Women: How old is too old?

**Zster** · 05-15-2012 09:31 AM

Originally Posted by perennialurker

It's wonderful to see so many women responding to this. And to see so many of them actually reading my terribly long posts before quoting them.

You gave us, what, 30 whole minutes in the middle of the night on a weekday? SHAME on us! (;

**Zster** · 05-15-2012 09:35 AM

Originally Posted by Mulberries

Nonsense. No one is ever too old for a serious relationship.

This. Individuals might place a cap on it at certain stages of their lives (newsflash - we are ALL aging), but there certainly is no set date. Though, I am fine if many think that way, more selection for ME!

I just turned 48. Anyone between the ages of 35 and 60 might potentially work for me. I like to keep my options open. By your example, 35 is almost too young, given my age. (;

**jayde** · 05-15-2012 10:16 AM

Originally Posted by perennialurker

I recently heard that once a man reaches 35 and is single (and never previously married), he is increasingly seen as no longer worth it. To women: Is this true? I have always heard that women have fairly early "expiration" dates if you will, but never men. At what age do you think men become too old to pursue a serious relationship with? I'd appreciate brutally honest answers.

As others have stated in their answers, it really depends on why the man is still single and what his relationship history is. Marriage is pretty much irrelevant in today's era of common-law relationships. However, if a man is mid-thirties or older and has never so much as had a serious relationship, that's a huge red flag for me. It's not a deal breaker, but definitely a red flag.

IMO, there is no such thing as "too old" to pursue a relationship. My partner is 17 years older than me. I met him when I was 28 and he was 45. He had never been married. There are definitely issues regarding "time of life" with age gap relationships but very few of them are insurmountable. It really comes down to what both parties want to do with their lives rather than how old they are.

**Indigo Aria** · 05-15-2012 11:30 AM

It depends how old I am. I'm 21 now, and probably wouldn't date a guy older than say...28 or 29. But age is relative. When I'm 28, if I happen to be single, I may date up to a 40 year old guy. And as others have mentioned, I require some amount of maturity...which I often don't find in guys my age. In some ways, older is better, I just don't wanna be dating someone I have to worry about croaking on my future kids...

**Curiously** · 05-15-2012 01:30 PM

I've heard of that expiration date for women. I remember one male friend saying this about Asian women in particular, "They're fine for a long while, but one day, they just hit a wall and get old." That felt really good hearing it from him... Thank goodness for retinol! Anyway, half joking aside, I don't think there's a particular "too old" for men; it really depends on the person. What if I'm 80 and still available to mingle with a nice man? I wouldn't think his being 90 or 100 is so bad. It's relative, really.

**alexande** · 05-15-2012 02:05 PM

Originally Posted by MuChApArAdOx

Men are still boys until the age of 30.

When do girls become woman?

**MyName** · 05-15-2012 02:09 PM

Considering that there's a substantial number of women in their 20's who won't date anyone at least 30, I would say 35 is probably not too old.

And there's no good reason why someone wouldn't date someone their own age. I think women might view men in their 30's the way men view women in their 20's.

**Tulipgarden** · 05-15-2012 02:22 PM

No way, the older the better for me. I like the fact that my husband is 8 years old than me, nearly 9 years. He will be 47 very soon. I was attracted to the fact that he is stable, settled down and knew what he wanted. I always liked older men.

However, I did date this guy who was 20 years older than me and I think it only creeped me out because he really looked a lot like me Dad. I just couldn't do it.

Ok, my daughter has this amazing boyfriend and they are the same age. He is 19. I love that kid! I thought she was nuts for not cashing in on that check a long time ago. Sometimes, age is just a number, I guess but I am still going to say that I prefer an older guy.