What Personality Types have you DATED?

1-ENxP(probably ENTP)-
Good-We were best friends for three years first (and I "loved" her for the last two of those years) so we just interacted very well together. Even when we were friends there was this unspoken sexual chemistry, it wasn't what we said so much as how we'd use different tones of voices with each other than we would with anyone else, and how we'd finish each other's sentences. I liked how she managed to be very sweet and nurturing while remaining generally detached and objective, which is not easy to do. She also had a very subtle vulnerability that most people probably didn't know about, but was obvious to me. It was easy for me to be her "white knight". She also had probably the best butt in the universe. If you'd seen it you would know why it was important enough to mention.

Bad-The main reasons it didn't work was that I wanted things to move quicker than she did, coupled with the fact that she constantly did things that filled me with raging jeolousy. Immaturity on my part may have aggravated it (I was 18) but she made no attempt to change her behavior despite being apologetic when I'd bring things up with her. We also had very different life plans in general, which makes me think in hindsight that it never would've worked out even if I had been more secure in my relationship with her. She was outwardly intellectual, but I honestly don't think she was actually very thoughtfull or even that smart in general. I also wonder if I was "acting" a little bit once I got into a romantic relationshio with her. She mostly saw charming, cocky ENTP MyName, or sweet and cuddly INFJ MyName. Cold, awkward INTJ MyName didn't come out as often around her. Some of that may have been her positive affect on my mood, though.

2.ENTP
Good-Same hot chemistry as with ENTP no. 1, but not as devoloped because we hadn't known each other as long. We also had pretty much the exact same interests (Politics, economics/finance, art house and classic films, chess exc.) so we always had lots to do and talk about. She was also way more physically attracted to me than anyone I've ever met, which made me feel great about myself.

Bad-I also think I maybe acted a little bit around her the same as with ENTP no. 1. She also decided to drop me by just ignoring me and any of my attempts to contact her. This may have been due to her misconstruing something I said over the internet and my accidentaly embarassing her a couple times in public, or her freaking out when the seriousness of our relationship suddenly accelerated when we had basically been glorified FWB's before. Nothing that couldn't of been discussed, but oh well. I found out after the fact(I still haven't deleted her on facebook for some reason) that she's a major pseudo-feminist and that her Fe mainifests itself through really pathetic whining, so maybe I dodged a little bit of a bullet.

I just got into this personality thingy so I have no clue about the guys in the past and I don't want to think about it.

Recently, I just got through dating an ESFP(3w2). He was basically worried about how people would precieve him, no matter if he enjoyed whatever it was or who he was with. If he felt he would get a bad feedback, he was do it in "secret". Possessive and rather party than have a intimate moments with me. Whenever he felt he needed to be "romantic", he would kick in and he would just "set the scene" for sex. On another down side, he was very flirtatious with random women and was totally disrepectful towards our short lived relationship. he was a complete liar and was just an all around asshole.

I didn't notice his wolf in sheep's clothing act until someone very very close to me, showed. then I started to put the pieces together. What a loser!

Chronologically,

ESFP Pros: Extremely energetic, kind and affectionate, very interested in me and other people.
Cons: Constantly needed to be around people and crowds, put off by abstract conversations, had trouble taking anything seriously.

Overall, a very meaningful relationship with a lot of mutual love and respect, but I couldn't keep up with her. We both probably need someone a bit closer to our own personalities.

ISFP Pros: Bonded over many similar interests, physical chemistry, we consistantly communicated really well.
Cons: She was still hung up on an ex, she thought I was unrealistic, not very compassionate.

Short-lived, but fun while it lasted.

ENFP Pros: Always enthusiastic, extremely open and accepting, caused me to be more social.
Cons: Her familiarity and charm with others would make me jealous, constantly tried to make me more like her/her group of friends.

A very agreeable person who I haven't lost any respect for, but the relationship would never have worked. The difference of extroversion to introversion was just too extreme.


Thats about it. Thanks if you bothered to read, I hope you got something out of it.

I'm ENFP.

