Guys giving girls their phone numbers first

Originally Posted by Yardiff Bey

Too chicken to risk outright rejection. If I want a girls number I go up and ask - rejection there and then is preferable to passively waiting. Also means that I can immediately put her out of mind if she's not interested.

Hey, did you ever receive my text?

Originally Posted by pinkrasputin

Hey, did you ever receive my text?

I gave you my landline, it can't receive texts. =) I'll fling you my mobile, hon.

From experience, texting between countries is problematic. I have an INTJ mate over in the USA, we found out the hard way...

when a guy gives his number first, it irritates me. It's like he wants me to chase him (lame) or worse ... he is too passive and isn't sure of himself or something like that, and needs me to call him so he knows I like him. I do not like!

I might go as far as to say, I don't trust men who have been confident and then before departing, drop their number. What are they?! A gigolo?! Gross!!!

IF he takes my number and says he will call ... It's on! ..
For one, I get to sit back and see if he does what he says.
This to me is huge. Actions speak louder than words.

Note: this does not apply if I ask.
On occasion someone strikes me as someone I want to get to know and I'll ask for the number first.

Either way though ... after an initial talk, I kinda sit back to see how interested they are by how much he calls. I try not to call too much. I just like to be playful and play it light at first. I think getting to know new people is fun and shouldn't be serious. Even if I seriously like someone I know better. Some things take time. Once in a relationship, it's a little harder to not want to call more. In so many ways, I think men and women are completely opposite.

It's so weird.

P.S.
@honey Bunny ... your name is SO CUTE!!!

Right guys are supposed to ask for the number unless

A) You ask them out on a date randomly first and make sex comments about Fi and Fe having sex.

B) The guy thinks you rock as a friend type

C) A weird combination of both?

Originally Posted by Souled In

and make sex comments about Fi and Fe having sex.

hahahaha ... WHAT?!

Oh Please DO TELL ... if you don't mind of course,
I think I'd love to hear an example of such an obscure comment :)

Originally Posted by Ningsta Kitty

hahahaha ... WHAT?!

Oh Please DO TELL ... if you don't mind of course,
I think I'd love to hear an example of such an obscure comment :)

hahaha I dont know.... i just LOVE EVERYBODYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!

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WOOT WOOT!

Sounds like those kinds of guys are too much of a pussy to man up and ask for yours. Punish their lack of balls by throwing the number out.

Originally Posted by Uviteru

It normally just means he is interested in getting to know you and wants to exchange numbers. There are no "rules" If you like him and want to get to know him better, as either a friend or romantic partner, give him your number too and call him back. Otherwise don't!

Gender roles are going out of style and an age of equality is soon upon us!

Yes, the age of mannish women.

However, even most masculine women want men with leadership qualities. I'm not sure most women want to be chased (or chased more than half-heartedly), but they usually want a man who can take charge in the workplace, the bedroom, etc. The man who seems afraid to ask for a number and instead gives his communicates that he isn't much of a leader and might in fact prefer to be led by the woman in question.

Hey just from my experience (guy here). I used to give girls my number when I liked her but was scared of being rejected or just didn't feel too confident that day, it's a day to day thing for me really this confidence thing. Or I feel like I didn't set it up right to ask for the number so at the end of the conversation I just mustered up the last amount of courage to give her my number hahahah lame! The ONLY reason a guy gives you his number is because he is interested in you but doesn't want to get rejected, obviously I learned that this is not the way to do things. I noticed that whenever I did this that she never calls and never will call, she won't call that's just the end of it. What I do now when I meet a chick is just say " hey we should get together some time let me get your number" and then I take my phone out of my pocket and hand it to her to put the number into my phone.