[Doom]

- Call me out on being defensive just from responding, nothing I hate more than somebody insulting me then I give a response about how stupid they are only to get told I'm being sensitive/defensive or....



- "U MAD" "NO U" or any of those types of responses, I'm not mad just annoyed with your stupidity and relying on such a childish meme.

- Announce an assumption about me then disregarding everything I say and keep believing your false conclusion (why would I lie about something like that? Oh you think I care what you think of me as an individual?).

- Calling something people regard as "emotional" as being pretentious.

- Flaunting your superiority complex over something that's not worth being proud of.

- Mentioning that I'm obsessive, It's called being passionate and I like _______, DEAL WITH IT!

[Dear Sigmund]

What ever it is they say, reply; "It doesn't make sense"

[teddy564339]

- Insist that people are really annoyed by those pink teddy bears.

Even though my teddy in my avatar isn't pink, that kind of mentality isn't just annoying to me, it's soul crushing.

[unico]

Telling them ,"why are you crying? crying doesn't solve anything". Be ready to get slapped by that.

Based on a true story

I had a gynecologist tell me she "couldn't talk to me" because I was crying (after she told me my sexual dysfunction was all in my head).

Ways to annoy a feeler, from my perspective:
-Insulting their intelligence and letting them know they aren't "intelligent enough" just because they value more than just plain intellect and logical reasoning.
-Insulting their tastes.
-Being insensitive in how you give information when it would be easy to be more diplomatic and compassionate
-Saying the feeler is "too sensitive" or "too irrational"
-Insulting their values and trying to argue why they are wrong

[snail]

Hmm, well, I think these go beyond mere annoyance, into the realm of "how to traumatize a feeler," but here goes:
(These are all things I have experienced.)


Accuse them of faking, being immature, or being manipulative when they show signs of emotional distress.

Disrespect their emotional boundaries by continuing to do whatever made them cry.

Blame them for being affected.

Attempt to "desensitize" them using "tough love."

Suggest that they get over themselves or stop being a burden when they come to you for emotional support.

Call them drama queens for responding negatively to emotional abuse.

Trample their values, then accuse them of overreacting or being defensive.

Use the word "whiner" to refer to someone who needs comforting.

Tell them you only respect their feelings when those feelings seem rational to you.

Punish them for having panic attacks.

Tell them "You are deciding to be hurt. Nobody else is responsible for your feelings."

Use victim-blaming cliches like "Sticks and stones may break your bones but words can never hurt you," to devalue their emotional reality because it is not something tangible.