IXFX: I trampled over him. We were engaged, I broke it off. I would have given him a heart attack eventually. No fire.
ENFP: We were adorable. Wanted the whole Disneyland wedding that never happened. Lived together. Fairy tail romance. Crash and burned. But still best friends almost 20 years later.
ENFJ: Married to 8 years. Suffocated me. Hate his big flares of dramatic emotion. Wanted to treat me like a baby. Ugh.
ISTP: Might have been the love of my life, but remember feeling from the beginning we didn't connect on an intellectual level.
ENTP: More of a fuck buddy, but was absolutely freeing and a blast. Learned a lot and it opened my mind. Awesome.
INTJ: Learned a ton. Great conversations. He was a little bit of an ass and stiff. Loved that he could discuss as opposed to argue.Highly judgmental.
ESFJ: Crazy. Couldn't see himself clearly. Had emotional outbursts. Didn't know how to discuss things calmly. Try to give me a whirlwind romance before he really understood what he wanted. He thought he was my dad or something too. Ugh.
ISTP: Good sex, lacked endurance. No conversations. Did a 180.
ESFP: Lasted about a week tops. Will never do this ever again. Felt projected upon the whole time. He took everything so personal. Drama.
ESTJ: Sort of cool, somewhat of a bully. He hated taking "no" for an answer.

INTP - Lasted 6 months. Basically outcasted by a lot of people who don't understand him. He could be nice to me but he became manipulative, blackmailed me to do things I didn't want to do. Learned a ton about taking care of myself.
INxP - Lasted four years. We connected really well intellectually and he taught me to take risks. But he ran away with my money and cheated on me--and still wanted to be friends! Unbelievable. Left him with no regrets.
ISTJ - Still going strong and we'll celebrate a year together next week. <3 Still makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside :)

Originally Posted by pinkrasputin

I'm ENFP.

IXFX: I trampled over him. We were engaged, I broke it off. I would have given him a heart attack eventually. No fire.
ENFP: We were adorable. Wanted the whole Disneyland wedding that never happened. Lived together. Fairy tail romance. Crash and burned. But still best friends almost 20 years later.
ENFJ: Married to 8 years. Suffocated me. Hate his big flares of dramatic emotion. Wanted to treat me like a baby. Ugh.
ISTP: Might have been the love of my life, but remember feeling from the beginning we didn't connect on an intellectual level.
ENTP: More of a fuck buddy, but was absolutely freeing and a blast. Learned a lot and it opened my mind. Awesome.
INTJ: Learned a ton. Great conversations. He was a little bit of an ass and stiff. Loved that he could discuss as opposed to argue.Highly judgmental.
ESFJ: Crazy. Couldn't see himself clearly. Had emotional outbursts. Didn't know how to discuss things calmly. Try to give me a whirlwind romance before he really understood what he wanted. He thought he was my dad or something too. Ugh.
ISTP: Good sex, lacked endurance. No conversations. Did a 180.
ESFP: Lasted about a week tops. Will never do this ever again. Felt projected upon the whole time. He took everything so personal. Drama.
ESTJ: Sort of cool, somewhat of a bully. He hated taking "no" for an answer.

Wow, I feel like you've dated most of the 16 mbti types! You could be a dating expert on them! :P

Originally Posted by pinkrasputin

ESFP: Lasted about a week tops. Will never do this ever again. Felt projected upon the whole time. He took everything so personal. Drama.

I think this is standard with them...and what do you mean by projected upon?

I must not be ESFP. I tend toward being subdued more than being obnoxious, and I prefer to talk about issues than having hissy fits.

Originally Posted by sparkles

I must not be ESFP. I tend toward being subdued more than being obnoxious, and I prefer to talk about issues than having hissy fits.

You're a more mature ESFP. Immature ESFP's are a sight to behold. I flatly couldn't be in a relationship with one.

Originally Posted by Kyandigaru

I think this is standard with them...and what do you mean by projected upon?

For instance, when he was mad or upset, he'd accuse me of being mad or upset. Very hard to have discussions. Just simply could not talk to him.

Originally Posted by sparkles

I must not be ESFP. I tend toward being subdued more than being obnoxious, and I prefer to talk about issues than having hissy fits.

I have an ESFP best girlfriend too. She doesn't drive me nuts like it does when dating one. But she does avoid issues and they creep up in terrible places later. I can definitely be friends but in the dating world, they are not for me. And understand all my comments are just from an ENFP perspective of who I've dated. They are very subjective. And I have most of these types above as friends. Many of my girlfriends are ENFJ and a very close ESTJ. But this is how those combos have worked for me inside romantic relationships.