I am not sure why, but I seem to have trouble finding a boyfriend.
Physically, I am considered to be a very sultry girl (coming from many male friends). I am very intelligent (doing a master's degree at a top university). Personality wise, I have a bit of chameleon personality (can strike a conversation with pretty much anyone). I don't have too many interests, except I like to party a little (clubbing and drinks).
I am 23 now, but I have never had a meaningful relationship. I have dated many; most of them only lasted a few weeks to a few months before I can't handle it (I felt like they are not good enough). In fact, all of my relationships started that way. I rarely liked the guys enough to pursue anything romantic, but when they were pushy enough, I accepted these 'free rides' due to convenience. My last relationship actually lasted almost 9 months, but it was on and off. I kept on breaking up with the guy because I thought he was wasting my time, but I kept on getting back because the sex was too good to say no to. Eventually I somehow managed to have feeling for this guy, but it wasn't reciprocated. I guess it is through him I learned to appreciate that emotional closeness.
The past few weeks I have gone on a few blind dates, but they weren't successful. During the dates, the guys acted nervous. I thought nervousness are good signs. Gone on a second date with one of them, but that was it. He didn't text back afterwards.
I do not understand why. I dressed well - not over the top but definitely clothing that showed off my killer curves. I was articulate - I talked a lot about career plans and my thesis (things that are on my mind all the time). I was considerate - never asked what their income is or ordered crazy expensive things off the menu.
I am wondering if it is because I came across as too ambitions and too much of a boss lady (by talking about career plans etc). But my physique is very feminine, shouldn't that make everything tolerable/okay?
Any feedback/comment are appreciated.