[lews_t]

So there is this girl I'm in love with. If you asked me to tell about her, I'd give you a whole list of adjectives to describe how awesome she is.
The problem is that I'd describe some of my really good friends like that as well.



I've tried and tried to pinpoint what exactly is so different about this person that makes me feel like this and unfortunately, I don't seem to able to identify it. Have any of you been in this position ? Can you tell what is it, that special something, that makes you feel so strongly about a person ?

[hellonurse]

part of it, for me, is knowing they like me back.

[Caelum]

I know I'm in love when I can't make any sense out of it, on top of which I have no need to. Irrationality to the skies.

[PaintMyNocturneBlue]

wanting to take care of that person; finding that even their flaws are endearing; abandoning logic at times to try to understand how they think/feel... as far as love languages go, gift giving is my lowest.. but I know my SO thinks it is a big deal to give someone a gift, so when I get one from him I make sure to not just express gratitude to him, but to also do it in a somewhat public setting... it's a very awkward thing for me, but I know he loves being acknowledged, so it's worth it.

[faeriegal713]

I'm terrible at listing traits about people (they always seem so generic and to miss the point entirely...) so I really have never been able to pinpoint the difference between a crush and loving someone. Though, perhaps the largest difference is like @hellonurse said, when there's reciprocation. Even if it's not the same kind of love, just knowing that there's something more can make my feelings for a person sky-rocket out of control. It's actually kind of awkward if the person is a friend and doesn't love me "like that."

Usually there has be some sort of mystery and need to learn more about a person as well, which leads to me constantly thinking and wondering about them. It tends to lead to me becoming quite obsessed with the other person, but can't be helped.

Those are the biggest things I can think of right now. I'll add more later if I think of any.

[St Vual]

It's simply the warm and fuzzy feelings you get with someone. Even if they do have more obvious personality flaws, they make me smile. That and when I can't logically do anything with them.

[little infinity]

I think the inability to explain it with words is what makes it love.

[Dreamer]

I've never been in love, but I've felt deep feeling for someone. I know that when I really like them, I think of them constantly, and I act childish and silly. I believe that when I fall in love someday, I will act the same way. I think It's to do with my shyness, because I don't know how to act on it. I think my intelligence drops when I like someone, I don't think properly before I do something

[Razvan]

It's not something you can describe in words, you can only describe the effects that coem from it. I have to disagree partially with @hellonurse, it's not necessarly something that needs reciprocity. You can love somebody without being loved in return, although the most beautiful kind of love is the one that goes both ways. The one that is not will eventually consume you if you let it...it may even destroy you. So if it will initially start as love, ventually it came become an obsession which is not really love anymore.

But anyway, I'd say, what is different between love I feel for a friend and love I feel for somebody special is that that somebody special, through who they are, make me dream of the posibility of a future with them. I can imagine myself in different situations with that person, laughing and loving evey minute of it...or crying but being there for each other. That includes romantic situations, teasing, poking each other and so on. With friends there is less romantic spark. And if it is the kind of love that is healthy and that goes both ways, those dreams will become reality. Most of the times, they don't though....but that doesn't mean in my opinion I did not love them, even for that moment, it jsut means it wasn't meant to happen.

It's like...wanting to be one with that person, to be with them as much as possible. Even with my best friends, those that get me and love me and so on...even with them I still need a lot of time alone and a lot of privacy and wouldn't want to be with them every single day and every single moment. So...it's a feeling.

But of course for this feeling to remain, there needs to be compatibility, humour, teasing and taking care of that feeling, communication, trust, faith hope and so many others...And the more these things come natural, the easier it will be.

[Absurdist]

mainly personality, if their are not personable then there is no way