly seems as much.

As always I can only speak for myself, but I want an equal in all things. In the bedroom I find the ideas of dominance, and submission ill defined to say the least. I want a sparring partner on the sexual, emotional, and intellectual levels thank you very much. The idea of dominance and submission is just gross to me. How can you love someone who is your master, or your slave? (The concepts of dominance and submission taken to extremes.)

Originally Posted by Rakshasa

Euch. This, right here, is reason I can't have a successful relationship. Maybe a majority of people are programmed that way it certainly seems as much.

As always I can only speak for myself, but I want an equal in all things. In the bedroom I find the ideas of dominance, and submission ill defined to say the least. I want a sparring partner on the sexual, emotional, and intellectual levels thank you very much. The idea of dominance and submission is just gross to me. How can you love someone who is your master, or your slave? (The concepts of dominance and submission taken to extremes.)

some people just prefer to take charge of certain situations and other people others, and are happy with the partner taking charge of a situation they are not comfortable with/ arent very good at. but i agree id like an equal relationship overall, but id prefer a partner who can take charge of situations in which im not very good at, with me taking charge in the areas that i am/she is not

Dominant all the way through. I have this natural assumption in general that I'm in charge. Even my penis hate to be in a submissive position :)