INFP/ENFJ compatibility

**prufrok** · 01-03-2009 07:45 PM

(Forgive me if this thread is redundant. If it is, I would greatly appreciate being directed to old threads that cover the same topic.)

Anyway, I was wondering what people thought about the compatibility of an INFP and an ENFJ. The reason why I ask this is not because I've met an ENFJ, but because I got to thinking that these types must be very similar.

I know this is not breaking new ground or anything, but the INFP and the ENFJ seem like mirror-types to me. After all, the INFP is a dominant introverted-intuition with auxiliary extroverted-feeling, and the ENFJ is a dominant extroverted-feeling with auxiliary introverted-intuition.

It seems to be that, while being different in terms of introversion/extroversion, these two types show great potential for understanding one another. (And not just these; no doubt could one make up a list of these so called "mirror-types" for all 16.) But is there more to the story than this similarity in dominant and auxiliary function? Are there reasons that these two types may not get along as well as it might seem on paper? I'd love to hear from any INFPs who've dated ENFJs or vice versa, or from anyone who's dated their "mirror-type."

**CJay3113** · 01-03-2009 09:38 PM

I agree with you. I'm a little bit INFP-ish and I like ENFJ's. And you're right the compatibility level is high. I haven't been around ENFJ's, I don't think. If I did, at the time I didn't know what to do with one, lol. I'm still learning about types...

**Bri** · 01-27-2009 10:05 PM

I am close with a few INFPs.. from my experience, I really think it could work, and work well. INFPs tend to be very inward with their emotions, and seeing as ENFJs are the most expressive types, this balances out. It gets even better... the ENFJ wants to inspire, help, and motivate others to learn and also wants to draw out the emotions and thoughts of others. And the INFP, holding emotions inside, would probably be most likely to share with someone who challenges yet encourages, supports, and loves them, ENFJ-style ;) . My INFP friends also inspire me with their sensitivity and even deeper sentiments, and that is intriguing to me and to all ENFJs.

There's a catch, though. ENFJs like to help others, but often when things get clingy in an "I-desperately-need-you-to-survive-in-this-life" way, we tend to lose all sense of F and cut off the relationship or at least get thoroughly overwhelmed. It's not that we've stopped caring; it's that we just can't manage helping that person while helping others and pursuing our own "search of self". And to an INFP, this would be devastating, and yet I can see signs of clinginess in my closest INFP friends (it's different in friendship... romance seems to amplify all those signs).

**Autumn Girl** · 04-02-2009 03:38 AM

Hi

This is the relationship I am currently in, I'm an ENFJ (although I have posted that I am not 100% sure whether I am an E or an I but....) and he is and INFP.

Your description Bri is spot on, my partner tends to soothe me and I motivate him, we have the qualities that the other "lacks"

I am lucky in that he is actually very independant because I agree, if I didnt have time to support and nuture myself and others I wouldnt like it one bit.

**mcgooglian** · 04-02-2009 09:02 AM

ENFJs are evil, run while you still can.

**slowriot** · 04-02-2009 11:17 AM

wow I thought that was the ExTJ's, hmmm

**wisdom** · 04-09-2009 12:08 PM

I might know more than the usual person on this. Looking past any natural attraction, INFPs and ENFJs seem to think they understand each other better than they do and especially what's wrong with the other person. In the spirit of honesty, I don't believe in matching by functions or anything more complicated than INFP and INFP can be a beautiful combination if the values are shared to a high degree.

**Sleepy** · 04-09-2009 12:20 PM

Originally Posted by prufrok

After all, the INFP is a dominant introverted-intuition with auxiliary extroverted-feeling, and the ENFJ is a dominant extroverted-feeling with auxiliary introverted-intuition.
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You got the INFP functions wrong. INFP is dominant introverted feeling and aux. extraverted intuition.

Anyway, have you read the Socionics descriptions of mirror relations (for example INFP-ENFJ)?

Mirror relations between psychological ("personality") types

**lunniey** · 04-18-2009 07:27 AM

I think INFP and ENFJ can be a perfect match. Recently I'm not really and I, so that leaves me as an E...
And I have a bestfriend who is INFP, I'm quite comfort with my relationship with him... because it's totally true about INFP's soothing me and I motivates him. That's what I kinda do...