Guys: Do You Like Directness?

Please give your MBTI and/or Enneagram when you answer.

Example of directness: "Hey, I think you're cute. Here's my number. We should go out sometime."

Example B: A girl is about to watch a soccer game. She says to you, "Watching those soccer players gets me really hot, so I will expect some sex with you after the game. Be ready."

Yes.

INTP (usually).

I should add that I wouldn't want that exclusively. There's a lot of fun to be had in indirect banter, flirting and double-entendre. But yes, if you really want something and don't feel like playing coy, I definitely like that. It's a turn on.

I like directness in example A but not in example B. Actually something like B really happened to me, only there was no soccer match involved. I thought she was attractive at first, but then her being so direct about sexuality was a complete turn-off. Sadly I have never experienced anything like example A in real life.

I am a 5w6 INTJ though I have no reason to believe that my answer to this question is in any way representative of either most 5's or most INTJ's.

Perfectly fine although example B could be better worded as indirect suggestion as @redmanXNTP suggested, I can't help but find it a bit tiring knowing that people expect to be asked first when males are supposed to be the thoughtless ones or mind readers in the case of example A.

INFJ

6w5

Originally Posted by StElmosDream

I can't help but find it a bit tiring knowing that people expect to be asked first when males are supposed to be the thoughtless ones or mind readers in the case of example A.

What exactly are you saying here? I'm having a little trouble getting it.

So far, you guys are saying you totally dig example A but don't like example B as much. Would that be equally true with a purely sexual partner, a newly acquainted person, and an established relationship partner?

Originally Posted by sparkles

What exactly are you saying here? I'm having a little trouble getting it.

I suppose I was trying to convey the confusion of gender led dating roles, where different personality types may expect someone to 'notice' a willingness to date with or without offering indications and how this expectation can be haphazard or convoluted to both genders.

Not for initiating casual encounters, I'd feel rather over sexualised (feeling the male need to perform on command then refusing) seeking to know the true person not their projections or needs alone although I don't mind other alternatives, assuming there is no major expectations from the start.

ENTP 7w6 so/sx

I love the directness exemplified in both examples but in different ways. The first example would make me feel good overall, although I might make the girl do more before I agree to go out. Unless she is leaving, I'd have her sit with me and chill for a little bit, make her flirt with me, etc.

The second example would make me laugh my ass off. I would probably say something like "oh really??" and try to engage in some banter. That being said, if a girl came up to me and said "nice shoes. wanna fuck?" I probably couldn't help but say yes. I can appreciate getting to the point XD

Originally Posted by sparkles

So far, you guys are saying you totally dig example A but don't like example B as much. Would that be equally true with a purely sexual partner, a newly acquainted person, and an established relationship partner?

I was assuming what you said was with an established, romantic (meaning, not just sexual) relationship. I suppose it would work if someone was a NSA sex partner.

Anything else and that starts to get a little awkward.

Im an INTJ who also borders on aspergers lvls of empathy so directness is not only desired, it is required. I will not be sure enough of any subtle hints to act on them. So yea both examples are great but i have never met a woman that would consider saying either to a completely strange guy even if he were in the top 1% in terms of physical attractiveness (and associated first impression characteristics).