Intelligent, fit & healthy, and moderately attractive, aka where's the girl?

I really hope I don't come off as incredibly arrogant, or even a little bit.... but I was ruminating on whether girls I talked to easily in school, but not easily on facebook, were being annoyed by me.

This lead me to think about my qualities as they have grown over the years, I'm highly intelligent, and that's a common fact in my classes, as i'm always called upon when there is a hard problem to solve, by teachers and classmates alike.

I'm fit and healthy, I know this because although I live a sedentary lifestyle, I have a high metabolism, healthy diet, and I work out daily, which has produced a 6 pack & some baby pecs

Not too sure about the attractiveness, I know i'm nothing worse than average, but I recently got a new haircut, and at least 13+ pretty girls commented on how nice it looked, and 1 that I have a crush on (she doesn't know) talked with me for the rest of the period, so i'm inclined to believe that i'm above average in the looks department.

With all these qualities that I was reasonably assured of, I started to wonder what girl wouldn't want to talk to me, and indeed, many of the new girls I meet are more flirty and touchy than i've noticed before, although this may be because i'm being slightly more extraverted.

But i'm still getting mixed signals from the girls i've talked to for a while, with them appearing to enjoy talking to me in person. however, they become evasive and unresponsive when I try facebook messaging and texting them. This really confuses me.

I really want to figure if they truly want to talk to me, or if they're just being nice, because if it's the latter, I want to stop as soon as possible, lest I be taken for a creep again.

You need some game, son! ;) Hot-cold.

Dating is a game. There are a lot of unspoken expectations, you'll have to learn them to learn to play.
The best way to do that is try and fail, over and over again.

Failing that don't play, but your question suggests you'd want the ball.

You'll get more relevant answers if you tell people your age.

Sounds like she's just a huge flake.

If you've noticed that the attention you're getting has "increased" after a change in look, then that ought to be a red flag.

What happens when you change your look again and it's no longer as appealing? Or what happens if you get fat, or something like that? You can't expect yourself to look a certain way for the rest of your life. If someone's interest level in me changes based on how look, then I consider that a warning sign now. Yeah, I too fell for the "Oh, you're so handsome!" bit for my ex. It played up on my self-value. "Hey, she thinks I'm good looking, smart, intelligent. Maybe there's real love there!!" Sadly, it turned out that I remained smart and intelligent, and my looks changed [I got fat cuz of a disability] -- as my looks left, so did my ex - despite us being together for 7 years. Not saying that was the only reason --- but it was certainly one of the biggest.

Originally Posted by Jawz

If you've noticed that the attention you're getting has "increased" after a change in look, then that ought to be a red flag.

What happens when you change your look again and it's no longer as appealing? Or what happens if you get fat, or something like that? You can't expect yourself to look a certain way for the rest of your life. If someone's interest level in me changes based on how look, then I consider that a warning sign now. Yeah, I too fell for the "Oh, you're so handsome!" bit for my ex. It played up on my self-value. "Hey, she thinks I'm good looking, smart, intelligent. Maybe there's real love there!!" Sadly, it turned out that I remained smart and intelligent, and my looks changed [I got fat cuz of a disability] -- as my looks left, so did my ex - despite us being together for 7 years. Not saying that was the only reason --- but it was certainly one of the biggest.

Is that really relevant for the OP? It sucks that a woman left you because she was only into your looks, but that doesn't seem to be what's happening to the OP.

A woman can get all pretty and get the guys...men generally gotta get some game. I agree with the other poster, learn game man. Not that PUA crap either. I frequent a few "good" game blogs and a lot of the info there is just about how men and women interact differently when it comes to dating and attraction triggers.

Originally Posted by MNiS

Is that really relevant for the OP? It sucks that a woman left you because she was only into your looks, but that doesn't seem to be what's happening to the OP.

It is relevant to the OP' ... The OP is asking for potential possibilities of why the girls are behaving that way towards him. So I gave him one with an example.

So they appear to enjoy your company, until you start sending them facebook/text messages? Maybe you're coming across as creepy or overly forward or something... I dunno. I could be wrong. What kinds of messages are you sending them anyway, if I'm not being too nosy? And how often are you doing this?

I'm assuming that they gave you their numbers, right? You didn't just get their numbers from friends and start texting them out of nowhere... right? Sorry, I'm just checking... :P

Hey, it is possible that they're just being flaky, like someone already said. It just seems strange to me that they would act so friendly towards you in person and then act all avoidant when you try messaging them.

Since you mentioned "period", I assume you're in high school. In high school, social status counts for a lot more than anything else unfortunately. Many lone wolves can be incredibly hot, intelligent, fit, interesting, etc., but a lot of insecure sheepish high school girls want the validation of going out with someone popular and socially confident. You might get lucky and find a girl who is also awesome and independent, but that's going to be the exception to the rule for now.

Try your best and develop some game. Both of you will be awkward about it so even if she is into you, it may not result in anything. Just take the opportunity to take chances and improve your game. By the time you hit University, your attributes will be a lot more appealing.