Why are men attracted to an older woman?

I’ve got a head full of questions today and not sure why. But I am going to post a few of them so maybe I can get some answers.

Younger men have always been attracted to me but I am not sure why. Less men my age seem to be attracted to me and I am not sure why. This was so even when I was a teenager. I am not attracted to them in return because the feel like my younger brother.

I'd think it really depends on the person, and that it's a generalization if you are saying they are mainly into younger women. I have known insecure men who are into much younger mates though, because the younger ones were less experienced, more submissive, and easy to dominate. There is also a theory on pedophiles about how they must have experienced some unrequited love when an awkward adolescent, and that they never had the closure to develop past that phase of sexual attraction- if that makes sense (not sure I worded it well).

I'm not sure if this is completely related to your post, but I was confused about something. The question was about men being attracted to younger women, but they you say that many guys younger than you are attracted to you.

I really just think it's something complex, and specific to the individual.

Why are older men attracted to younger women? My only guess is some crazy fantasies they've got going on in their heads that they want fulfilled, and the younger woman is typically capable of providing that.

Notice that, while older men are typically attracted to women much younger than them, they usually will not think about 'settling down' with the younger woman; they want someone closer to their own age for that. The younger woman is seen as having more energy in the sack.

The same can be said for women though. Why do so many younger women like to go after attractive, older men? My guess is for the money.


EDIT::: I also want to say that this doesn't apply to all men and/or women. The smallest age gap between a couple in my family is 5 years; before they got married, however, the smallest was 8 years. Most in my family are 9-20 years apart from one another, and from what I can see it's not for the money. So there are exceptions.

Sorry for the confusion. I am deep into my head today and when I get like this I don't communicate very well.

I meant why are men attracted to older woman. I understand what you say about the thing that happens in adolescents. Insecure younger men seem to be attracted to me and when I get to know them I find out some of them were molested by older sisters. That kind of thing can cause problems for a lifetime.

Originally Posted by Hurting

Sorry for the confusion. I am deep into my head today and when I get like this I don't communicate very well.

I meant why are men attracted to older woman. I understand what you say about the thing that happens in adolescents. Insecure younger men seem to be attracted to me and when I get to know them I find out some of them were molested by older sisters. That kind of thing can cause problems for a lifetime.

Hahaha.. maybe there is just something really likable about you.

Anyway, younger men, I have found that the more precocious of them like the intelligence and experience of someone older, rather than most their age who are still acting like silly teens.

Originally Posted by Promethea

Anyway, younger men, I have found that the more precocious of them like the intelligence and experience of someone older, rather than most their age who are still acting like silly teens.

This right here pretty much sums me up. I just can't seem to relate to most girls my age since most of them are still acting like silly teens. I've found that I always seem to get along better and feel more relaxed around people older than I am. That's why I'm dating someone who's a few years older than me.

I have had 20 your olds chasing after me and I am 40 years old. I could have had a child that age. I told him he was like a son to me. I don't think he liked that very much. I don't think I am that likeable either. I am just a typical INFP.

Originally Posted by Hurting

I have had 20 your olds chasing after me and I am 40 years old. I could have had a child that age. I told him he was like a son to me. I don't think he liked that very much. I don't think I am that likeable either. I am just a typical INFP.

Cougar. Rawrrrr. ; P

He likes your sensitivity, intelligence, and experience. I think it's sweet. Also, maybe you shouldn't rule them out -just- because of the age difference, if they do have the maturity that it takes to be in a relationship.

Yes, I have met some really mature younger men. All I can picture them is when I am 60 and they are 40 and full of life. What then? Me left alone as a 60 year old. Not a pretty picture.

Originally Posted by Hurting

Yes, I have met some really mature younger men. All I can picture them is when I am 60 and they are 40 and full of life. What then? Me left alone as a 60 year old. Not a pretty picture.

Good news is that most relationships won't last that long anyway. Lol. It's good, and fun, until it's not anymore- but aren't they mostly that way regardless of age. There is no way to safeguard any relationships from what the future holds. We have to try to enjoy it in the moment, I think- which I know is hard to do. I am an N too, and always thinking about the future, but I have realized I miss so much if I just worry about it and not enjoy something good that I have at the time. *Shrug*

Or hold out for someone closer to your age. I don't see why that isn't reasonable too, if it is indeed that important to ya.