alright girls... why do men get friendzoned?

does it have anything to do with physical attractiveness or overall inadequacy to protect you, and take control of you and your decisions?

Men get friendzoned because they believe in the friendzone. Because they've either stopped or never have believed that a woman's friendship is anything more than a shitty consolation prize for not getting laid, because unrequited attraction sucks and it's easier to think he's a nice guy and she's a manipulative bitch than for men to accept not getting they want is not a malicious attempt to undermine their value as a man and romantic/sexual partner.

When a man doesn't believe in the friendzone he gets friendship. And if he experiences unrequited attraction he either gets over it or, if the pain of unrequited attraction is too strong, he ends the relationship because he realizes it is unhealthy for him and doesn't place guilt or shame for the incompatibility on either himself or her. That's it.

Guys get friendzoned because either you where too slow, And the women has instead of go with her emotions and just tried it, Has had time to think and thought...well no actually, i don't want to be with that person.

Or you are in the friendszone because there is no sexual attraction

Or because there was no attraction there in the first place and never will.

Lack of necessary qualities for a significant other. Confidence, self assuredness, assertiveness, etc. Independence, mostly. One can still be unaggressive, laid back, quiet, etc, and still be a focal point that people gravitate toward.

If you can't be sure of yourself, means you can't really take care of yourself, and it's obvious then that you aren't relationship material.

Because they're not attracted to you.

Originally Posted by redmanXNTP

Because they're not attracted to you.

This, in a nutshell. People don't just go out of their way to "friend zone" someone. As for the original question(s) posited in the OP, I don't even know how to respond ...

I mean, what in the world?

Originally Posted by e92

does it have anything to do with physical attractiveness or overall inadequacy to protect you, and take control of you and your decisions?

Inadequacy to protect someone and take control of their decisions? What in the ...?

I don't even know where to begin.

Because they are not sexually attracted to you.

They get friendzoned because they are boring and women are turned by men that we don't know what they are thinking and are a challenge.

For instance, I was talking to this guy and he may not be what most would consider GQ material. However, when we were conversing, his conversations lacked substance. He didn't have much confidence in himself. I don't care too much about looks, its the way you carry yourself! So of course he's friendzoned.

Theres no guarantee that a female is going to be attracted to someone simply because hes a male. Attraction is a complicated thing, with many factors. And a lot of its a mystery. Sometimes, the chemistry, or whatever it may be simply isn't right.

People can try to find rational reasons for it, but they can find the same traits in someone else who are fine, who turned them off in another person. A lot of times its just something within the individual stirring, or not stirring, nothing to do with the friend.

Sometimes younger people think they're looking for one thing, then soon after, its something completely different. Even older people are capable of this.

There is no single personality, set of physical characteristics, or anything you can rationally point to as 'the cause' of being friend-zoned. The simple fact of the matter that not everyone is cut out for everyone else, but if you find who you truly are, and accept it, then someone out there is going to see that spark in you, and if they like who you are then there you have it.

Some people seem to have an easier time dating lots of random people, but those are often the sorts who appeal to the generic masses because they themselves are pretty generic. Someone special holds out for someone equally special, or they settle for less.. and thats a shame.

Anyway, just focus on accepting yourself for now.