Halp! First time dating, EVER.

Long story short, I'm a late bloomer, and I just had my first date a little less than a week ago.

I've been talking to this guy I found on OkCupid since the beginning of the month. We've been texting and video chatting since then, and yeah I finally met him last weekend. I was thinking that I might be super awkward and he'd be turned off once he met me, but noap! I felt completely comfortable around him and we were chatting for hours.

So, basically, I like him a hell of a lot more now that I've met him, and I'm supposed to see him again Saturday night. We have a LOT in common (it's kinda ridiculous how much), but I guess that because of that, my friends keep warning me to "make sure he knows you want to be more than friends with him" -- how? I mean, we did meet on a dating site, so I think that should be a big hint, haha. I mean, we haven't said or talked about anything that two friends wouldn't talk about, I guess, but then again we've only met once.

I suppose I'm a little unsure of how much he likes me so I haven't said much about that. I kinda wonder if he's thinking the same? We're both kind of passive... lol.

I guess this whole description might be kind of vague so let me know if you all need more details... and thanks for your time! :)

Here is a piece of advice that you won't find in a magazine.

Tell him how you feel, where you want to go, and ask if he feels the same.

We're not mindreaders, so don't act like we will instantly know everything you feel.

I can't think of any specific advice to give, other than be yourself. I didn't have a relationship until my early 20s, when I met my now-husband. He is ten years my senior, and had never had a relationship before his 30s. He was very afraid to look for a woman the older he got, as he was afraid that he would be judged for never having kissed anyone, let alone anything beyond that. But I think there are more important things in life than the age at which you first had a date/relationship. I'm drawn to uniqueness and I am honest to a fault, so when he admitted the stuff about never having been with a woman, I remember thinking, "I'm not surprised that this is the case. And I'm very impressed that he could be honest about it." So, yeah. I think whatever you do, just try to be authentic. I believe that in order for a relationship to last (if you end up in one with this person), then there must be trust and present from all parties involved.

You'll be fine. :)

An easy way I can tell if a woman is into me is body language. If a girl is hugging, kissing, holding my hand often, I start to think she might be interested in being more then friends.

I would also just see how the next date goes. Even though you may have some self-doubts, it's usually pretty obvious when two people are into each other. I also met my partner online, and while it wasn't my first date ever, he had very little experience and we were both pretty nervous. On our second date at the end I was pretty sure he wanted to kiss me but he was afraid of making the first move so I finally just said..."so...can we kiss now?" And we took off from there. We didn't have an actual relationship discussion for a few weeks when it became obvious that despite not talking about it, we were in a serious relationship.

It is possible to get into the friend zone with someone you're dating. To prevent this, make sure you have some kind of intimate contact by the end of the third date (a kiss on the lips -even a peck- goodnight). As sleepyhead pointed out, no ones going to complain if you ask. Things get awkward after a couple dates if you don't.

You can show your interest by finding reasons to touch him during the date. Like, if you're both standing up, brush his shoulder or adjust his collar. Something where you have plausible deniability, but you've pricked his space bubble.

I'd also have a plan for the next activity in case he doesn't try to set up the next date. By this I mean, if you get to the end of the second date and he hasn't mentioned something else, mention the thing you were thinking about doing and invite him. That way, you don't have to wait for him to call you. That part always sucks; the not being sure of when are we getting together next.

Like @LittleB1, I didn't have any dating experience until my 20's. And like her, he is now my husband.

All I can say is, no one is a mindreader and contrary to popular belief, I would be upfront about what your expectations are. We live in a world of facades when it comes to relationships and people treat each other as if it's all part of some game, but in reality people's feelings get hurt, they change their life plans to accommodate for others even though they fall through, and they waste their time. If he runs off, he wasn't ready to handle a relationship. My husband was honest with me from the get-go about his expectations and feelings, and I am glad he was instead of playing some game. It helps to know what the other person expects or feels, to help you put your own perspective into frame.

This is a super late reply, but I read everyone's responses and yeah, I've been a bit more forward and direct I think.

So, on the 5th date, we went from not even holding hands to sexin' in one night and now he's my boyfriend. Olol. I think we were both just holding back quite a bit.

first of all gratz

second, don't worry, go with the flow and relax, enjoy your time with him and let things happen when they do

there are no objectives here, it's all freestyle

third, I'm quite surprised you met someone you like online

Originally Posted by alyssa_

This is a super late reply, but I read everyone's responses and yeah, I've been a bit more forward and direct I think.

So, on the 5th date, we went from not even holding hands to sexin' in one night and now he's my boyfriend. Olol. I think we were both just holding back quite a bit.

YAY! I'm glad things are working out! Late bloomers for the win!