internet relationships

Do you think that internet relationshipas can work?I want your input and thoughts on this.

There is already a thread on this:
http://personalitycafe.com/infj-foru...yber-love.html

I'm going to make this short and sweet...

no.

depends on the people, what countries they live in, how old they are, what their living situation is.

I have tried it but I have figured it is not the way for me. Im still open for it, but Im a sceptic.

Some people meet on the internet and get married, even crossing countries to do so.
Personally, I tihnk it's a bit of a hard ask and very unlikely to eventuate to anything that serious (or remotely).

For frienships, internet works a treat if you're travelling around the world as some point.
Anyone from Japan? I'll be your bestest friend!!!!

According to the Wall Street Journal, about 2 million Americans have met their spouses online, so obviously it's worked for some people.

I think the best way for it to work is if you find people who live near you online and meet them soon thereafter. It would be terrible to fall in love online, move to another country or something to be with them, and then discover that they are not at all what you expected, but now you're kind of in a pickle, because you've already declared your love and now feel committed to someone you barely know. I've known three couples who had this experience. One couple even had a child and are now facing divorce. The guy wants to leave the country he's in for his home country, but the thought of leaving his child is devastating. Either way, the child is very likely to grow up not knowing one of its parents. Sad!

I think the best way to date online is just to discover some other singles in your area and get to know them in person, before you become too attached to their online persona. People can be very different from how they portray themselves online.

That being said, it can and does happen sometimes, so I guess it depends on how much risk you're willing to take.


p.s. I apologize for the redundancy. You people are so fast!

Originally Posted by java_monkey

According to the Wall Street Journal, about 2 million Americans have met their spouses online, so obviously it's worked for some people.

I think the best way for it to work is if you find people who live near you online and meet them soon thereafter. It would be terrible to fall in love online, move to another country or something to be with them, and then discover that they are not at all what you expected, but now you're kind of in a pickle, because you've already declared your love and now feel committed to someone you barely know. I've known three couples who had this experience. One couple even had a child and are now facing divorce. The guy wants to leave the country he's in for his home country, but the thought of leaving his child is devastating. Either way, the child is very likely to grow up not knowing one of its parents. Sad!

I think the best way to date online is just to discover some other singles in your area and get to know them in person, before you become too attached to their online persona. People can be very different from how they portray themselves online.

That being said, it can and does happen sometimes, so I guess it depends on how much risk you're willing to take.


p.s. I apologize for the redundancy. You people are so fast!

I agree with you there java monkey,people can be very different online and lie

Well, the reason why people usually fall in love online is mostly to do with Internet dating sites like eHarmony Chemistry.com and the like. I figure that if they didn't count the results from those sites, the numbers would be way lower. Plus, it says how many people found love to thier own definitions of what love is, and it doesn't report if it was reciprocated or not.

Originally Posted by java_monkey

According to the Wall Street Journal, about 2 million Americans have met their spouses online, so obviously it's worked for some people.

I think the best way for it to work is if you find people who live near you online and meet them soon thereafter. It would be terrible to fall in love online, move to another country or something to be with them, and then discover that they are not at all what you expected, but now you're kind of in a pickle, because you've already declared your love and now feel committed to someone you barely know. I've known three couples who had this experience. One couple even had a child and are now facing divorce. The guy wants to leave the country he's in for his home country, but the thought of leaving his child is devastating. Either way, the child is very likely to grow up not knowing one of its parents. Sad!

I think the best way to date online is just to discover some other singles in your area and get to know them in person, before you become too attached to their online persona. People can be very different from how they portray themselves online.

That being said, it can and does happen sometimes, so I guess it depends on how much risk you're willing to take.


p.s. I apologize for the redundancy. You people are so fast!

I know a recently divorced couple who is going through the same thing and their child is caught in the middle. I've only met one woman online. I agree. You can't really get to know someone just by conversing with them through a computer. Even if you talk on the phone, how could you know if you truly have chemistry until you've interacted with them, personally? I'm not saying that the internet isn't a great way to meet new people, but I think it sometimes creates a false sense of intimacy over a long period of time. You're not getting the whole picture. You are only seeing part of that person; whatever they choose to reveal to you through their online persona.

Originally Posted by hotgirlinfl

I agree with you there java monkey,people can be very different online and lie

It's not so much that they lie. I mean, people can and often do, but I'm generally inclined to think that those who find themselves in a serious online relationship at least attempt to be honest. Rather, the major issue at hand is that a great many mannerisms and habits aren't readily apparent when you're talking to someone online. There are a lot of little things that are shifted into a completely different perspective when you meet someone in real life.