How strict were your parents about Sex and Relationships in general?

Originally Posted by Snuggels

No, my father is from Chicago, I was also born there but my mother is German and she went back to Germany with me when I was around one year old. It´s just so irritating, because it's just so different from here and I don't really want to change my values for him but I guess I have to.

Enjoy, and consider this to be the lesser evil; wait till your meet the religious maniacs - or worse, the very conservative religious maniacs

Plan B: Random hookup before you're leaving. Not the most romantic thing in the world, but at least there's no virginity left to cling on and protect. That is, of course, assuming you're older than at least 17.

Well, you're an adult, you can do whatever you want. You're not his little girl anymore, whatever he might think of you. Tell him that you need your privacy and your independence. And if he can't handle that it's another matter entierly.

Originally Posted by Erbse

Enjoy, and consider this to be the lesser evil; wait till your meet the religious maniacs - or worse, the very conservative religious maniacs

I'm quite afraid of that, religion has a whole different or higher stand in america aswell right
I have no problem with people that believe in different things than me put don't push your believes on me please *g*

My parents didn't like the idea that I would be having sex before I was married. My parents were high school sweethearts and my mom has only been with my dad, and everything indicates that they have only had sex with each other. My mother freaked out when she heard that I had a fling with a 24 year old when I was 16, and was convinced I could have been raped. My parents gave me a "sex talk" before I went to college and asked about it a couple of months later. I was still a virgin then but I told them that what will happen will happen, and sure enough, it happened. I accidentally blurted it out when I was with them but my parents' only words were to be safe. They didn't freak out or anything, and I really appreciated that. For a Chinese mother, especially because she's ISFJ (who raised an American-educated and more liberal child), she must have really done quite a lot to understand where I'm coming from.

Originally Posted by Snuggels

I'm quite afraid of that, religion has a whole different or higher stand in america aswell right
I have no problem with people that believe in different things than me put don't push your believes on me please *g*

Any specific reason as to why you're moving? University / College / Job, or 'just because you can' or a vacation kind of thing?

Personally, while Germany isn't the nicest place in the world and I'd be more than happy to leave it behind eventually as well, the states wouldn't exactly rank high in my preferences of destinations, although I know quite a bunch of people over there.

Originally Posted by Erbse

Any specific reason as to why you're moving? University / College / Job, or 'just because you can' or a vacation kind of thing?

Personally, while Germany isn't the nicest place in the world and I'd be more than happy to leave it behind eventually as well, the states wouldn't exactly rank high in my preferences of destinations, although I know quite a bunch of people over there.

Well it was was my dream since elementary school to go to the Us to study after graduation here in Germany. In the past I guess the main reason was that my father lived there and a lot of cousins and as a child I missed him so much. I also liked how the colleges looked because it reminded me so much of Hogwarts
But I also loved the language and how the people seemed to be and I was born in Chicago so I always felt there was something missing in my life, the american part.

Everybody here is not a control freak, if that's what you're asking. My dad was strict when I was growing up, but all my friends' parents were cool. One of my friends' dads gave him condoms for one of his birthdays.

Just stick it out. Follow his rules in order to get whatever you need from him, then get your own place. Then you can live by your rules.

I said something last week about kissing, and my dad said he didn't want to hear anything about my love life.

So he won't. He can figure it out on his own.

Haha yeah. Sex before marriage is sort of a taboo to my parents, because that's just the sort of mind set they were brought up with.
I don't think they have a problem with relationships - or as they put it, courting - , for the boys in the family anyway. The girls 'honor's are protected like its the 1700s, not even kidding.
To them, everything boils down to marriage. It's an antiquated mindset, and definitely not something I intend to abide by.

@Snuggels (love the name by the way) this is going the route of realistic advice, I will not sugar coat sex.

My parents never talked to me about sex. What I learned was from movies haha, or from my older sister always having a boyfriend. Here is the deal. It is your life, your body, your spirit. Every choice has a consequence. Dad would love to think he still has the right to make decisions for you, but at the end of the day you make those decisions not him. In the end, no parent can protect their children from making choices, it has to happen eventually. You have to experience life!