This is a discussion on Bisexuals within the Sex and Relationships forums, part of the Topics of Interest category; I've become bored with things to an extent, but only after doing them repeatedly ruined the novelty. If I happen ...
I've become bored with things to an extent, but only after doing them repeatedly ruined the novelty. If I happen across any previously uncovered urge in the right mood, it'll work for me. Would you say that's consistent with said urge going away, or sticking around to some point perpetually, or what? I'm curious.
I don't know...it's possible that certain urges just haven't returned to me yet. But there are things that sexually interested me at one point in the past that don't really anymore. But it's possible they could be lying dormant and might return eventually.Originally Posted by ManhattanINTP
For you, it depends on whether you felt them when they were suppressed in some form and just weren't in the mood. I think a desire can go away and reform for a different reason. Every time a memory or association in the brain is accessed, it changes. Hence listening to a song too much and losing your emotional appreciation for it. I think it can work that way for sex too. It can reform, but by looking for different pathways.
It is also possible that you as an individual may not have experienced change in sexual taste, which I suppose is possible.
Well, I've pretty consistently become bored of things and sought something new, I'm just saying I never get bored enough to the point where they don't do anything for me anymore. Just bored to the point where I seek novelty.
Thanks for the thoughtful words, Nevermore!
As would I.
Sexual orientation has a biological component to it. The fact that some may change later in life probably would have more to do with a biological change (yes your brain can change, believe it) than with simply choosing a different orientation, however Im not saying that it has nothing to do with "choice." I suppose it may depend on the person......
Its a complicating and not very understood area of study from what I can gather.
I think, mainly, biology has little to do with sexuality. Sure, chemicals in your body react to someone of the opposite sex, but is it not because it's socially encouraged?? I'm not saying that everyone is secretly gay or bi - I'm simply saying that psychology has a lot to do with this as well. Why do you think women turn away from being straight after a whole 40 years and are suddenly "gay"? Maybe because they had the emotional need to protect themselves from further harm that they may have experienced at the hands of a male??
But still. . .I think I agree with ManhattanINTP here - I think it's 100% natural for everyone to have sexual and emotional interest in both genders. At the very least to be moderately attracted to one of the other. .
It's hard to say why some people come out late and identify as gay after being married for many years. I believe some people sometimes emotionally connect better to the opposite sex (as in Leonard Bernstein's case) but are only romantically interested in the same sex. I think, though, if you have been sexually and romantically attracted to the opposite sex (and particularly when it's been with several people) and come out as gay that you are really bisexual.
But I like the Kinsey scale for a lot of reasons as it tries to put in mind a gradient of sexuality versus straight, bi, gay, asexual, or whatever. I personally identify as Kinsey 5 and that's not to say there are no guys I am attracted to (though they are often the male lesbian type and could potentially identify as MtF, fwiw) but it's not frequent enough for me to consider labeling as bisexual and is an attraction that is usually more platonic more than not. So I don't know. I don't know how much sexuality changes. I feel I was more 'straight' when I was younger, but then again I think there is a difference between having a crush and being in love. The former I have experienced regardless of sex or gender. The latter I only have experienced with the same sex.
As for biology, I think it plays a large role in sexuality...more than any other factor. It's something about the face, I've noticed. Studies have been done on this (how some kids are easily identified as being of whatever sex they belong to just by only looking at the face...photos without hair, hair style, or clothing showing and other kids are more androgynous). That's just my theory. Research also shows a heightened frequency for gay men and women to have a brain structure (symmetry) that is more like that of someone who is of the opposite sex and heterosexual.
The point is clues are being gathered which, to me, suggests sexuality is largely predetermined, probably by prenatal hormones.
I disagree, I think it has a great deal to do with it. Along with different environments and hormones.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology...al_orientation
Prenatal hormones and sexual orientation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Sexual Orientation and Brain Structure/Function - Neuroethics & Law Blog
Sexual orientation and its basis in brain structure and function
Yeah, while research does suggest a non-biological component, the biological component is likewise undeniable.
Where does it suggest a non-biological component?
Is psychological considered biological???Where does it suggest a non-biological component?
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