[matilda]

I've noticed that the people I'm friends with are usually "victims", in that they don't get along well with "just anyone".



People would ask me questions like, "Why are you friends with her?" or "Why do you put up with him?".

Just wondering whether this is an NF trait..

So uhh... what type of people do you gravitate towards?

[Ćerulean]

I've noticed that the people I'm friends with are usually "victims", in that they don't get along well with "just anyone".

People would ask me questions like, "Why are you friends with her?" or "Why do you put up with him?".

Just wondering whether this is an NF trait..

So uhh... what type of people do you gravitate towards?

I think, universally speaking, I have a huge potential to get along with anyone. I show a lot of empathy towards understanding other peoples' behavior but I can easily define the line between people I can get along with and with people I want to hang out with. I think I typically make good first impressions with people and can determine well enough for myself whether I'd want to hang out with them again. So while I generally get along with all types of people, though there are only a select few I bring into my circle. MBTI in particular has helped me identify what types of people (through typing) I enjoy being around the most. So while I may at times limit my friend base to only a few people, I'm open for new things.

[starri]

I can relate on some levels.

Most of my friends don't get along with each other. And a certain group of outgoing people would always muse at why I am friends with certain people they view as outcast or nerds or geeks. Which is good coz I wouldn't blend the groups anyway. The same way I can't put up with the party-hard people all the time, I wouldn't put up with just being friends with the other type all the time. It doesn't irritate me that the outcasts are outcasts if it is by their choice and they are happy in their chosen positions of society.

Like I would totally understand if a friend doesn't want to have social fun coz they got a new comic they want to submerge in, but not if they sit out there in the shade musing at society and wishing to be part of it and embracing the hell out of their ennui and their "differences" that is making them "not normal"... I've had multiple cases of befriending someone by a weird meeting and then introducing them to my other friends. I don't require that person to get along with them but whether they do or don't sadly affects the rate we accelerate in our relationship. If they get along with the group, even slowly; it will be easier to find time to get to know them because they will be included. If they are hated or start to dislike the friends that they were introduced to (bear in mind that I try to pick a group that fits their interest) - then it becomes difficult to make time for them except if they are amazing person, which is very rare considering they hated or were hated by my friends.

[matilda]

I love this site.. :P

[Surreal Breakfast]

I've had many different types of friends, I don't know how to make friends, mostly all my friends I've had just came up to me and started to be friends with me.

[SummoningDark]

I dont make friends easily, however if I happen to have any I tend to be friends with people whom no one else wants to be friends with....they're usually considered to be weird/odd or somewhat batty, but since most people think that of me as well I'd say that's a perfect match.

[Linesky]

I've had this before, yeah. I mostly defend the issue by mentioning the good qualities of those people.

I'm considered 'mature' enough to get myself over those 'odd qualities' those people posses, up to some level. It doesn't mean I flunk on 'other, "more accepted' people though: I'm still into enough versatility to wanna hang out with about everyone who's not a total dickhead or bitch :D

Also, I am considered as partially odd as well xD

[Clairière de Seigle]

I am not somebody who can get along with just anybody in real life. I learned that from basically day one. I guess I'm too different, or too spacey or too something to most people, but then again around most people I'm usually too quiet for them to even have noticed me.

I usually go for the outcast-type of people and I've always had a thing for hanging out more so with guys than with girls. It's probably because I've been a tomboy since I could tie my shoes, and dress myself, and speak up for myself. It basically went this way: Girls my age were into Barbie Dolls and pretend make-up and I was into Hot Wheels and basketball, so naturally I went for guy friends instead of girl friends. I even dressed like a guy because it was more comfortable for me and I didn't wanna feel pretty. I just wanted to be one of the guys.

I will concur with the Victim reference, though as almost every single one of my friends has been a victim of something tragic. I guess in a way I know I can't really help them in the end, but I think that maybe if they have just one more friend it'll be just a little bit better next time anything bad happens.

I'm really bad at keeping in contact with my friends, though. Like, I'll hang out with them one day and then I won't talk to them again for four or five days and that's always just me shooting them a text message. It's like I can't get too close to them or something. Fear of rejection, maybe. Or, maybe I just need to withdrawal after having hung out with them or something.

Anyways, I'm getting off topic so I'll shut up now. lol.

[Kysinor]

I've noticed that the people I'm friends with are usually "victims", in that they don't get along well with "just anyone".

People would ask me questions like, "Why are you friends with her?" or "Why do you put up with him?".

Judging from my past experiences, I'm just about the same.

So uhh... what type of people do you gravitate towards?

No specific criteria. However I have a sort of ability / intuition that tells me "this person is a god damn good person!". Hard to describe, but I think you understand what I mean

[matilda]

I've had this before, yeah. I mostly defend the issue by mentioning the good qualities of those people.

I forgot to add that, yea. When I do that, though, it almost always comes off as a sort of vindication. Like I have to justify my decision; redeem myself, almost, for doing something that I just do.

I am friendly to the person not because she needs more friends. I am not a martyr; I like the person, and that's that.

No specific criteria. However I have a sort of ability / intuition that tells me "this person is a god damn good person!". Hard to describe, but I think you understand what I mean

I dooooo. It's almost as if.. well, yeah. I do.

I especially appreciate honesty and sincerity.

I'm really bad at keeping in contact with my friends, though. Like, I'll hang out with them one day and then I won't talk to them again for four or five days and that's always just me shooting them a text message. It's like I can't get too close to them or something. Fear of rejection, maybe. Or, maybe I just need to withdrawal after having hung out with them or something.

Anyways, I'm getting off topic so I'll shut up now. lol.

This is me, exactly.