This is a discussion on Guys giving girls their phone numbers first within the Sex and Relationships forums, part of the Topics of Interest category; Originally Posted by Yardiff Bey Too chicken to risk outright rejection. If I want a girls number I go up ...
when a guy gives his number first, it irritates me. It's like he wants me to chase him (lame) or worse ... he is too passive and isn't sure of himself or something like that, and needs me to call him so he knows I like him. I do not like!
I might go as far as to say, I don't trust men who have been confident and then before departing, drop their number. What are they?! A gigolo?! Gross!!!
IF he takes my number and says he will call ... It's on! ..
For one, I get to sit back and see if he does what he says.
This to me is huge. Actions speak louder than words.
Note: this does not apply if I ask.
On occasion someone strikes me as someone I want to get to know and I'll ask for the number first.
Either way though ... after an initial talk, I kinda sit back to see how interested they are by how much he calls. I try not to call too much. I just like to be playful and play it light at first. I think getting to know new people is fun and shouldn't be serious. Even if I seriously like someone I know better. Some things take time. Once in a relationship, it's a little harder to not want to call more. In so many ways, I think men and women are completely opposite.
It's so weird.
Right guys are supposed to ask for the number unless
A) You ask them out on a date randomly first and make sex comments about Fi and Fe having sex.
B) The guy thinks you rock as a friend type
C) A weird combination of both?
Sounds like those kinds of guys are too much of a pussy to man up and ask for yours. Punish their lack of balls by throwing the number out.
However, even most masculine women want men with leadership qualities. I'm not sure most women want to be chased (or chased more than half-heartedly), but they usually want a man who can take charge in the workplace, the bedroom, etc. The man who seems afraid to ask for a number and instead gives his communicates that he isn't much of a leader and might in fact prefer to be led by the woman in question.
Hey just from my experience (guy here). I used to give girls my number when I liked her but was scared of being rejected or just didn't feel too confident that day, it's a day to day thing for me really this confidence thing. Or I feel like I didn't set it up right to ask for the number so at the end of the conversation I just mustered up the last amount of courage to give her my number hahahah lame! The ONLY reason a guy gives you his number is because he is interested in you but doesn't want to get rejected, obviously I learned that this is not the way to do things. I noticed that whenever I did this that she never calls and never will call, she won't call that's just the end of it. What I do now when I meet a chick is just say " hey we should get together some time let me get your number" and then I take my phone out of my pocket and hand it to her to put the number into my phone.