What people tell me NOT to do when I have a crush:
- don't constantly think about them
- don't worry about everything you say and do around them
- don't put them on a pedestal
What I do when I have a crush:
- I constantly think about him
- I worry about everything I say and do around him
- I put him on a pedestal
It always happens: before I become obsessed with my crushes, our relationship goes fine. But then when I realise that I like them, it all goes downhill! I become pedantic and daydream about them and this really puts me out of sync with reality.
This ruined my relationship with one INTJ who I liked (and he really liked me back too). Now I'm crushing on a new guy (a young ESTJ for reference) and I'm noticing I'm sliding into obsession mode again - not a good sign!
My current situation is this: So ESTJ and I only just started getting to know each other a few weeks ago but we flirt and he seems to like me as a person. He seems like an interesting guy so I was initially mildly attracted. We talk a lot IRL but on a social networking site too. The danger sign began when I asked him something on said social networking site and he didn't reply - I freaked out and thought about it all day!
I really hate it when I get obsessed. As I said, obsession ruins everything. How can one stop themselves from obsession?
Is there some sort of psychological reasoning behind my behaviour? Am I like, super insecure or is my life lacking something?
Lastly, I don't know how much this has to do with me being an ENFP, but if you have any type-specific advice, do post it on this thread.
I really want your input everyone. Thanks!