What Personality Types have you DATED?

I have been with two girlfriends in my life and one was a ESFP and i dunno about the other.
Are there people here that had a ENFJ and ASFP relationship? if so, how does or did it go for you?
Some things really started to annoy me at some point especially the drama queen thing.

Personality of my ex:

100% asshole.

First girlfriend: ISTJ - Positives: Her and I really got along and had a lot of the same interests. We also could talk to each other for HOURS and never got bored. It actually lasted pretty long for a first relationship surprisingly 1 and a half years.
Negatives: The only negatives I would say was that she says usually I would sometimes get too absorbed in my own interests and I think she sometimes got overly pessimistic. Overall though I think her and I work better as friends since after 6 months of not talking her and I became REALLY good friends, she's actually one of my best friends currently.

Second girlfriend: ISTP - Positives: I learned more about relationships in the physical sense of them, and also learned on how to give more space in a relationship (since throughout most of my first one I was more of an ENFP and was unsure of exactly how to be in a relationship).
Negatives: After my friend who was like a big brother to me and who I was roommates with for 2 years committed suicide she comforted me for a week and then just left me on my own when I CLEARLY was still HEAVILY affected by it and spent the entire summer in depression, she also went and cheated on me by playing various games like spin the bottle with her friends.

My type: Consistently INFJ, with decent Te and the worst Se ever.

Ex-Boyfriend 1: iSFP "The Temperamental Artist"

A 4 year roller-coaster. We dated through high school and the first year or so of my college experience.
Positives:
He was fairly emotional and got that I needed affection. He also strove for self-improvement and was always trying to keep things exciting.
Negatives:
Immaturity. We both had a lot of growing up to do. He seemed to grow and change in very sudden spurts, without any warning whatsoever. He was also reluctant to speak to me about important things often, so I had to pry things out of him. Back then I was much less confident in my inner self as well, so often I got carried away and hurt his feelings a little. There were also times he neglected me a bit, which did nothing but engage my jealous tendencies. General insensitivity to how I felt was a frequent happening towards the end of the relationship.
The Outcome:
Though it took a while to recover after he finally broke up with me, we are now best friends and always supportive of the other. He comes to me for counsel and a different perspective, and I enjoy the company. :)

Ex-Boyfriend 2: INTJ "The Vulcan"

A short 5 months of generally... nothing. The beginning of the adventure was nice, but steadily went downhill.
Positives:
Intelligent, good work-ethic, and the more gorgeous smile in the world. When he was enthusiastic about something, the life in his eyes was something beautiful. He was straight as an arrow, had no interest in alcohol, drugs, etc. He is the type to forever be loyal to one girl at a time.
Negatives:
Arrogance and coldness. Manipulative. Never opened up to me. Made me feel judged constantly. Our values and opinions were far too different on too many things. I told him I loved him too soon, to which he mentally panicked and stopped all affection period. The last two months were... a type of hell. If emotional neglect is a form of abusive passive aggression, I endured it. Finally, after four days of me staying at his place (out of necessity, it was snowing and I was stranded) and being ignored entirely, he broke up with me.
The Outcome:
Friendly acquaintances. I wouldn't mind hanging out with him for a few hours here and there, but it will take me a long time to recover from what he put my sensitive INFJ heart through.

Current boyfriend: ESFp "The Weird One"

Creeping up on 5 months together, I can safely say this experience is fairly different than my last two.
Positives:
Warm, affirming, and optimistic. He takes care of me, which is something I'm really not used to. He is my refuge that keeps me from working myself to death. He is very mellow most of the time, and is willing to comfort me if I'm feeling insecure. He's also interesting and active, always having a story to tell or things to do. Did I mention enthusiastic? Complete with cat-like grin and eyes full of mischief. Creative. Very physically affirming as well (I love me some cuddles).
Negatives:
He sometimes talks over me and occasionally I feel ignored (though I'd rather have talking over me than not talking to me at all). He is somewhat shallow, likes to play hero, and has dated many broken girls. Can be irresponsible and procrastinates often, and when grumpy gets very direct, ill-tempered, and can step on toes. Sometimes withdraws and will not talk about certain things, or avoids heavy topics. Bored easily.
Outcome:
So far so good. I'm trying to stay optimistic. :)

As an INTJ, I dated...

ESFPs
ESFJ
INFPs
ENFJ
ENTP (current girlfriend)

Originally Posted by hylogenesis

I dated an INFJ once, and I'll never do it again because why? Here's why:

1.) Never a stimulating conversation to be had. They always wanted to talk about my feelings, which I didn't care to talk about. It felt kind of intrusive to have this person making assumptions about why I apparently "felt" or "didn't feel" (which always seemed to lead back to my schiz. diagnosis). What was even more frustrating was when I was supposed to learn how certain feelings felt with no actual understanding of how I experience emotion and treating me like I was disabled because of it.

