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This is a discussion on Do you/have you ever feel disconnected to your physical body and the way you look? within the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers forums, part of the Keirsey Temperament Forums category; Originally Posted by DarwinsBastard I'm 5'7" and overweight, I go to the gym 3-4 times a week to do cardio ...
Well done on cutting out the refined sugar, that's an awesome achievement! :)
Oh yes, definitely! I feel like I'm kind of a small personality (to the outside world, of course ;)) but I'm almost 6 feet tall (although I say 5'11") which just makes me feel more awkward. Everyone says to own my height, that I look like a model, but I don't know, I feel like I don't have a tall personality. That's one of my biggest insecurities. I do feel like my hair and eyes and everything match me though.
I have a hard time being dressed up, too. I am a minimalist when it comes to hair and makeup, and when my friends do me up, it feels like I'm not myself and it really really really bothers me. I know its childish, but I feel like I'm trying to be like the "popular" kids from high school, which I'm not. I try to make my appearance as much a reflection of who I truly am as possible. I wear simple, but pretty clothes and I try to do the same with my makeup. I don't know if its an NF like thing, but I really don't like to stand out because of my appearance (or the car I drive or whatever). I don't like to be ostentatious. I want people to get to know me for who I am. I can't do anything about my height, though. I'm trying to get used to it.
Also, when I see pictures of myself, its rare that I connect that with myself. Sometimes I feel like I have to tell myself "That's me." Its funny to see pictures of me when I was younger too... Maybe its conceited, but I feel like I was really pretty in pictures of me when I was three or four, like this cute little girl in frilly dresses with wispy blonde hair, and I really like that, but because I don't remember what it was like, its hard to connect that with who I am today. I try to look at the pictures and imagine what I was like back then. I ask my mom lots of things about what I was like, and I really like when I am able to remember, or when I'm like "Oh yeah, that's definitely me." As I've gotten older and been able to reflect on the past, I feel like I've gotten a better picture of who I am overall. I kind of like that. (sorry for rambling. =/)
YES OP! You hit the nail on the head!
I tend to forget what I look like and forget that people see a visual version of me and then I get reminded by passing a huge mirror in the shop and then get freaked out that I've been going around looking as I do.
Something I never really thought about but it's strange that I 'forget' that I have a physical presence in the world...or maybe I'm just stupid xD
Oh, and I hear you! I don't think it's dumb at all...maybe it's just because as intuitives, we see the big picture and remember that there are tons of other people in the world, so we think, "Why would someone focus on just me? There are millions of other people out there!"
In all, I'm happy with how I am. Would I get implants if I could afford them? Heck Ya. If I could wake up one day miraculously 4 inches shorter and 40 lbs lighter would I be happier with my body? probably. I've accepted myself for what I am, and try not to dwell. But yes in that world inside my head I don't match up with what actually appears on the outside.
But I just try to modify it to fit what I assume I look like in my head. Never quite works... I feel like I'm missing a beard, maybe?