First time Specialness

So there has been a few threads about this, (some by me) and I want to know how much emphasis should there be on things like a first kiss, and losing virginity?

From all of your experience how, it happened to you and just everything you have accumulated over the years. How do you feel it should go down? Is it just another stepping stone or something more? Should you save yourself or experience what you can?

Are you asking how to do it? ;-)

I think the first time should be relaxed and expectations should be kept minimal on both sides. It's like learning to dance: You're not going to be very good at first. You probably won't enjoy it as much as you have thought you would. That takes practice. Set aside a time and place where you won't be interrupted and take a tour of the facilities first. Communicate and don't rush or force anything. This applies to yourself and your partner.

If you have a strong sex drive you should let yourself experience it in a relaxed way when the time is ripe, with the understanding that there is no promise of any lifelong commitment attached to it. It's just sex. I've thought that the people who save themselves successfully probably aren't that uhh . . . firey or something . . .

What I have seen with people who have strong libidos and overthink sex is that they tend to let it become too much of a "thing". Having some experience will let you be more objective about what any particular relationship really offers you.

That's what I wish someone had told me, at least.

I remember my first kiss with more fondness than the first time I had sex. That first kiss was a sudden shift in my life's direction. Losing my virginity was just another stop along my new path.

I don't think it's a good idea to save yourself for someone special. Your first time, whether it's a kiss or intercourse, should be with someone whom you trust and feel affection for, someone who respects you and is willing to teach. Waiting for marriage or some other form of commitment is a sure road to dissatisfaction.