INTJ Relationships

I'm currently a single mum and finding it so hard to meet anyone new.
My son's father I think" was the complete opposite of me, an ESFP and I met him when I used to go raving.
You might be thinking, "why is an INTJ raving". lol
Well... I feel through music. I love music, dancing and drinking and I went through a stage of partying all the time.
Well anyway..
I've now been single for a year and It made me wonder.
Where on earth does an INTJ single mum meet someone new, someone like themselves?
I'm quite adventurous and can be outgoing if I have the energy, but this tends to attract the opposites, because they think im always outgoing.
I'm not needy, I'm very much a loner and being with just anyone doesnt interest me, too be honest it makes me cringe. I hate being touched by people who I dont want to be touched by. So seeing people and dating people, just for fun, really isnt fun for me.
So ... what are your suggestions?
I have few friends, but they arent really on my level, so when they introduce me to their mates and guy friends. I'm never interested.

Wow that sounds shallow.. By level I mean, they are complete opposites to me and are mostly young and want to go out all the time.

Without wanting to start a type debate; what you've said, and more over the way you presented it strikes me as very un-INTJ - are you certain you've typed yourself correctly?

Certainly isn't helpful for the problem at hand, though.

Unfortunately however, in order to meet new people you'll have to leave your comfort zone, plain and simple. Eventually you'll get used to it, though. Experience is what makes the world go round and inhibitions disappear.

I'm not certain 100% no. I'm Introverted, Intuitive, ???, Judger... def but im unsure whether I lean more thinker or feeler. I'm certainly not intune with peoples feelings unless I think about it first

Now you've confused me. I just took another test and says ISTJ great!!! Back to square one lol