Attracted to "Equal" Attraction~ ?

Wow, it's been a while since I made a thread...

This 'thought' has also been floating in my head for a while to, and I figured I'll try to fashion a quick explanation and see what you guys think.

For the following, I'm talking about true and real attraction, not omg the girl eating that cheesburger in that ad is soooo hot~
For the following (disregarding aesthetics) beauty and attraction is purely subjective, I'm aware of this. So if you don't want to look at this from a general standpoint, look at it from a purely personal one.

For a while now I've had a theory that you are actually attracted to your own "attraction range" (physical).
Very simply put what I mean is if your say let's say a "7" your attracted to other"7s". And subsequently towards the outers, 6,8 then 9,5... even though it probably leans towards higher if it had to go one way. Do not think of this as a rule or science, think of it as a guideline or hint.
I came to this idea, keeping in mind that I to this day have no idea where I stand in physical attraction, but I do feel like I'm not the most attracted actually to 10s, the perfectly physical beauty. Not to say I can't or am not at times, but I find more and more that as I mature I do see something more in what I do believe is probably my own physical attraction range. As well I do think in no way it correlates because I believe it is more 'possible'-- because that has yet to honestly come in my thinking when turning through these matters. Instead I simply feel that one is probably attracted to someone that equals or comes close to equaling their own.

I realize this is depends extremly on individual to individual, more than just physical attraction, and many other variables. But still I wanted to see what you guys think. So far I havn't been able really to find anything on this topic anywhere, so I'm very eager to see what you guys think.


Anyways like I said look forward to what you guys think and if this is called anything, like _______. Telling me would be Great!
Thanks~ I hope I came across with the theory I wanted.

peace~

I dunno, I'm a 7 but I'd sure as hell be attracted to a 10!!

I'd say it's more like a range, avoiding the 9-10 (I grew up with two of that and honestly don't trust them), and don't want <5-6.

So yes, equal or slightly lower. A 6-7 I know went to a 5, and I'm no longer attracted to him.

It depends on what I'm doing. I can be a 6 to 8. Currently I'm a 6 1/2. Non-shaven beard and bed hair, but somehow I pull it off.

I don't judge by numbers. I judge by what I like and what I don't like. People who go "That girls a 10" are trying to push their subjective opinions on you and even I find the girl attractive by my standard I will say she's a 1 just to fuck with the poor guy. Currently I'm attracted/going out to (with) an 8 who thinks shes lower. (By stupid system standards) I find her very appealing though :)

I once thought about this. Then if say I was born a 7 other 7s could look like 10s to me, and then that would create problems when I say to someone 'ooh she was hot' etc. I have a friend who asks me if a girl is hot, and I just say what I believe and I told him once, 'why do you ask me that?' 'I could say she was hot and you'd look at her and reckon she was a troll'. He was just joking, I was being serious in a way. Also when it comes to matters of taste I can't tell someone what is good or bad, as far as I am concerned I only have responsibility for myself and this includes who i'm attracted to.

I think the OP is partially correct. The part about finding people in your own range the most attractive I think has to do with growing up and then realizing that you're "out of your league", then, learned helplessness from rejections by other highly attractive people accumulate and you learn to not even try attracting them, so you go to the best that you think you can get, which tends to be in your range, and therefore, to you, the most attratice potential mates.

Id agree with the op, but its probably more due to a confidence problem as i have never been related to a number before

I don't think aiming, or getting attracted by a 10 is..wrong, per se.. but that's crushing / pining.

As for equal attraction, to have one with a Mary Sue with a 10 on everything is probably too hopeful, if not crazy, but there's also a chance of one and their respective partner not looking or being attracted for the same aspect. (Assume someone with 5 appearances and 10 personality attracted to someone with 10 appearances and 5 personality for his/her appearance, and the other party's attracted because of his/her personality)

I'm personally more attracted to those 'above' my league; but I have my own standard for each aspects (and a slightly higher standard for aspects I desire) and will got attracted to those who have reached the standards. Any 'extra' points are seen as..well, bonus points / extra charm.

Aren't you meant to be attracted to people who look similar to yourself anyway, or possibly your parents?

Freud may have been on to something with the Oedipus complex. According to psychologists, men are drawn to women who look like their mothers, while women are taken with men who resemble their fathers.
In a study published today, psychologists measured people's faces and compared them with their partner's parents and strangers. They found men were more likely to pair up with women whose bone structure was similar to their own mothers, with a similar effect holding for womens' choice of men.]

When you first meet someone, they might be a 6. But after you've shared a lot of time, emotional energy, and hugs with them...they'll seem more like a 10. And then, they'll look at you in a way that makes you feel like a 10 also.

Eh, but after that happens, the whole rating system becomes kind of superfluous.