2.) Always asking loaded questions such as "Do you love me?" or "How do you really feel about me?" The relationship lasted a total of three weeks--MAYBE a month. Obviously, given the person I am, there must be some kind of basic attraction in place (or a terrible bout of open-minded friendliness) for me to be with this person in the first place. But these are not questions we ask at the two-week mark in the relationship fully expecting our lowly INTP and unfortunate narrator to profess some kind of undying love and devotion--it just doesn't work that way. There are people in my life that I care about and have known for more than half of my time here that I still cannot say that I love. There is no way that I'm going to "fall" for someone in under two weeks.

3.) No appreciation whatsoever for great film or literature. I cannot count how many times I have flown into a rage over Ellen Hopkins. I at least gave 'Impulse' a chance--it was recommended that I try it, anyway--and I hated it. But I do expect that these things go both ways; if a book is recommended to me and I do indeed read it the whole way through, I will recommend a book in return. I also expect that this book is picked up and the first chapter or two read through--just to give it a chance. I'll be dipped if 'One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest' or 'A Clockwork Orange' were ever given any consideration at all. Not only does that irritate me, but I'll go so far as to say that sometimes, it does give a painful little twinge right in the old love-box... *points to chest*

4.) After the inevitable split, I was hassled for...I think it's been almost five years now. Always wanting to get back together, saying things will work out this time and that there's a feeling there that we were "meant to be." I don't feel I need to elaborate much more, suffice it to say there was some lying (which I've talked about in one or two posts before) that was rather transparent and frustrating (no matter how unpleasant something is, if you're up front with me, I'm far less likely to get upset over it--in this case, had I not been so obviously lied to, there would have been little to no frustration). To this very day, I'm still receiving obvious come-ons, insinuations, and constantly my casual tone is misconstrued as some kind of romantic interest.

5.) There was also a huge gap in intellectual ability, which normally isn't a huge problem if a person tickles me the right way anyway and is at least a great thinker/learner...but here there was a very profound lapse in abstract processes. It bothered me that everything was so concrete in their eyes--that there was always this definitive answer--and this is not the type of person that can sit around and bounce ideas around with much proficiency. Whether this was a J thing or just this person, I have no idea, but it was irritating all the same, like a wrench in the gears. Every existential conversation turned into some kind of argument when it was not my intent to cause friction and should I get "too deep", I was quite liable to "lose" this person...and we'd barely traversed the first circle of Hell!

4.) No appreciation or understanding of fundamental sciences at all. Plenty of religious matter, but it's really of little relevance to me because of the manner these beliefs were held. There was no speculation to be had--it was all hard fact and that was frustrating that I couldn't lend an opinion either way.

I've dated other types, of course, but I've got no way of knowing what types they were. There was one who I suspect was an ESFP, and while he was loads of fun, we worked much better as friends. But none of the relationships really lasted long--I'm still acquainted and on friendly terms with about half of these people--because I tended to get bored quickly. Simply not enough to talk about. I'm honestly hoping that I find another INTP even just as a casual companion/reading buddy...but it's looking slim. I have yet to meet a confirmed other.

I do believe that INFJ you spoke of was actually an ISFJ. INFJs get DEEP in conversation, but you have to drag ISFJs into it, and when you get them there they will only give you a false smile and a uninterested "yeah..okay. (subject change into a conversation that has to do with them)"

Originally Posted by ForsakenMe

I had a weird online relationship when I was around 15. Don't care about his type, all I knew that he was very abusive.
My first real boyfriend was an ExFx. Not sure if he's an ENFJ, an ESFJ, or an ESFP.
My second boyfriend, which lasted only a couple of months, was either an INTP or a weird INFJ.

I'm sorry beautiful girl! Thank You for sharing (: I hope your soul has become rescued from that pain

None! XD
(But I thought I will post anyway just to keep track of this thread)

Originally Posted by RetroVortex

None! XD
(But I thought I will post anyway just to keep track of this thread)

Haha! Well welcome, then! :D Its best to wait for the right kind of person! Keeps from a less fractured soul in the end

Originally Posted by sparkles

Huh? Really?

Oh, definitely yes.

It's worse with INTJ's, though. Because INTJ's care less about what people think of them.

INFJ's, being Se inferior, can be notoriously bad with personal hygiene. They're often unaware of the little things like bad breath, and being Ni doms, some of us don't even have the focus to do routine hygienic stuff. Brushing my teeth is the worst for me, but I'm getting better at that stuff. Routine is hard for us to start, but it kicks in once we get out of that inertia.