Why do you want a partner?

Why do you want a partner?
What's the biggest reason?
Are there any other ways to get what you want besides from getting it from your partner?

Is it because of sex?,
don't want to be alone?,
want to have children?,
want someone to rely on ?

Maybe you just feel like you want a partner, but find no real reason for it ?

I'm eager to hear from you !

To not be lonely. That's the biggest reason.

Other reasons are secondary.

Main reason would to have an equal you resonate with just perfectly. Everything else is moot to me.

The dishes won't do themselves.
I keed, I keed.

Originally Posted by mnemonicfx

To not be lonely. That's the biggest reason.

Originally Posted by Erbse

Main reason would to have an equal you resonate with just perfectly. Everything else is moot to me.

What about friends then?

Originally Posted by Ziwosa

What about friends then?

In life you get what you get. You can't choose your surrounding. You can choose your friends, yes, but not the pool to select from. I'm no good with keeping in touch, I'm fine with being on my own and/or by myself - yet a person to truly resonate with would be fulfilling.

I can't say I'm good at finding appropriate acquaintances (I don't even try) though people are usually too dumb for me to bother with, or too smart, or our personalities as such simply don't resonate well. This is also the reason I prefer the Internet over real life communication, Online you truly can pick who you want to socialize with.

EDIT: Also, I'd never get as intimate (in a non physical / sexual way) with a friend than I would with a partner.

Something tells me that I need someone I can protect and uplift.
I would not be a guide, I would merely be a supporting beam to
hold that which is more important in its proper place. Its proper
place would be described as all that is good; To always be happy
and contempt; To live in absolute Nirvana, free from worries.
And all I ask in return is to be accepted for who I am, no matter
my flaws, and to be appreciated for my insignificance.

Unfortunately, at one point, I tend to realize that 'me' worrying
over 'her' and 'her problems' destroys the balance and harmony
I wish to obtain and secure, and that is when I further realize
that I am not good enough for said person. I will then choose
to leave, and we both end up scarred.

It took me two months to realize that all I ever did for the last
person I held dear to my heart, was to ruin her life. And that is
very much feeding my depression.

So it is safe to say that if I do fall in love again, I will avoid that
person by any means necessary.

Honestly, the only reason I can really think of as to why I'd want a partner right now... is to be able to have sex whenever, without coming across as a slut because...well...I'm with somebody who I care about, and we have mutual respect for each other. And maybe just somebody to keep me warm on these cold winter nights coming up.

I really can't think of anything else. I'm very content being alone and having my freedom, and I really don't plan on changing that unless I find somebody who I just feel, "OMG! I can't live without this person! I want to be with him and see where things go!!"

When I see "partner," I think of an unconditional bestfriendship. And I'd like one of those because not having a truly close friend is painful. It's hard to not have someone to laugh with, goof off with, play video games and watch hideous movies with, and just... be myself with, without having to keep any guards up. I miss that relationship and although I know that it won't develop overnight (my last one took two years), I'd really like that kind of feeling again.

idk man I'm just a sap when it comes to friendship. I couldn't care less about romance or sex at this point in my life.

I never really WANTED a partner, it was not something I sought or longed for in my life; I was satisfied with knowing the world and exploring its mysteries.

I had crushes that stopped at the line of infatuation, with no desire to develop a relationship. But it is nice to have someone for yourself, devoted to you, with you when you don't want to be alone. Like anything in excess, it can be asphyxiating - and I used to think that was all a partner could be, a means of asphyxiation, something more toxic than curative - but there is definitely something more to being with someone than that.