Odd Attractions?

I would classify it as strange, exciting, mystical and weird that although I can be out at a club with a perfectly attractive woman in the prime of her life, tarted up in her best little black dress, with her darting her eyes at me and occasionally touching me on my knees and shoulders while smiling, I sometimes feel nothing more than a bit flattered, while there are times when a semi-dumpy grandmother in her mid-sixties who works behind the deli counter will make eye contact with me while slicing ham in her hairnet and plastic gloves, and something inside my psyche says "this one".

This is just a single example. You can substitute "schoolteacher in mom jeans who should probably get her hair done and lose about 20 lbs" or "Wal-Mart cashier with weird glasses and a bit of acne" or myriad other things for the hairnet lady. There appears to be no pattern that would support the declaration of a preference based on any set of characteristics. It's not too common, but not uncommon enough for me to be upset about it any more. Most of the time I know exactly why I'm attracted to a woman and don't feel a need to analyze it. Other times it's, like "What the hell is going on inside my head?"

Ever feel that way?

Yes. And...it works the opposite way, too - I've had men become drawn to me for no (obvious) good reason. Young gay men tend to love me - I have no idea why. Maybe it is because I have a "manly" personality? (I've been told so before.)

There is NO common theme whatsoever among all of the men I've been involved with, aside from anatomy.

I've thought about it and tried to figure it out in the past, but I've come to accept that I'm not at all sure what attracts me to certain people.

I always know why I find someone attractive, but my brain cheats in a way. I can smell pheromones so accurately that I can usually tell a man's hormone patterns just by walking within two feet of him. It's extremely uncomfortable to realize that there are both 50+ and 14 year old males who have hormone patterns that I'm drawn to, but fortunately they've never turned out to be more attractive to me than an attractive person my age. I've also noticed that people with hormones I like tend to be very weird/eccentric, and often bisexual and/or prone to mental disorders. Fortunately there are some men who have the right kind of hormones who are fairly functional, usually in their late 20s or early 30s and somewhat attractive. Nature is a weird thing, huh.

Originally Posted by SlowPoke68

there are times when a semi-dumpy grandmother in her mid-sixties who works behind the deli counter will make eye contact with me while slicing ham in her hairnet and plastic gloves, and something inside my psyche says "this one".

Mmmm grandma. Unhook that girdle, unfurl your teats and lets get this raunchy sex fest started.

Originally Posted by bromide

Mmmm grandma. Unhook that girdle, unfurl your teats and lets get this raunchy sex fest started.

Yeah, see. . . I have learned to not let that sort of image even start in my mind lest such experiences become occasions of terror for me.

Originally Posted by devoid

I always know why I find someone attractive, but my brain cheats in a way. I can smell pheromones so accurately that I can usually tell a man's hormone patterns just by walking within two feet of him.

I've thought that over as well, but I don't know that I can smell pheromones that well, and in some cases I haven't been near enough to pick them up.

I do know that in some cases the smell/taste of a partner just doesn't work for me at all. Not that the sensations are offensive: They just aren't sexual.

Most of mine probably qualify in some way.

Originally Posted by bromide

Mmmm grandma. Unhook that girdle, unfurl your teats and lets get this raunchy sex fest started.

At times attractions can be more based on vibe instead of factors that relate to the surface. I don't find it odd though, it's really normal, honest.

Originally Posted by SlowPoke68

I've thought that over as well, but I don't know that I can smell pheromones that well, and in some cases I haven't been near enough to pick them up.

I do know that in some cases the smell/taste of a partner just doesn't work for me at all. Not that the sensations are offensive: They just aren't sexual.

To at least 99% of the population, pheromones are odorless. You can't tell that you "smell" them, and in fact some of the scientific community still believes that human beings are not effected by pheromones (only because they haven't been able to prove it yet). I've only met one or two other people in the world who can smell pheromones, so I guess I'm just a freak. The point is, it's subconscious. You won't know that it's effecting you, but it is. It's like the effects of dopamine: you don't taste/smell dopamine. You don't think to yourself, "Hey, my brain is producing dopamine and therefore I am going to act more happy and easy going." It just does that automatically, and all you know is that something made you feel happy. It's the same with pheromones. You don't know why you're attracted to somebody, you just know that you are. But the culprit here, I'm afraid, is your own biochemistry.