[Excelsio]

You know... I find it interesting and frustrating... and I want to vent...

I don't get it... I myself, along with so many other INTPs I see in these forums and in real life absolutely adore NFPs... and in stride, I see thread after thread saying "Oh, INTPs are great", "Oh, I love INTPs", "INTPs are the greatest type ever"... and so on... they are all over the place...

in these threads NFPs are often saying "I wish I knew more INTPs", "where do I meet INTPs", and so on...

my issue is... INTPs are straight forward and to the point when it comes to relationships, once they decide they want to pursue someone, NFPs on the other hand love pursuing something that they don't have... So... once the INTP decides they like someone, and wants to engage them (which took them A LOT to build up the courage to do), the NFP instantly loses interest because they know they can have it... it is frustrating!!!

/rant off

So... here's the deal... I want more NFPs in my life... I love you guys... I have never met an NFP that I have not liked... So... chat with me... I love talking to people on my MSN, and you guys are always a blast... reach out and make friends with your friendly neighborforum INTP!

excelsior_2202@hotmail.com (MSN messanger, and e-mail)

That is all

[jadesea]

Getting bored of people quickly is an ENFP thing. ENFP's and INFP's are similar in that they can figure out a person's personality (thoughts/feelings/attitudes) very quickly, but they're different in that once an ENFP has someone figured out they get bored where an INFP would probably want to bond with someone once they understand them if they like what they see.

That being said I really enjoy the company of INTP's. I love the sharp wit, I love the intelligence, I love the charming reserve, but most of all I love the unpretentiousness (a marked contrast from INTJ's). I know I'm not the only xNFP who feels this way.

Just go start conversations with people who seem interesting to you and you'll find them. We're people just like you.

[OrangeAppled]

Yeah, ENFPs & INFPs are two different creatures. I am not much like any ENFPs I know. In many ways, I can relate way more to the INTP personality.

INFPs don't usually get bored of INTPs - the INTP usually sticks his foot in his mouth (from my experience & hearing others). Check any urge to be argumentative and condescending, show some respect for our values & intelligence, and we'll probably keep you around

That said, I can really like INTPs and have been friends with many. It's a shame some had to be dicks and ruin it.

[Excelsio]

Yeah, ENFPs & INFPs are two different creatures. I am not much like any ENFPs I know. In many ways, I can relate way more to the INTP personality.

INFPs don't usually get bored of INTPs - the INTP usually sticks his foot in his mouth (from my experience & hearing others). Check any urge to be argumentative and condescending, show some respect for our values & intelligence, and we'll probably keep you around

That said, I can really like INTPs and have been friends with many. It's a shame some had to be dicks and ruin it.

Yeah, I knew there was that difference between I/E NFPs in general... The from my perspective, I usually don't really worry abot the I/E prefernce when typing people, mainly because until you are spending personal time with them, it doesn't matter... in most day to day transaction between people, you generally have to fake "E" in western society

I am sorry for generalizing the INFPs in the crowd with the E's with that statement... for me... the parts of the INFP and the ENFP that I really like are the same traits between the 2 types... I love you NFPs for your playfulness, brains, and ability to get me out of my shell.

Anyway... huggles to all of you... I am also ennagram type 9 INTP, so I am a bit better then some of the other INTPs I know personally (I have 4 INTP people in my life, but they are all 5's) at picking up on bodily cues and acting on them... even if it is just to say "sorry for pushing the issue too far" and giving them a hug (I have been trained by my 2 INFJ ex-gf's and my ENFJ best friend)

[WhiteLocust]

the NFP instantly loses interest because they know they can have it... it is frustrating!!!

I hadn't thought about it before but that totally makes sense! :|

[Later Days]

I think we work lovely as friends, but as I've recently learned: ENFP-INTP romantic relationship can often end turbulently and with tears from both parties.

[Excelsio]

I think we work lovely as friends, but as I've recently learned: ENFP-INTP romantic relationship can often end turbulently and with tears from both parties.

Well... the thing with any NT/NF romantic (and any close relationship for that matter) is the ability for both parties to be willing to have meta-conversations, shit hits the fan... people get pissed off... you come back after cooling down and talk about why what each other said caused the reaction it did, through that, you generally figure out what each person intended and everyone is happy (even better when you can have the meta-conversation before someone gets too pissed off...

[Wheelie]

Oh I dunno INTPs arn't the best at expressing their emotions. The ENFP needs a lot of a encouragement and affection. Well just talking from experience. :P

[Wheelie]

ACtually, not to fish for too many compliments. My INTP friend said the same but I didn't ask why she liked NF so much. Would you please share as to why we're the object of your affection? :P

[Catfish]

Aww, yay! I love INTPs! You guys just seem to have a wit and charm that's all your own. One of my longest friendships (twelve years!) is with an INTP. (Actually, I crushed on him a few times over the years…) But anyhow, I'm glad to hear from an INTP who appreciates INFPs as much as I appreciate you guys! :3 *hug*