So overall, in general I always used to have the perception that feelers cared a lot about how other people felt, and that thinkers kind of brushed it off. It seemed like feelers were generally more sensitive, so they were also more likely to pick up on other people's feelings, and also tended to try not to hurt others' feelings as much. After all, it seemed like that was the vibe I got when reading about T vs. F in MBTI books...that thinkers made decisions based on what was most logical, and feelers made them based on relationships. It seems like taking people's feelings into account fit much more along the lines of relationships.
But the more I've thought about it the more I've realized this isn't really true. The most recent example is how I recently visited an ESTJ friend of mine. He seems extremely attuned to people's feelings and always likes to make people feel comfortable. He's very open minded about people and seems to be able to get along with everyone. However, at the same time, he's also very honest and straightforward, and I can tell that he makes decisions logically. He's tested as ESTJ, but he only got 10% thinking, so he seemed to be pretty close to the borderline. Overall, I get the impression that he's a thinker, but he has a very strongly developed feeling side.
On the other hand, I've read a lot of posts on PerC about thinkers describing feelers who don't seem to take others' thoughts and feelings into consideration.
Now, I think a lot of this has to deal with S vs. N too...I've noticed that NTs seem to hurt my feelings (almost always unintentionally) way more than STs do. I'm starting to think that the STs I've encountered are just much more aware of things like that...maybe they pick up on body language or other sensory things like that.
So I guess I'm just wondering how thinking vs. feeling affects how in tune with other people's emotions one is. I'm starting to get the impression that in itself it doesn't make much of a difference...that generally, there are considerate people and inconsiderate people of all types, and that some people just care more about others' emotions than others.
So what do you guys think?