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Do other introverts hate having their hair cut?

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#1 ·
I went to the hairdressers today and just realised how much I hate it. All the fake hairdressers asking about your day, constantly talking. It's like they can't do their job in silence. I don't mind uttering the polite 'Hello' and 'thankyou' but I just don't want to talk 'about my day', I just want my haircut!

Rant over.

I was just wondering whether it is an introvert thing or whether it annoys people regardless of being an introvert/extrovert.
 
#3 ·
Something about me makes it obvious I don't really want to chat. They chatter a little at the beginning, get the hint and then give me silence. It's nothing personal and I hope the realize that, but what do you talk about? If I have nothing to say, then I will say nothing.
 
#9 ·
it feels as if hairdressers undergo a special course that teaches them to make their customers feel as if they're strapped to an electrocution chair. getting a haircut is small talk hell.
 
#10 ·
Getting my hair cut was my absolute least favorite thing to do as a child. It was just uncomfortable, sitting there under a bright light with the itchy sheet over you having a stranger touch you and nip at you with scissors and such. The whole experience was just always very irritating to me, and it always seemed like it took way longer than it should.

The way the stylists try to make conversation with you the whole time just comes off as overly forced and obnoxious. A few occasions I've had some who just shut up and do their jobs, or don't act like I'm some gigantic asshole for not wanting to constantly engage them in irreverent banter. It's even more awkward when you have an unconventional hairstyle and have to answer the same lame questions over and over and rebuff their offers or suggestions for something new.

This is probably why I get my hair trimmed maybe twice a year, and preferably at home by someone I actually like talking to.
 
#12 ·
i generally just bring a book, do the initial "hi how are you doing" part, and read for the rest of the appointment. i don't think i've ever had a hairdresser interrupt me while i was reading except to ask me to tilt my head in a certain direction.
 
#13 ·
I always liked it. I had a habit of comfortably dosing off in the interim. I hated anyone touching my neck, though. Not the nape, but the anterior. My Achilles' Heel. No-one approaches the neck but me. Conversating's what people do. Why hold it against 'em for being awkward or attempting? I just try to make it all painless, though I also wouldn't mind if some could be comfortable without speaking. They should just start minimal, open-ended convo (was that an oxymoron?). Short 'n sweet

Very little has been as bad car rides with my dad back in the day. Oy... Dammit, it was bloody awful. I imagine that might be how you guys feel 'bout haircuts. Ironically, dad always drove me to haircuts. The hair cut was always better than the drive...
 
#16 ·
doesnt really bother me, but the barber we use is an actual family friend and we have real conversations so that makes a big difference. Maybe try finding a different stylist that you feel more comfortable with or take some classes and cut your own hair.
 
#17 ·
I used to go to this Asian place to get my hair cut and it was basically just "what do you want"
"just a trim"
-Opens book- "so you want it short like that?"
"yea"
And that was it.
And there would be a radio playing 50s music.

Then they 'sold out' and expanded the hair dressers from having a 1 hairdresser capacity to about 3 and they changed the whole place and whatnot.
Last time i got a haircut it was at a slightly better place. You know with the old balls tobacco tins on display and wooden furniture. I find it quite wierd when someone cuts your hair and doesn't talk because then you get a build up of saliva in your mouth. I hate that. I'm not teh greatest conversationalist but it was ok. Talked about earthquakes,rugby and school.
I do admit though, it is sort of intimidating going in there. But that is also countered by the fact you're going in to 'lessen the burden'. You always feel good afterwards because you don't have to worry about your hair any more. No maintenance for 3 or 4 weeks .
 
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#18 ·
The lady who cuts our hair is a lovely person who we have known for years and who actually comes to the house itself rather than us going to a hairdressers, she seems to have a wonderful talent for either talking to me exactly when I dont mind talking or just quietly snipping away when im in a more reflective mood.

We're really very lucky when I think about it.
 
#19 ·
Just wanted to add a little bit more to this post, in the back of mind if I'm in a chatty room, I always worry about saying something to offend the hair dresser, so a lot of the time I keep it short and polite. Once I went into a haircuttery about 20 minutes early and they said something like the register was closed or something and they couldn't take anymore people. I walked away (this was in the mall by the way) and was thinking this is ridiculous they close at 9, it wasn't even 8:45 yet. Anyway, long story short, I went back in to ask them to please take me and they gave me a horrible haircut lol. But I did discover you can go back into the barber shop and ask for them to fix it up. Which I did by the way, at a different store but same company, and they did a great job! I guess the point of my story is to be nice the hairdresser cause you never know if they'll give you a bad haircut or "accidently" poke you with the scissors. Lol. Jk. :p
 
#22 ·
Haha! True, true. I doubt a lot of hairdressers would ACTUALLY do it. Just me imagining worst case scenario. I got that same thing floating around in my mind when I go out to resteraunt. Just after seeing that movie "waiting", oh god I would never want that to happen to me lol.
 
#24 ·
I also hate going to the hairdresser partly because they ask so many personal questions and they often hit on topics I"m embarrassed about (like that I don't/can't work) and topics that are very complicated/long stories.
 
#25 ·
For me, it is not like I do not mind getting my haircut but it is the annoying small talk that they seem to be a perk of the job. I haven't had a haircut in about nine months and my hair just seems to have stopped growing. A little bit annoying with the fringe but hey, I have saved $30 from getting no haircut. If my hair does get annoying or maybe for summer, I will get it cut and just nod off in the chair. They know what I want. I am just predictable.
 
#31 ·
the annoying small talk that they seem to be a perk of the job. .
Hahaha,i thought that before.
Small talks fine for me.But they usually want to talk about topics,they have no idea.Quite annoying.Yet i speak and ignore all my knowledge,go for sterotypes or disguse myself under the mask of SJ for fun.(Tune with his ideas/beliefs and press his buttons-result is hilarious. undercutting the price/order me sth. Manipulative xD-If i stand his ignorance and torment,then i get sth in return(my revenge style )

i just can't stand orders. Move your head down,left,right .Pusing my head to down damn! .I imagined best punishment in hell for me,sitting on the barber shop's chair forever. XD
 
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