In you guys' opinion, how long should someone wait after a breakup before dating? I've been seeing a divorce therapist who said that the general rule of thumb is 3 months for every year of marriage. In my case that is 2.5 years (I was married for 10 years). This sounds absolutely insane to me. After 3 months since our split I no longer have any strong feelings for my ex - negative or positive. I have had a few times where I get irritated with something that she does, or I might miss her company just a bit and I have made a few ill-tempered jokes with my buddies at her expense. But other than that she doesn't really cross my mind that much.
The way I see it, it is very rare for me to find someone attractive as far as their personality AND their physical looks. Recently I met a woman that definitely fit that bill. If I was to make a checklist of things I look for in a woman (both mentally and physically) she would probably have just about every box marked. The problem is that she told our mutual friend that she wasn't interested in a relationship because I needed way more time post-divorce.
I took the fact that I actually felt attraction (both physically and personality-wise) to another woman for the first time in a long time as a sign that maybe I was ready to start something new. So what is the general consensus here? How do you know when you should start dating again?
The way I see it, it is very rare for me to find someone attractive as far as their personality AND their physical looks. Recently I met a woman that definitely fit that bill. If I was to make a checklist of things I look for in a woman (both mentally and physically) she would probably have just about every box marked. The problem is that she told our mutual friend that she wasn't interested in a relationship because I needed way more time post-divorce.
I took the fact that I actually felt attraction (both physically and personality-wise) to another woman for the first time in a long time as a sign that maybe I was ready to start something new. So what is the general consensus here? How do you know when you should start dating again?