Online Dating Sucks for Guys :/

Originally Posted by Peripheral

Yeah, I've read that article.

So have I
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Originally Posted by pretty.Odd

That reminds me of the whole OkCupid statistics about how people, on average, respond less to black females and Asian males compared to other demographics.

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Originally Posted by pretty.Odd

That reminds me of the whole OkCupid statistics about how people, on average, respond less to black females and Asian males compared to other demographics.

Lol. I'll never do online dating then. Ever. I guess it really says something about how people really are, no?

Okay to actually contribute something:

I was on OKCupid for about 2 or so years. In this time I went on 3 dates. Not much. I probably sent 400-500+ messages over the 2 or so year time span. I never sent rude or nasty messages, I tried to sound creative and all that shit. A few would talk a bit, answer a few questions, then fall off the grid. Most did not respond.

edit: forgot to add - I can remember the messages I received - one was from a woman in her 40's - looked like spam, was asking to see her "website", another assumed i was into anime... i know nothing about it, found that offensive, and another was someone in the "not appealing" category if you will, according to the racial study, asking me how my chances were lol...

I do understand that women receive a lot of messages so I'm not knocking that.

As to the racial study, I do think there is some validity to it. I don't think it's just chance, I think their sample size was decent.

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Interestingly, one of my friends (white guy) was on the site while I was. I would consider us about the same

- both in okay shape
- both about average in the looks dept
- went to same school - both have okay jobs
- similar beliefs
- similar interests
- biggest difference? i am 5'8 and asian and he is 6'0 and white.

now now please don't say oh you are painting us a biased picture. i have known my friend since high school and he agreed we are about in the same boat.

so how did his results fare? i think he went on 30-40 dates, and actually dated 2-3 girls for a few months. he also rarely sent out messages, most women messaged him.

I'm not about to complain, just sharing my experience. Life is what it is.

>> IF you have anything to add like oh you are ugly or you are too short or you are asian!....I'd love to hear it..lol

Originally Posted by Chipps

Lol. I'll never do online dating then. Ever. I guess it really says something about how people really are, no?

Online dating is pretty depressing in general IMO. Unless you're an attractive white person, or an attractive Asian female or light skinned Latina, then online dating, hell dating IRL, is going to be tough.

Originally Posted by pretty.Odd

Online dating is pretty depressing in general IMO. Unless you're an attractive white person, or an attractive Asian female or light skinned Latina, then online dating, hell dating IRL, is going to be tough.

Oh this is true. I think its something a lot of people just don't want to admit IRL. Im glad there are statistics to prove the behavior exists. Now people can't deny it happens.

Originally Posted by Kyandigaru

Sorry buddy, you missed another category and that is, [*] The girls who guys may not even consider dating because the guy can be a bit too shallow...

Once people can understand body, looks (race) should mean NOTHING in finding a meaningful relationship, they will find that one someone who will make their life much easier. I know we all have "our types", however if you're willing to be flexible then the dating pool seems to get bigger..

That's true but it is often hard to figure out what makes such a person attractive until you actually meet that person IRL and talk to him/her..when you just read a profile and look at pics..it's often hard not to be somewhat shallow.