My problem is this...

Originally Posted by Catenaccio

I have a very clear idea of the kind of girl I want to be with. The trouble is I usually only know one such girl at a given time (at different times through work or studies), and usually due to the below attributes, they are very hard work. Also for me, because I do not drink much or love to go to parties (I only sometimes go), it means that if I am seeing a girl, I do not have many distractions from her, and become completely dependent on that one relationship. For her it is easier to have lots of guys following her, because obviously if she is a pretty girl and single, it doesn't matter that she doesn't drink, she will have fun at parties anyway.

So then I become very weak and show her too much that she needs me, and then they get bored.

Anyway here are some of the things I look for, and I think this is why my life is difficult, and I am always stressed about a girl, instead of just having fun like it seems most guys my age can do:

(I am not a hypocrite also, I set high standards for myself as well, I work very hard to be successful, and I take good care of myself).

• Feminine and pretty/beautiful (depends).
• Takes good care of body and appearance (I do the same), including clothes - not necessarily exaggerated, I prefer a "professional" dressing style day to day, and elegant at parties.
• Introverted and reserved.
• Rarely to never drinks, no drugs, ESPECIALLY not weed.
• Not a party animal.
• Good education level, well spoken, but not an intellectual.
• Respectable family which sets high standards for her (not necessarilly rich though).

My advice: Don't look for a girl. Have fun with life. Otherwise, you'll miss it. If you're searching for it, then you'll always be picky. Just see where it takes you. In addition, before having a partner, you need to be accepting and loving to yourself. You can't love another if you don't love you or accept your self-worth. If you do find a partner and don't have these things, then you'll get the feeling of needing to be with her rather than choosing to. You might base your self-worth and focus more on yourself rather than your partner's needs and wants.

That's my opinion, anyway.

Originally Posted by Catenaccio

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• Feminine and pretty/beautiful (depends).
• Takes good care of body and appearance (I do the same), including clothes - not necessarily exaggerated, I prefer a "professional" dressing style day to day, and elegant at parties.
• Introverted and reserved.
• Rarely to never drinks, no drugs, ESPECIALLY not weed.
• Not a party animal.
• Good education level, well spoken, but not an intellectual.
• Respectable family which sets high standards for her (not necessarilly rich though).

I'd like to say that you are the male, me. Now if you are in the Illinois area and happen to like african american who are bigger but on a weightlost plan, then contact me via inbox. LMAO

Sadly I'm in the UK! :( But now Ilinois will be my next stop XD

Originally Posted by Catenaccio

Sadly I'm in the UK! :( But now Ilinois will be my next stop XD

haahaha :P

Some girls/women, don't understand a good man when they get one, especially when they are used to corruption. I've seen this with my own four eyes. I love men who are reserved and don't need attention, because i'm like that. All I need is a guy that is willing to travel every now and again. However, parties aren't my thing either..LOL

Song for the girl who broke my heart. Translated from Spanish, the lyrics fit her 100%, like it was written for her:

You are going girl, if you want to what can I do
Your Vanity doesn't allow you to understand
That in poverty you can love
I want to cry and it destroys me that you think like this,
But more than being without you,
It hurts me to know how much you will suffer.

But remember, nobody is perfect and you will realize,
You may get a thousand better things,
But never sincere affection.
Forget that which you leave behind today,
For the adventures that you will now have,
Will be your prison which you will never escape.